Does it bother you if people forget your birthday?

Treacly

princessleah_ wrote: »

I always make an effort to remember people's birthdays so it does grate on me if people don't remember.

At the risk of sounding a bit perverse - it can be a bit irritating for those of us who don't bother with birthdays - our own or other people's - to suddenly realise we have an obligation to sensitive types to remember their 'big day'. If someone sends me a birthday card, I'll confess that my first reaction is annoyance at the thought that I've got to a)find out when their birthday is, b)remember it, c)send a card. Mind you, I'm the same with Christmas too - I haven't sent any cards or bought any presents for anyone except OH for years now. Yes, I know I sound autistic.

Dee123_2

Such a diverse reaction. I care very much but I realise it's the spoilt child in me. I do think, though, that there are some of us who never ask for attention throughout the year, so just like to sit back and know people appreciate us on our one day of the year.

Could I just throw in another question? I wasn't very happy that very close friend had not given me a card (despite seeing them every day) and her response when I (casually) brought it up was if she didn't care, she wouldn't have sent me a text message on my birthday.

Ignoring the fact that I pushed the boat out for her birthday (organising a party and group present), is it me? Am I old? Does a text message count as a birthday card now?

bubblybee

About 4 years ago (i'm 30 now) most of my closest friends forgot... My birthday is new year's and so postage is also awkward and what with Christmas. So on this particular occasion my closest friends got a long email from me saying how I hate my birthday as everyone forgets! Most people now remember! I'm not a saint and don't remember everyone's all the time and now I've come to the conclusion that most people are so busy all the time I'm grateful if anyone manages to organise themselves to get post to me by the day!

jo101_2

Hi

I always make a point to remember friends and families birthdays, however my brother never remembers mine or my oH's birthday, this doesn't bother me too much, but the fact the he never bothers to even send a card or text for my childrens birthdays grates on my nerves. So, I have now decided not to bother with his birthday but will send cards for his kids.

Jo

gwhizz75

I get annoyed if close friends or family forget sometimes, I would expect a text at least from the people closest to me. My brother is the worst, he never sends a card/gift until at least a week after my birthday, and what annoys me the most is that he normally knows when my birthday is (my parents ring to remind him) but just can't be bothered to go to the post office!

I have to admit though, sometimes I will be thinking for days before someone's birthday - "must remember to send them a message/call them" then on the day I just totally forget because I have been distracted. Sometimes I have even went to see my mum, specifically to say happy birthday and then forgot all about it until I've been at her house for half an hour or seen all the cards in the living room! It is so easy for these things to slip people's minds so I understand when people send belated messages/cards.

elaina79

What upsets me the most is people remembering its my birthday but not getting me anything. Last year for my 30th I got 1 card from my parents and thats it. Then logging onto facebook and for most of that year seeing peoples pictures of them going out celebrating. Thats what upsets me the most.

pigpen

It is impossible to forget mine.. Boxing Day.. so i know if family/friends do not say happy birthday it is because they couldn't care less.. fair enough really. I send my siblings a text or fb message on their birthdays but we ar eall grown up and doing something seems unimportant.

That said I have NEVER been out for a drink or a meal on my birthday.

I had hoped XH would have the children this christmas so I could go out.. but he is just a tool and wouldn't.. He went out for his b'day though!!!

I got 1 birthday card too.. from one of the ladies on the flylady thread.. not one member of my family got me one.. but I don't ever buy cards either

elsien

I was slightly baffled when my brother forgot my birthday, given that we're triplets :rotfl:- not bothered about not getting a prezzy as we've never done that, but he went out on the razz so I know he celebrated his own.
To go off topic slightly, any other multiple births out there, do you give each other presents? It always seemed a bit pointless to us - here's your's now where's mine. I'd be interested to see what the rest of you do.