Thinking of getting social services involved?

lepetit

We saw the headteacher today who confirmed to us that the little one is really gunning for this and that his mind is made up so it is great to know for our own peace of mind and to quiet all the doubters that we aren't pulling him into something he doesn't want and that he wants this as much as us.
Headteacher was really amazing as well, said she would be backing us also as she sees this is best for the LO that's all they care about so she is willing to support us any way she can.
She is going to try to speak to his mother tomorrow but also said that from what she knows of his mother (they have spoken several times before about stuff like this in the past) we will end up in court because his mother won't let it go!
So that's a bit scarey and we need to know where to start with all that really.

daska

sounds like you need the speedster and families need fathers

gorgeouslatinrose

I have no advice Im afraid, but just want to wish you luck and that you get the result you deserve. Now the headteacher is on your side, and the child went and spoke to him on his own accord, that has to help your case in some way or another.

speedster

righto.

this is a tricky one, because of his age. 10.5 is a very grey age. old enough to be heard, but not old enough to be classed as "gillick competent"

i think, that your OH and his son need seriously to sit down and discuss a change of residence.

if he is seriously serious about it then i would strongly advise going straight for a residency order application. file it and get a macenzie friend to help. (a fraction of the cost of a solicitor)

caffcass will get involved and at that age, he will be heard and his wishes will carry a lot of weight with their report.

all this will hinge on just how hellbent he is on coming to live with you. if he isn't serious, he'll be sussed and you will lose.

if you need any help, just PM me and i'll do my best.

lepetit

He's very serious, never seen him so serious!
His headteacher confirmed this to us, she very much pro this also and has also said that if he talks to the court official like he talked to her he will get what he wants.

speedster

i would look into going for residency.

if he is adamant, at this age, they should listen to his wishes. no gaurantees though. the courts go by the children act and are bound to act in the best interests of the child.

i'd look into joining FNF and DADSUK and seek out a good macenzie friend.

this site is good, but the real experts in this field are not here.

paulofessex

Suprised no one has mentioned ParentLine Plus for advice and support.

emsywoo123

lepetit wrote: »

We saw the headteacher today who confirmed to us that the little one is really gunning for this and that his mind is made up so it is great to know for our own peace of mind and to quiet all the doubters that we aren't pulling him into something he doesn't want and that he wants this as much as us.
Headteacher was really amazing as well, said she would be backing us also as she sees this is best for the LO that's all they care about so she is willing to support us any way she can.
She is going to try to speak to his mother tomorrow but also said that from what she knows of his mother (they have spoken several times before about stuff like this in the past) we will end up in court because his mother won't let it go!
So that's a bit scarey and we need to know where to start with all that really.

Hi I have not read all of your threads and do not know the ins and outs of the case, but thisw part of the sentence really stood out for me.
Won't let what go?

lepetit

She'd never ever of her own will let the LO have what he wants because that would make my fiance happy something she has always strived to do the opposite of no matter what the cost to the LO.

lepetit

Hi,
Just an update. After the amazing chat with his headteacher, went sent his mother a letter stating our intentions but if she wanted to keep this amicable to reply positively about joint residency. The received the letter on Friday, the LO was with us Friday and Sat till the evening.
We have just seen him for a bit and apparantly she had a huge talk with him on Sunday making him feel really guilty and crying at him about it saying that if she agreed to joint residency my fiance he would take the LO away from her completely?? As if that makes sense??
Her husband waded in also which the LO was really angry about, basically she has made the last few days very hard on him, credit to him her manipulation hasn't changed his mind one bit but is wearing on him and he is finding it upsetting that he has no support at her home.
Just got very teary saying goodbye to his dad.
My blood is boiling that this woman thinks this is acceptable behaviour!! - I feel so scared for him having to be with her for the next two days with her continuing this - we have told him we are only a phone call away but it's not enough for us. What can we do??