Advice on Child Maintenance please!

kelloggs36

Yes, mine did the same!! Tried to deny he was DD's father. Now that she is 21, all of a sudden, despite not seeing her for the past 10 years, he wants to be father of the year!!!

DUTR

bdt1 wrote: »

My ex hubs also wanted a DNA test when CSA got involved in our case, very strange, as after all we had/were married, there was no mention of adultery on my part in divorce documentation, he was named on irth certificates and had even signed solicitor documents during divorce stating he was father of ds(1) and ds(2). When he found out he had to pay for the DNA test, he never bothered, and nearly 18 yrs on, hasn't mentioned it since - what a plonker just trying to string things along, as your ex it seems! What a pratt!!!

You only have to look at MonicaJ thread to see that anybody having to pay that has the slightest doubt for whatever reason, should play by the rules , the slight cost of the test can save a lot of heartache later on. It is the NRPs right under certain circumstances to request a test if the PWC has nothing to lose but lots to gain, I can't see why there should be any objection to the tests. The rules work for both parties. :A

missmontana

bdt1 wrote: »

My ex hubs also wanted a DNA test when CSA got involved in our case, very strange, as after all we had/were married, there was no mention of adultery on my part in divorce documentation, he was named on irth certificates and had even signed solicitor documents during divorce stating he was father of ds(1) and ds(2). When he found out he had to pay for the DNA test, he never bothered, and nearly 18 yrs on, hasn't mentioned it since - what a plonker just trying to string things along, as your ex it seems! What a pratt!!!

This is what makes me laugh cos he's been telling me he's only just breaking even with over time etc, yet he has a couple of hundred quid to chuck at a dna test all of a sudden.
After reading the posts last night, I'm gonna let him have it, I have nothing to worry about and hopefully it will shame him into submission, who knows, maybe I'll even get an apology after the insults that were thrown at me yesterday!

kelloggs36

You have absolutely nothing to lose - the questions the CSA ask are quite intrusive eg did you have sexual intercourse so many weeks before or after supposed conception? Did you have any more sexual partners etc. Don't be embarrassed, just answer them honestly and he will be the loser in the end as he will have to cough up for DNA test AND maintenance. Good luck.

Loopy_Girl

kelloggs36 wrote: »

You have absolutely nothing to lose - the questions the CSA ask are quite intrusive eg did you have sexual intercourse so many weeks before or after supposed conception? Did you have any more sexual partners etc. .

I never got any questions like that....I just got told what he had said on the MEF (which he denied later and called the CSA liars when he phoned later that day and I challenged him!!!) and then I was told to wait for all the DNA bumpf to come through....I never got asked about my bonking shenanigans at all!!:eek:

Blonde_Bint

lol loopygirl you make me laugh:D.

But yes these dna tests can cause lots of trouble but I just think, get it done for the benefit of both parties thats one less chunck of mud to be slung, he cant chuck it when he wants to needle her just because its a weapon currently at his disposal and she doesnt have to sit there listening to it time after time:) so in summing up its a good thing to do imo:)

Pimpslider

I have been in a similar scenario.

I split with my sons mother when he was just over a year (never married). We both verbally agreed for me to pay her cash every month. If you go through the CSA then not all of the money 'YOU' pay in goes to 'YOUR' child. There is nothing wrong or illegal about getting your maintainance money in cash, as long as you declare it as it effects your benefits.

The amount he gives you depends on alot of things, such as; earnings, nights he has the child, number of children in his houshold etc.

I fought as much as I could to obtain a Parental Responsibility Agreement. She would not sign it as she had no idea what it was. She thought it was something to do with me trying to get custody, which it wasn't. There are certain points like having the authority to say your child can have medical treatment which I felt were very important. She eventually signed it after I paid off over £300 of bills for her!

DX2

Pimpslider wrote: »

I have been in a similar scenario.

I split with my sons mother when he was just over a year (never married). We both verbally agreed for me to pay her cash every month. If you go through the CSA then not all of the money 'YOU' pay in goes to 'YOUR' child. There is nothing wrong or illegal about getting your maintainance money in cash, as long as you declare it as it effects your benefits.

Part in bold yes it does.

Pimpslider

Does it? You sure? I called up the CSA a few years back when things were a bit 'stressy' and they said that she would only get a percentage of it. The rest goes into a big bucket for people who don't get maintainance payments.

E.G, I pay the CSA £150, then she gets £120 of it, and £30 goes to the goverment/CSA fund what have you.

I've never gone through the CSA but that is what I was definately told on the phone.

kelloggs36

That is absolute rubbish. If the NRP for another PWC doesn't pay then that PWC gets NOTHING! If the PWC was on benefits and arrears are due for that period, then money is paid off to offset benefits paid for by the taxpayer. If PWC never on benefits then ALL money received by CSA goes to the PWC.