Does it bother you if people forget your birthday?

amandada

It doesn't bother me, especially since having my daughter on my own birthday almost 13 years ago I tend to forget myself!

This year however it's the big 40 so no one's allowed to forget!

Indie_Kid

It doesn't bother me. This is coming from someone who forgets her brothers' birthday, her mums' birthday (probably wouldn't be so bad if dads' wasn't the day before!:rotfl:) and a friends' birthday.

I've remembered the friends' birthday once and I've know him for just under 7 years.:o I think he's forgotten mine once or twice.

Primrose

It's nice to be remembered but considering what busy lives people live these days, not everybody is sufficiently well organised. However I realise that it does also send a sort of message that "you're not important enough in me life for my to remember" which can be a little hurtful if you're sensitive about these things.

I remember far more birthdays of other people than people remember mine but I think that's because I've always lived a busy life and run a computerised diary which throws up anniversary/birthday reminders for me every year. Every month I check it through to find when birthdays are and pencil in reminders to myself three days in advice to send a card or e-mail.

And whenever somebody I know mentions it's their birthday, I try to make a mental note for the diary for future years. People get very chuffed when they don't know you terribly well but still remember their birthday, especially if closer members of their circle have forgotten.

sparrer

Many Happy Returns gabyjane :j:T:beer::T:j


I'm with foxy-roxy. To me it DOES matter and don't understand people who say they always remember others but aren't bothered if they themselves are forgotten. Then why give others a card/gift if you don't consider birthdays are so important?

Unlike loopy_lass I am the most important person in my life but certainly don't expect anyone else to think so. I would hope they are to themselves, but that's no reason to not have feelings for others. My family and friends never forget each others special day so yes, I'd feel very hurt if I didn't get some acknowledgmen

Kay_Peel

I have extreme views about the protocols of recognising birthdays!

At least my friends and family know my thoughts on the subject and can just accept it.

Birthdays are for children. Children get a present until they go to secondary school and then they just get a card until they reach the age of 18.

Except for my close family, no-one get a birthday card once they become an adult. If they have a special birthday and invite me to a party, I will bring a gift - but otherwise I don't acknowledge that they've got a year older. Why should I?

Why should grown men and women be so childish about the fact that I appear to have forgotten that they were born on that day? The big babies! :rotfl:I haven't forgotten. I just don't send a card. End of.

I can't tell you how liberating it is. :cool:

Ladyhawk

I find it easy to remember dates so I tend to always at least send a text, or an email. Closer friends and family get gifts.

I like to make a bit of fuss on my birthday. I know it is just another day for anyone else, but it is important to me. And if it is important to me then it should be important to close friends and family. Colleagues and the wider circle of friends? Nah, though it is nice when they remember.

PS HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP!!

starbump

Birthdays are for kids. It would upset/annoy me if people forgot my kids' birthdays. I'm not bothered about my own birthday - would rather not get older!

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Ladyhawk wrote: »

PS HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP!!

Nearly forgot - my bad. Happy belated for yesterday, OP.

Curious_George_2

OP - yes, it annoys me every year
I dont particulalrly like my birthday anymore because it comes and goes with very little change to a normal day, which would be fine if it were the same for everybody but it isnt...
in one of my little groups of friends there have been plans already for a big birthday do for one of the group, her day isnt til the end of april and it isnt a big number birthday but we are all expected to make a fuss, chip in for a limo etc
and what did i get for my birthday? nothing...not even a card

i dont say anything but eventually someone has to notice that i havent had a birthday in the time they have known me?! lol

yes im an adult and no it probably shouldnt bother me but everyone i know gets at least a bit of fuss...my birthday is so close to christmas and gets bypassed every year its almost as if i dont have one.

call it jealousy or whatever you want but where is the fairness in one of the family getting a big 30th surprise birthday party and me getting a blender??!!!

Butterfliesarepretty

I buy my own birthday presents for ME!:beer:
My parents don't really bother even with a card. My daughter is 11 and she is my only child. I never forget hers and not even when she is adult cause she is my only daughter. My sister and brother I used to get cards and presents but I hardly bother now because they don't bother either

My other friend I always get her a present and she always gets me something nice.

Its the thought that counts.