Lie-ins and children

[Deleted User]

Generally DH and I take it in turns over the weekend to have a lie in and get up with the children. Earlier DH said to me, do you want to do tomorrow (saturday) and I'll do sunday. I agreed but said I'd like to be out the door by 10am as we are planning to go out for the day.

He then gets funny with me and when I push it says I dont tell you what time to get up and try to keep the kids away so you can lie in. In agreement he does and i try to do the same but once 9am comes round, we are all dressed and reaady to do something. I suggested to him it would be good if he was up by 9ish, so we could make the most of the day. To me that is till a lie in, admittedly not till gone 11am like it used to be before children, but with kids i feel that is stilll good.

He's now huffy and scrubbing the hob in displeasure.

Its not even as if our kids our very early risers, its usually between 7-7.30 sometimes 8am or longer at weekends, so i really don't see the problem.

Or should I agree to longer lie ins? I feel that the weekends would be wasted if we both did that though and inevitably i wouldn't lie in that long as i'd want to do things.

Am I being unreasonable, he also has every other sunday "off dad duty" to go and do boyz toyz (scammells and trains).

I'm not looking to slate him, he's a good man but just somestimes our opinions differ and i just assume i'm right and he's wrong, because i'm female.

jackieglasgow

Don't ask me! My kids are 7 and 10 and I still haven't solved this one!! It's on a par with those "who's had the least sleep" fights you have when they're babies! (Although if he gets a "day off" once a fortnight I reckon he's got a cheek!)

poet123

Personally, a lie in is whenever you wake up, not being tied to a certain time as to me that negates the spirit of the thing.

[Deleted User]

That would be gone 10am for him. To be fair on his boyz toyz day, that his also his lie in day, so its his choice to stay in bed or get up and go get filthy.

clairehi

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He's now huffy and scrubbing the hob in displeasure.

Well at least he's scrubbing the hob! Mine would be sulking on his laptop!:rotfl:

jackomdj

I think it depends upon what you need to do the rest of the day. Do you have plans Sunday? If you want to get up & out on Sat why not suggest he has Sunday as his lie in?

My OH does boys stuff some weekends, motor or mountain bikes. The day he does that is his lie in day so I don't miss out on mine.

Poet I disagree, for us a lie in is longer than if you all got up together. It could be an hour (children up at 8 lie in till 9) or it could be 4 (if the children are up at 6 & lie in is till 10). Usually the adult who is up wants the other one up (as we enjoy spending time together) & I usually give it till 9:30 & I am shouting up the stairs that there is a coffee ready for him.

feelinggood_2

poet123 wrote: »

Personally, a lie in is whenever you wake up, not being tied to a certain time as to me that negates the spirit of the thing.

I agree. No matter what the time limit is, if there is a limit, then a lie in isn't as enjoyable.

kegg_2

just swap days so he has sunday and can lie in to when he wants

[Deleted User]

Claire, i cooked, so it was his turn to do the kitchen!!

I just don't want weekends wasted and its hard to keep kids entertained when they've got to be downstairs and quiet.

Whilst lie ins are nice, i think it should be accepted to a point when you choose to have kids your life changes. 9am ish to me is still a lie in, i think he's usually dozing by that point anyway, just trying to get his butt out of bed.

suppose whilst i am having the moan, on his lie in, kids are breakfasted, dressed, kitchen cleared from breakfast and if going out preparations made, on my lie in, kids are breakfasted. I guess i can't sit and see all this stuff around me that needs doing and he can.

Morgan_Ree

I'm sorry but I'm with your husband on this one

Being told he has to get up at a certain time is not a lay in. He should be able to get up when he's ready to

Why cant you just swap days so he gets his lay in on Sunday?

ETA

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Whilst lie ins are nice, i think it should be accepted to a point when you choose to have kids your life changes. 9am ish to me is still a lie in

LOL poor bloke
Just because you think 9ish is a good lay in doesn't mean he has to agree!

feelinggood_2

I found it difficult to 'allow' my OHs mega lie ins, but find that now I'm out and about doing more things myself, I don't feel as big a need for him to get up and entertain me. Can you and the kids not go out while he lies in?