Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice

Anglea

Hi

FR I hope you had a good time

I've finally caught up with lots of to do's and will be getting a call from you know who much later on. Those calls of ours always seem to be at ungodly hours. Luckily I had a nap earlier.

How is everyone else?

Frogletina

Anglea wrote: »

FR I hope you had a good time

It was a lovely day

We went to the art gallery where my favourite paintings are the pre-raphaelites. Then I bought a book 'Myth and Romance' The art of J W Waterhouse. It has some poems which go with some of the paintings.

Later we had lunch at Selfridges, I had a Thai Green Curry at the noodle bar. Then I bought myself some Amaretto, but price was lower than before - I need to check the receipts as it seemed strange.

Home again to change and go out for my birthday tea. Had some lovely presents - amongst them a Cath Kidston bag, books, a purse and a bottle of Martini

CompletelyLost

Happy birthday for yesterday, Frogletina. It sounds like you had a lovely day I LOVE Cath Kidston prints.

I tried to make one of the dreaded phonecalls yesterday, but they didn't even pick up the phone! Will try again today.

It's my night out tonight. I actually don't know what I'm going to wear. I have a nice top which I wore to the funeral a few weeks ago but it just seems a bit weird to wear it for a night out. Will probably just end up wearing a jumper and jeans (and be under dressed as always). What do people wear for festive nights out??? In all my years I've never been to one.

Ang I must have missed that post about your new cardie. Have you noticed we all talk about our purchases a lot less nowadays?!
I've bought very little all month... apart from a top from the charity shop, which my mum will end up having. It's a size 16 (more like a 10) and it's too tight. I don't know why but my stomach is so bloated up at the moment, even though I haven't put on any weight and it's not thay totm either.

Frogletina

Hi everyone

Thanks for my birthday wishes. I am having a very lazy day today - but was woken up by a phonecall early this morning having gone to bed late and I am really exhausted. Visited my neighbour for a drink at midday to find we are both feeling the same. Took my coffee round and she needed 3 cups!

I think I might look on line for a few last Christmas things. Cannot bear the thought of going out though I need some last minute food items for boxing day - may leave that till Friday or Saturday.

My bus pass and gym membership both cost me a fortune and I have hardly used either this month - what a waste, but they are ongoing costs.

CL, just wear something you feel comfortable in tonight - be yourself. Well, that is what I do more often than dressing to impress. Though yesterday I really enjoyed wearing a lovely stripped full skirt and top which I think always makes me feel pretty (a devil to iron though)

I am really worried about my son, who has had a lot of health problems recently - but there is nothing I can really do to help. But I am on the end of the phone if he needs me, fortunately he always rings when he needs me and we keep in touch by email.

Anglea

Hello my lovelies

CL, after trying again with the phone, you need a night out and wear whatever makes you feel comfortable .

In any case even if you had a killer outfit, something could be dropped on it so you can't always worry about finding the perfect thing to wear..

I know what you mean about the change in conversations on here, that's good because it shows that we all feel very comfortable with each other and our friendship has helped curbed some of our initial extravagances when we all first joined this thread. I rarely buy books nowadays but there was a time I was obsessed with them.

FR - coincidence alerts

I love JW Waterhouse and when I first got to know MM, I sent him some pics of my favourite one, the Lady of Shallott in the red dress, near the castle. During his visit I showed him a large notebook I have with the images on the covers.
Inside there are other Waterhouse paintings.

I also have an online friend for over 10 years and there are amazing coincidences between us including the fact that she lived in the house behind DS in Liverpool. Well, she's also mad on the pre-R's and her daughter too belongs to a special club. I'm sure that book has been mentioned.

And you bought Amaretto too

Lovely presents, sounds like you had a really good time..

I was on the phone until gone 5 am with lover boy .

DS hasn't returned, heaven knows where he's got to. He went to Liverpool on Sunday and planned hiking in Wales.Was due back yesterday.

I just got a solicitors bill, few days before Christmas. I phoned and said I can't pay for a few weeks as I need to do some transfers first. It seems a strange time to send it, I might have gone away.

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Anglea

FR

We must have crossed posts.

Hope your son is ok. Deos he live far from you?

I"m always worried about the DS that has gone awol. He was supposed to have a hospital apt this week and they changed it to next week. He does everything that he's not supposed to be doing in terms of health and he won't listen to advice..

Nice you have a neighbour you get on well with.

Frogletina

Anglea wrote: »

FR - coincidence alerts

I love JW Waterhouse and when I first got to know MM, I sent him some pics of my favourite one, the Lady of Shallott in the red dress, near the castle. During his visit I showed him a large notebook I have with the images on the covers.
Inside there are other Waterhouse paintings.

I also have an online friend for over 10 years and there are amazing coincidences between us including the fact that she lived in the house behind DS in Liverpool. Well, she's also mad on the pre-R's and her daughter too belongs to a special club. I'm sure that book has been mentioned.

And you bought Amaretto too

Lovely presents, sounds like you had a really good time..

.

I sent a poem from the book to Bym last night by email - not sure I chose the right one! It was La Belle Dame Sans Merci

'I met a lady in the meads,
Full beautiful, a faery's child;
Her hair was long, her foot was light,
And her eyes were wild.

I made a garland for her head,
And bracelets too, and fragrant zone,
She looked at me as she did love,
And made sweet moan.'

John Keats

Well, it didn't elicit a response - maybe because to explain the poem and painting I also sent the following

He falls into a trance to be haunted by ghostly echoes of the lady's other victims and awakes from his magical slumbers to find himself alone on a cold and barren hillside where no birds sing.

The Lady of Shalott picture you mentioned is not in the book, though other ones are

And at the closing of the day
She loosed the chain, and down she lay;
The broad stream bore her far away,
The Lady of Shalott.

Frogletina

Anglea wrote: »

FR

We must have crossed posts.

Hope your son is ok. Deos he live far from you?

Nice you have a neighbour you get on well with.

It takes about an hour and a half to visit my son on public transport, as I don't drive. But if I visit I get a lift back home again.

My neighbour is lovely, there are just 2 apartments on each floor and she is on the top floor with me. We just knock when we need some company, advice, wine or coffee! She knows all about Bym and my adventures in Turkey and in return she tells me of her problems with local bad boy, crazy musician.

Just heard back from my boy, I asked if he had managed to sleep and eat. His reply said no and no

Anglea

Hi FR

I know how much you like BYM.

That poem could be interpreted in several ways by him. Either that it was a poem from your birthday book and that was all. Or that you want him to know that you love him and possibly want a declaration in return..

So even if you also sent that middle part I don't think it makes any difference. Either he's going to respond or not, depends on what he really thinks about you and whatever else is going on in his mysterious life.

He might just be unaware of social skills, be very shy or not as interested as you are in him.

This is why I find your relationship with him difficult (as I care for your happiness) because you don't really know what is going on in the background.

I know that you are unlikely to take this advice, but if you stopped contacting him completely, he might suddenly realise that he misses your attention.

Frogletina

Anglea wrote: »

Hi FR

I know how much you like BYM.

That poem could be interpreted in several ways by him. Either that it was a poem from your birthday book and that was all. Or that you want him to know that you love him and possibly want a declaration in return..

So even if you also sent that middle part I don't think it makes any difference. Either he's going to respond or not, depends on what he really thinks about you and whatever else is going on in his mysterious life.

He might just be unaware of social skills, be very shy or not as interested as you are in him.

This is why I find your relationship with him difficult (as I care for your happiness) because you don't really know what is going on in the background.

I know that you are unlikely to take this advice, but if you stopped contacting him completely, he might suddenly realise that he misses your attention.

I think the main worry is that I don't know what is going on in the background. I have tried to stop contacting him, but it seems a bit like playing games to me - and I just don't understand the rules. I do know that there are times when I say something that will get more of an immediate response with both the muse and Bym. Something that catches their attention. But I also know that by sending little snippets they know that they have my attention and don't need to respond.

I didn't actually see the poem as a declaration of love - I meant it as an example from the book. He is a romantic man and I thought he would appreciate it artistically.

But I do fear that he cannot be as interested in me as I am in him.

Thank you for caring about my happiness, that means so much to me - I know if this relationship comes to nothing I have a friend who will support me