Miscarriage support

sweaty_betty

Part_Mouse wrote: »

Im so so sorry for your losses,im very much at the stage of why me,why do we have to suffer this pain.

One nurse said atleast you managed to get pregnant,yes after 7 years with a mix of ntnp and ttc and 8 rounds of treatment only to have a mmc:mad: why does life have to fCking suck sooo much.

It definitely isn't fair. And I hate it when people say that, it just shows a complete lack of understanding.

Part_Mouse

sweaty_betty wrote: »

It definitely isn't fair. And I hate it when people say that, it just shows a complete lack of understanding.

For some its a huge battle to get pregnant and then to stay pregnant.Even though I had 5 days to get my head round the HB going it was still an awful shock.

If anyone has had erpc were you in an awful lot of pain after? I found some codine from a previous surgery and took that 2.5 hrs ago but not helped.

wendz86

Sorry you had really bad treatment. People do seem to say the most stupid things but I do think maybe they are just trying to help. Not going about it the right way though.

Part_Mouse

I've generally found the care I've had to be pretty terrible,less than 10 mins in with the dr on mon when we found out baby had no chance.

skintchick

My care has always been crap too. It's why I got involved withthe Mumsnet Miscarriage CAre campaign.

I also have had people tell me me "at least you can get pregnant" as well as the more obvious "at least you have a child" but getting pregnant only to lose them repeatedly is no consolation, and having my daughter is obviously a joy, but still a heartbreak when you so desperately want more.

I know that now my story is happier - I know why I lose them and I have treatment that works, but why don;t people understand the grief and heartbreak of those you have lost?

I'm actual;ly crying as I type this, for all of us who have lost our beloved babies, and espcially fpr those of you who feel there may be no future hope. I so wish we could change things, and get more people tests and treatment more quickly, and delivered with compassion by health professionals who really care.

Part_Mouse

Skint huge hugs to you.imo bad treatment makes an already difficult situation so much harder dh has gone out to his mums,I'm in agnoy and had no pain relief from the hosp only got 4 codine left from previous surgery.

looba

I'm so very sorry to read your news Part Mouse. Please make sure you call someone if the pain gets any worse or is ongoing. I am thinking of you. X

skintchick

Phone your GP and they can write you a prescription for painkillers. Phone first thing tomorrow and they will turn it around quckly.

jay20043

Part_Mouse wrote: »

For some its a huge battle to get pregnant and then to stay pregnant.Even though I had 5 days to get my head round the HB going it was still an awful shock.

If anyone has had erpc were you in an awful lot of pain after? I found some codine from a previous surgery and took that 2.5 hrs ago but not helped.

After my ERPC, I didn't have any pain, just mild period pain type cramps. Can you phone the gyne ward for some advice? I was given a number to call in my discharge pack if I experienced any pain etc.


I hope your feeling ok tonight x

Part_Mouse

I called the gyne ward who said to go to a&e spent all afternoon there and just got back.no pain relief as the pharmacy was shut.back to epu tommorow for a scan to make sure everything was taken away during erpc and bloods taken to see if I've got and infection which is an awful worry as I've only got one open tube but on 2 different types of anti biotics so hoping all is well.

I've had quite a few big ops in my life but the pain from the erpc has been awful,they said its likely to go on for a few weeks