Miscarriage support

Metranil_Vavin

I had an email from HR yesterday asking when I would be submitting my sickness form/Dr's certificate for the time I had off during my MC...it irritated and upset me in equal measures as a. I had asked on a number of occasions what I would need to do/documentation I would require etc which no one ever came back to me on..and b. writing 'miscarriage' on a form for some reason really upset me again

I think it's because it's my private business and having to write it on a form that a dim-wit 20-something girl in HR will see pee's me off. Kind of just makes it paperwork too when it's the worst thing I've ever been thorugh..

I also had to go back through my diary and work out what happened on what dates, not something that I was really concerned with keeping a track of whilst the MC was going on!!!

Don't know if any of this makes any sense. probably not!

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

I had an email from HR yesterday asking when I would be submitting my sickness form/Dr's certificate for the time I had off during my MC...it irritated and upset me in equal measures as a. I had asked on a number of occasions what I would need to do/documentation I would require etc which no one ever came back to me on..and b. writing 'miscarriage' on a form for some reason really upset me again

I think it's because it's my private business and having to write it on a form that a dim-wit 20-something girl in HR will see pee's me off. Kind of just makes it paperwork too when it's the worst thing I've ever been thorugh..

I also had to go back through my diary and work out what happened on what dates, not something that I was really concerned with keeping a track of whilst the MC was going on!!!

Don't know if any of this makes any sense. probably not!

Bless you MV that is NOT nice and very thoughtless of them.

DH had to fill out a form for his work for the days off he spend looking after me he was not impressed by that either.

I am glad my Dr signed me off. Back to work as Normal (what ever that is) for me tomorrow.

Metranil_Vavin

Good luck for tomorrow Tinks..just take it easy hon.

At least it's Wednesday so a short week to ease you back in

portsmouthali

My boss sorted out HR for me thank goodness, although I have had to tell a couple of people who asked where I'd been, if I was OK etc. I figured it was easier to tell the truth but actually saying the words was weird, as if it hadn't happened to me.

I really hate work at the moment, my boss is so stressed as it's really busy and I just can't wait for each day to be over :mad: I think it's just becuase I should be pregnant, looking forward to maternity leave and not really caring about work Anyway, rant over!!

Each day brings it's own challenges and I'm grateful to have this place to vent, as I think everyone else thinks I should be "over" it by now. We know different, don't we? xxx

Metranil_Vavin

Hugs Ali..I know exactly what you mean. Work is indeed a struggle, and nothing seems important. When I got back after Xmas I was so inwardly overjoyed (and a bit smug if I'm honest) that I wouldn't be at work for too much longer, that I could cope with all the cr*p going on here.

Now I feel like I've slid down the snake to square one again..its a VERY grey place to be

But...onward and upward Ali. My AF seems to have started to make an appearancem so I'm counting today as CD1, and starting all over again.

Keeping busy with working out cycle days/ov'ing etc etc really helps keep my mind off things, and also gives me something to really aim for.

Sod work..just keep your head down, do what you need to do to earn your money, and think about the future. XXX

tinkwings

Afternoon Ladies

It is my first full day at work and I am really down. There is no work for me to do and that has lead to me doing lots of internet searching which is NEVER good. :o

MV I am so happy u have got your CD1. :j

I just wish I had something or knew what the hell was going on in my body. :mad:

I just want to start trying again but I also need to OV for that to happen.

Just feel very lost & lonley today

Metranil_Vavin

Poor Tinks..I know all about the whole googling thing..you can drive yourself mad with it, particularly if you dont have much to do.

Were your periods fairly regular before the MC?

Have you spoken to anyone about it?

I am totally clueless with this whole thing, I'm just learning as I go along, but luckily I guess my AF seems to have returned fairly quicly, although I have no idea if it will be a long one/heavy one etc etc..

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Poor Tinks..I know all about the whole googling thing..you can drive yourself mad with it, particularly if you dont have much to do. Very True it is SO NOT a good thing

Were your periods fairly regular before the MC? Yes they were 28/29 days

Have you spoken to anyone about it? I plan to ring doctors on Friday to get my latest blood test results I have read if your hormone levels are still high then you will not OV as your body still thinks it PG which would make sense.

I am totally clueless with this whole thing, I'm just learning as I go along, but luckily I guess my AF seems to have returned fairly quicly, although I have no idea if it will be a long one/heavy one etc etc..

MV I think we are all in the same boat!! The first AF seems like a real milestone x

tinkwings

portsmouthali wrote: »

Each day brings it's own challenges and I'm grateful to have this place to vent, as I think everyone else thinks I should be "over" it by now. We know different, don't we? xxx

So true Ali that is what i find the hardest thing to deal with. That and when people avoid the subject thinking that it is better. That makes me sad as it is something that HAPPEND in my life I don't want it swept under the carpet & not talked about.

tinkwings

Wierd hey never before have i being willing AF to arrive. Just to get back to CD1 would be amazing.

3 weeks today 27th Jan was my ERPC op. I did a PG test today & it said BFN which is a good sign as before they were still BFP. So that is one step forward. Just waiting on the blood results in the hope that my hcg levels are back to a big fat "0".