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Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice
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Exactly, he will come worming his way back soon. But when he does, dont give in. I think first date not being able to get there for train fare, for me, would have been a big strike and would have possibly meant no second, but you was graceful enough to give him benefit of the doubt and a second chance, the fact hes repaid you like this? I dont think hes worth your time or effort. I know you met each other on a spirital level, so its hard, sometimes though you do meet several people who are 'right' for you before you meet the 'right one' for you
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Frogletina - any word?
How long until your holiday now?
I've avoided my financial stuff for ages now and had to put the file on top of my dressing table to try and guilt me into looking at it. I've even forgotten to do something important which has to be done this week because I'm been in such an avoidance mood.
One way to find someone online apart from doing a search on their username, or real name on sites like 123 people, is to do a search on phrases they have used, in BYM's case it could be a line from one of his poems.
Of course the downside is you can find out something unpleasant and it's a case of be careful what you wish for.
CL, what's happened about your Next order? How are you Ziggles?0 -
Frogletina - any word?
How long until your holiday now?
Hi Anglea
Not a single word, and I have not sent any messages either, although it is hard to resist
My holiday begins on 21st May and is for 11 daysNot Rachmaninov
But Nyman
The heart asks for pleasure first
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Hi ladies,
Anglea... no, I didn't apply for it. But I did pass the shop again yesterday and the advertisement is still there.
I think I'm quite like you Anglea in terms of pressure and being forced to do things. I often feel better if I don't have a choice... whereas if I do have a choice, I'm more likely to wriggle out of doing things. Looking for a job is one of those things that I'm currently avoiding (despite actually making the effort in the earlier part of the year). I can't even explain to my family how much it scares me... they would never understand and/or sympathise. Never mind!
I hope you manage to do the financial stuff that you've been avoiding. I know I always feel better when I've done things... The fear is always worse than the task itself. Ridiculous really as if I took my own advice, I probably wouldn't feel constantly worried about everything.
I did, however, avoid ordering from Next. That's only because I have so little money this month and I'm waiting for returns to be processed before I can order anything else.
NG: I think you're right about baby steps. But tbh I think even that is beyond me! Which is funny because I'm not that bad with eye contact, smiling, it's just speaking that I can't quite summon up the courage to do. I guess I'm always waiting for the other person to speak to me first... just so I don't end up looking like a desperate plank!0 -
CL - that sounds quite similar to me tbh. Do you ever find yourself, a little, i dont know if the words paranoid? about if people don't speak to you for whatever reason, WHY havnt they spoken to you? Don't they like you? Are you horrible looking etc? i sometimes find myself over analysing stupid stuff such as at work, if somebody doesnt say morning to me or something daft, have i said something to offend them? What did i do yesterday, did I do something wrong and its backfired onto them? Am i in trouble? etc. I do get quite paranoid at times.0
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Hi all
CL, I did make a start on a couple of financial forms after psyching myself up, it's true that thinking about it is far worse than actually doing anything.
As to your fear about the job. Is it about being in a roomful of strangers? Could you get some kind of work from home job to get in the routine of employment and later try a placement when you feel more confident?
I was looking forward to reading about your Next purchases
How are you with talking to men/ boys on a forum? If we weren't all female, would you be ok?0 -
Hi all
Frogletina,
This afternoon, I happened upon the first half of Vanessa on CH 5 - all about our current topic of conversation, new b/f's and getting in touch with them. What happens if you don't hear from them for a while, do you appear eager, do you play games etc.
You'll probably catch it on iplayer.0 -
Frogletina,
This afternoon, I happened upon the first half of Vanessa on CH 5 - all about our current topic of conversation, new b/f's and getting in touch with them. What happens if you don't hear from them for a while, do you appear eager, do you play games etc.
You'll probably catch it on iplayer.
Thanks Anglea
I will see if I can find it after I have had something to eat.
After BYM has not been logged on the dating site for a couple of days I have come in to now to find he was logged in 8 minutes ago. I will stay logged on for a bit and see if he messages me.
FrogletinaNot Rachmaninov
But Nyman
The heart asks for pleasure first
SPC 8 £1567.31 SPC 9 £1014.64 SPC 10 # £1164.13 SPC 11 £1598.15 SPC 12 # £994.67 SPC 13 £962.54 SPC 14 £1154.79 SPC15 £715.38 SPC16 £1071.81⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Declutter thread - ⭐⭐🏅0 -
Hi Frog,
I know it's really hard, but don't keep looking at his profile hon. On most websites you can see whose looked at your profile and when and we dont want BYM to know your looking hehe.0 -
Hi Frog,
I know it's really hard, but don't keep looking at his profile hon. On most websites you can see whose looked at your profile and when and we dont want BYM to know your looking hehe.
I have blocked the facility whereby someone knows I have looked at their profile - I set it up like that at the outset
All I can do is not log on at all - because we have sent messages to each other, he will always know when I last logged on even if I don't look at his profile. And there is nothing I can do to change that.Not Rachmaninov
But Nyman
The heart asks for pleasure first
SPC 8 £1567.31 SPC 9 £1014.64 SPC 10 # £1164.13 SPC 11 £1598.15 SPC 12 # £994.67 SPC 13 £962.54 SPC 14 £1154.79 SPC15 £715.38 SPC16 £1071.81⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Declutter thread - ⭐⭐🏅0
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