Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice

Anglea

Hi all

Fr, I think you made the right decision to stay away in the future if the alternative would have involved turning into the kind of woman he wanted - but you weren't prepared to become.

NGlady, sorry to hear you lost something important. On the subject of budgeting, someone on another thread I follow has a sig listing their weekly totals of loose change in different coins, 20p's for example, a lot more than I would have expected. Unless I was mistaken and it was monthly.


Persistent men - I'm not getting DS involved because he doesn't know about the invites or the fact they fancy me. All those conversations are out of earshot. He knows the men hover around and there's one that asks us both to his home. I don't want him to know anything more.

The reason I arranged to meet for lunch Ziggles is because it's a pattern that keeps repeating itself with people. I can't find those I really want to be with so stay in all the time, yet I get loads of invites from others. Got me thinking if I'm blocking ALL friendship by having that mindset 'everyone I attract is a problem'.

I also think that whenever I even think of these people I immediately associate them with something negative, instead of all their positive qualities, which they have a lot of.

In the past I've had friends that were very difficult, yet I used to think it was funny rather than a problem and I got on really well with them. I think it's a question of perspective.

If I hadn't phoned, she would have been chasing me up and I would have been worrying about what excuses to give. I'm not going to do that anymore. She doesn't get the hint about me putting her off, I've known her for a very long time and it still hasn't worked.

Ziggles, I think you will feel much better out of that situation. No it's not easy hearing about your faults. There's always 2 sides to every story no matter how much we believe we're the only ones that are right LOL Not surprising you're going to take it easy today.

We had unelievably good weather here sorry yours was so bad.

How's our CL?

NGlady2

Morning girls

Well.. I wasn't expecting such activity on here on a sunday morning

I always love reading all your posts Make me smile, laugh and giggle at times! I love the fact that nobody actually knows who we are, so we get like a 'life' on here where we can be honest and unafraid to ask advise which you might shy from asking a real life friend

Maybe we should approach hollywood?

Who would play you if they was to make this thread into a movie?

Id love jennifer anniston to play me i think!! Fashionable, yet entertaining

Zigs --

Yep, you give her attitude chicken, she deserves it. Remember, you tenant her landlady, you have a lot of rights and end of the day your the customer in this so your right hehe!!


Frog --

I'm really glad that what i said came across with the care it was meant to - im really bad with words at times

Thats right - pop it down as a memory, something that you are always going to be able to smile back too and the summer of 2011 will always be a fun one

but equally, be honest withg Beau as early as you can - not only will it be kinder, it will also be easier for you as you wont be melling over it for ages and ages and then go down the path of 'oh one more holiday wouldnt hurt...' as lets be honest, when something makes us feel gorgeous, and wanted its so easy just to keep the pretense

were only human at the end of the day

right im running late now lol

CompletelyLost

Morning,

I'm ok thank you You ladies have been busy!
My potential job... I haven't had the interview yet, it's not until 11th October.

I think Anglea is becoming a bad influence on me. I can't seem to walk out of a charity shop without buying something. I bought two tops the other day, though both are nice, one of them is a tad impractical. It's so low cut that it's verging on indecent, but at the same time, it's flattering so I kind of like it :S

For what it's worth Anglea, I think you've done the right thing with the friend At least YOU were the one in control, you didn't leave it to her to do the chasing (and you the avoiding!)

NG - I think I know the lace blazer that you mean, as I wanted it. Is it greyish black? And also comes in a blush pink type colour? I loooooved that one, as it was nice and fitted without being overly girlie.

Sorry to hear about losig the £40 item. I'm the same as you - trying to scrimp on essentials so I can afford yet another pair of unnecessary, impractical glittery shoes (or whatever else I've set my sights on). Where is the logic?????

I'm going to calculate my spends this afternoon, so will hit you all with them later. I doubt it's going to be pretty.

PS: Welcome back Frog. & Hope you're doing ok too, ziggles, after your upset. I hope you told her a few home truths about herself, too?

Anglea

LOL NGlady a film about this thread.

It can be a mix of the Shopaholic series and Sex and the City

I don't think I'd qualify for Dynasty with my clothes LOL

Actually it's an interesting idea NGlady.

Asking ourselves what book or film we represent - it could be a wake up call. Often it's very hard to see ourselves properly.

Frogletina

Anglea wrote: »

LOL NGlady a film about this thread.

It can be a mix of the Shopaholic series and Sex and the City

I don't think I'd qualify for Dynasty with my clothes LOL

Actually it's an interesting idea NGlady.

Asking ourselves what book or film we represent - it could be a wake up call. Often it's very hard to see ourselves properly.

Well, I guess I'd definitely have to be Samantha, with my penchant for the younger man. That is where the similarity ends, although I would be the oldest cast member.

I need to think more about what book or film I represent - perhaps I should ask a few friends, but afraid of what they might say! lol

Frogletina

NGlady2 wrote: »

be honest withg Beau as early as you can - not only will it be kinder, it will also be easier for you as you wont be melling over it for ages and ages and then go down the path of 'oh one more holiday wouldnt hurt...' as lets be honest, when something makes us feel gorgeous, and wanted its so easy just to keep the pretense

were only human at the end of the day

It's done

I have written him an email. It is in English which does worry me as he may have to get someone to help translate it. It was very simple and short, and I hope he takes it ok.

Frogletina

Gosh, I'm writing a lot today

Reading about problems with 'so called' friends and I am in the same situation

I came back from Turkey deciding on a new mindset and mentioned to a friend that I was starting a new strategy of not saying yes to everything. Since then he has been nothing but trouble.

The only thing I said no to was carrying his mobile phone. He didn't know whether to leave it in his car or take it with him. Asked if I would carry it. I said no, leave it in the car or put it in your pocket.

Now I'm getting text messages from him, one saying I must be careful as refusing to do small favours for people may be perceived as cold and heartless and hurtful to those who have been kind and compassionate towards me!

Another this morning - woke me up! saying yes he had taken it personally and then said that before I judge someone to take into consideration things they may have done for me and that having been hurt in the past I must not let it cloud my judgement!!!! :mad:

Actually, what I really thought when I returned was that I needed some new friends and not ones who were always moaning and depressed and lowered my mood. This friend is really getting to me - I know he is lonely but he seems to expect me to fill the gaps in his life and has taken to kissing me on the cheek everytime we meet which I feel is really creepy and I want to tell him to stop it. If he gets any closer he'll be kissing me on the lips and he knows I am not interested in him in that way. :eek:

Anglea

Hi yet again, I'm never off here now LOL

CL nice to see you. About low cut tops, I think most of them are like that nowadays so don't worry too much about it. Are you still enjoying BB?

Are you organised with your receipts, in seperate sections? I've got mine to do and they're all mixed up for a few months.

FR - I was thinking about the SATC film where they go abroad, you and Turkey.

If I had to pick a book that reflected my life -every Sunday I'm in an Agatha Christie when I go to ex's family home and make their high tea. It's that kind of country house. Time has stood still and everything is dpne the same as it has been for generations.

As I've always had a curiousity about the various characters in the area so I can be a cross between Miss Marple and and what's her name in Moonlighting, she was quite glam.

Frogletina

Anglea wrote: »

FR - I was thinking about the SATC film where they go abroad, you and Turkey.

Although I loved the TV series of sex and the city, I've not seen either of the films yet. Must rectify that one day.

ps. I'm not at all glam, I'm sitting in pyjamas eating chocolates. I'm more Bridget Jones than Samantha Jones

Anglea

Hi Fr,

Men ought to carry a handbag

That's a ridiculous thing to say to you because you refused