Mums having a nervous breakdown, what would you do?

Pee

I would make a commitment to phone her regularly. Every day if you can, but a commitment that you can keep so she knows when you will call. It may be that once a week will be better. For whatever reasons, in the past you have not been consistently there for her and it will take some time for her to trust you again.

Since your other commitmenmts mean that you cannot visit, there is nothing else that you can do.

ameliarate

What normally happens when she has these "episodes"? Does she get help or do the resolve by themselves?

Greener_Grass

Pee wrote: »

For whatever reasons, in the past you have not been consistently there for her and it will take some time for her to trust you again.

The issue with her not talking to me since new year is hers not mine, She came to stay at my house and left in the middle of the night without telling me and has not spoke to me since this so has never told me why she did this or what i've supposed to have done wrong. My whole life I have been her rock, supporting her and listening to her problems for hours almost every night. I don't think i have any trust to regain, I have done nothing wrong, She chose not to speak to me, not the other way round.

When she usually has these episodes she has been given medical treatment in the past for them but she has also had times where she has had no medical treatment and has pulled through the other side eventually.

Person_one

Why don't you speak to Mind:

http://www.mind.org.uk/help

They are experts at accessing services and helping people in your position.

Tia_24

Oh Greener Grass, what must you be feeling? My mum had a similar experience last year and I know exactly what you mean, just from a few words you can gauge what "condition" they're in. Luckily I live quite near her, I couldnt image what I would have felt like if I'd been so far away from her.

No advice really, just wanted to send you some support. Also the suggestions for calling her GP are excellent, I did this about my mum last year and they were helpful. :A

ameliarate

Greener_Grass wrote: »

The issue with her not talking to me since new year is hers not mine, She came to stay at my house and left in the middle of the night without telling me and has not spoke to me since this so has never told me why she did this or what i've supposed to have done wrong. My whole life I have been her rock, supporting her and listening to her problems for hours almost every night. I don't think i have any trust to regain, I have done nothing wrong, She chose not to speak to me, not the other way round.

When she usually has these episodes she has been given medical treatment in the past for them but she has also had times where she has had no medical treatment and has pulled through the other side eventually.

does she not have any friends that you can contact, does she have a diagnosis? Personally I would agree with those posters who say you should try to keep ringing her.

Greener_Grass

Things have gone from bad to worse. Mum has gone missing with this 17 year old who seems to be taking complete advantage of her. She left a note and some flowers and perfume outside my dads house at some point in the early hours this morning telling him where her will was and to tell me and my brother she loves us. Very worrying stuff. They have called the police as it would appear she is in great danger of harming herself. I have given the police her mobile number so they can locate her by her phone signal.

I am worried sick and so scared I am going to get a knock on the door telling me something has happened to her

Edit to add - i tried to speak to her GP yesterday after finally finding out which surgery she was at on thursday night. Her doctor was on a half day (this was 10am!) and she would not be back till monday. The receptionist advised she would ask her to phone me on monday although they don't normally do that??!! Noone seems to be of any help. Everywhere tellls you the GP is the person to speak to but they do not care. If anything happens to my mum I am going to kick up a huge stink with about thier negligence.

belfastgirl23

Oh dear GG I don't have anything to say except I'm so sorry to hear this and will be thinking of you and your family. At least by now presumably your mum is officially a missing person and when she is found she will get the help you have known she needs. Please do keep posting and let us know how things are...

purple12

If you think she is being taken advantage of and is vulnerable, report to the local social services. They are obliged to pick up on it as a safeguarding (adult protection) issue. They can chase the GP.

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