Does it bother you if people forget your birthday?

gabyjane

Well yesterday i got a pressie from my sister, my hubby, my dd, sis in law and 2 friends.
Considering i know quite a few people and consider some of them to be good friends i was (i dont know why) suprised that i didnt get a happy birthday call/text.
Every year i say it wont bother me and although this year iv'e resided to the fact i really am past caring it has made me think really!

My very good friend cancelled and i haven't heard a thing..she was ill to be fair but a cold and would it have been too hard to just send a quick text?i see she has been on Fb so maybe a message on there?

Another friend who has cancelled for my meal tonight nothing..

Went out with my own brother last night and he said nothing at all..maybe he thinks as we are out tonight it is today but after 31 years you would think he would kinda know by now!

The one person who does grate on me is dh's brother..he will send texts, call etc when it is his his, his gf or their numerous kids b-days and we are supposed to go running up there like we always do/have and it annoys me..his gf is glued to FB so you think she would have seen and put something but nope..for some reason i got a few messages sent as pm's from friends so some did remember but?!

So does it really make you think about who cares about you at the end of the day it is it just 1 day?

SkintGypsy

It doesn't bother me in the slightest, and for those that remember mine I tend to have an agreement that we will not buy gifts. If I get a card, it appreciate it, but I wouldn't think twice about it if I didn't. It takes all my energy and thought to work full time and look after my family, so remembering kids birthdays of my nieces and godchildren is the most I can hope to achieve besides.

Hopefully people understand that, but if not then I care not. Birthdays are only special when you are little IMO.

Counting_Pennies_2

For me it is nice if people remember, but I wouldn't be distraught if they don't.

I try very hard to remember cards for people in my diary, but sometimes life gets too crazy and I forget.

I think as long as those closest to you remember or belatedly wish you well for the birthday that is the important thing.

In terms of friends, those in groups, we tend to advertise the fact of a birthday through arranging a meal out to celebrate it. That is a sure way to be remembered.

Rikki

It doesn't bother me. I have never really celebrated my birthday and they just come and go. I have cards from family and a couple of friends and that's enough for me. Many people don't even know when my birthday is, my choice.
BUT I do make sure I don't forget the birthdays of those friend who really make a big thing about their big day.

Errata

It wouldn't bother me. Birthday cards sent round in my family can be anything up to a month early, or a month late or not appear at all. My birthday may be significant to me, but it certainly isn't in the top thousand important things in the lives of my friends.

WolfSong2000

My best friend often forgets my birthday, but I've known her for donkey's years and she's generally a forgetful person anyhow, so it doesn't bother me.

I have other university friends who I have known for years who have also forgotten in the past and this does annoy me, namely as I make the effort to remember and recognise their birthday with a gift, but on the occasions they do remember they'll just club together and buy me a bottle of booze (despite the fact I hardly ever drink...last bottle they got 2 years ago is still sitting there unfinished) or they ignore it all together. Last year, despite the fact I lived with 3 of them, I never got any acknowledgement.

Anyhow, I guess for me it depends on the friend and their intent...I'll let it slide for some, but not for others.

foxy-roxy

wow, can't believe most people are not bothered, i would be gutted.
I think it's because birthdays along with christmas were a big deal when i was a child and it has stuck with me.
So yeah i would be fuming if friends/family forgot.

SailorSam

It's different for kids but i don't think birthdays matter as you grow up.
Wouldn't bother me in the least if people forgot.

loopy_lass

nope, i dont think im THAT important

thorsoak

It's rather like Mothers Day or Valentines Day - if I'm only thought about on those particular days - well don't bother!

Yes, its nice to receive a couple of cards and phone calls - but after all, it's only another day!

nickyhutch

I'm not fussed about presents, but close family I would expect a call and a card - that's what we do in our family. Present for Mum, Dad, Sis, Brothers and kids too. I'd be upset if my sister or mum or dad didn't call me, and I make sure I do the same for them.

Happy Birthday gabyjane!