Miscarriage support

QQuaver

tinkwings wrote: »

Amen in Hebrew on the inside of my wrist as amen means "so be it" seems apt xoxo
אָמֵן

That's beautiful:)

Sequeena

Hello everyone I hope you don't mind me joining this thread

My OH and I have been trying actively for a baby for over a year now. I did fall pregnant late May last year but miscarried very early on I have just realised that if I had carried to full term I would have given birth or be giving birth very soon

I have been very up and down since as a month after I had my miscarriage it was the first year anniversary of my brother's death

I have since picked myself up and carried on with my life (sometimes find it very hard) but I keep wondering what if and I have not been able to fall pregnant since.

budget_budd

Hello Everyone

I haven't had time to read back through the thread yet, but I will do maybe when Im feeling a little less emotional, I just logged on to my emails and I have one from Boots Parenting club saying "You are 29 weeks pregnant" - WELL I WOULD BE IF I HADN'T LOST MY BABY

Sorry just needed to get that out.

Metranil_Vavin

Welcome Sequeena and budget_budd..

Hopefully you will find this thread of some comfort as all the ladies who post on here have been through the heartbreak of a MC. it certainly helps me to read other people's experiences and how they cope/move on etc

I would have been 12 weeks today, it's very hard not to keep milestones in your head...bb so sorry you had that email..how horrible, have you made sure you dont get anymore of those by unsigning yourself? That's the last thing you need

I got an email from the admin monkey who works in HR this morning telling me that as I had been off sick for a certain number of days, they were going to dock my pay to 90% for those days in Feb's pay packet :eek::(

It really upset me, however it was resolved later on when the HR director came and apologised to me and said the monkey should never have sent that email in the first place, and it was totally wrong and insensitive and I wouldnt be docked for sick pay. This was the same idiot who was hassling me for a doctors certificate earlier in the week :mad:

That F it's Friday is all I can say!

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Welcome Sequeena and budget_budd..

Hopefully you will find this thread of some comfort as all the ladies who post on here have been through the heartbreak of a MC. it certainly helps me to read other people's experiences and how they cope/move on etc

I would have been 12 weeks today, it's very hard not to keep milestones in your head...bb so sorry you had that email..how horrible, have you made sure you dont get anymore of those by unsigning yourself? That's the last thing you need

I got an email from the admin monkey who works in HR this morning telling me that as I had been off sick for a certain number of days, they were going to dock my pay to 90% for those days in Feb's pay packet :eek::(

It really upset me, however it was resolved later on when the HR director came and apologised to me and said the monkey should never have sent that email in the first place, and it was totally wrong and insensitive and I wouldnt be docked for sick pay. This was the same idiot who was hassling me for a doctors certificate earlier in the week :mad:

That F it's Friday is all I can say!

Firstly Welcome Sequeena and budget_budd :A

MV what the Fish as my daughter would say! I can'r believe your HR monkey HOW RUDE :mad:

tinkwings

tinkwings wrote: »

Amen in Hebrew on the inside of my wrist as amen means "so be it" seems apt xoxo
אָמֵן

Thanks QQ i think i will get it done but on a day when I am in a better head space. Not a good day today & tomorrow will be the first year anni of DH loosing his father.:(

portsmouthali

Happy weekend everyone

Welcome Sequeena and BB, sorry for your losses xxx Come on here & vent as much as you like, I certainly do!

Love that tat Tinks, never had one but if I did I'd have something like that. I almost had a black sun tatooed on my shoulder years ago when I was drunk at the Reading festival but my ex-husband talked me out of it I did get my nose pierced that weekend. My mum was horrified, even though I was 24 :rotfl:I don't wear it anymore though.

Hope your DH is OK today Tinks xx

tinkwings

Having a bad day today Think i may beed to seek help from the hospial coynselling service

msb5262

Hello tinkwings,
Sorry to hear you're feeling so bad.
I think you might find it really helpful to get in touch with the counselling people - can you email them? It might be easier than ringing. If you don't get a quick response, think about going via your GP.
I found that after I'd miscarried, people were ok to let me feel sad for a while but after quite a short time, they expected me to feel fine again and actually my (now ex-)OH was annoyed with me when I didn't immediately spring back to feeling great.
You are doing absolutely the right thing to say that you feel awful and to try to acknowledge what has happened.
I wish I could give you a hug but please be assured that the way you feel is normal and only to be expected - this DOESN'T mean don't seek help. If counselling feels right, it will be right.
Hope you have a few better moments through the next few days - I'll be thinking of you.
Best wishes
MsB

tinkwings

msb5262 wrote: »

hello tinkwings,
sorry to hear you're feeling so bad.
I think you might find it really helpful to get in touch with the counselling people - can you email them? It might be easier than ringing. If you don't get a quick response, think about going via your gp.
I found that after i'd miscarried, people were ok to let me feel sad for a while but after quite a short time, they expected me to feel fine again and actually my (now ex-)oh was annoyed with me when i didn't immediately spring back to feeling great.
You are doing absolutely the right thing to say that you feel awful and to try to acknowledge what has happened.
I wish i could give you a hug but please be assured that the way you feel is normal and only to be expected - this doesn't mean don't seek help. If counselling feels right, it will be right.
Hope you have a few better moments through the next few days - i'll be thinking of you.
Best wishes
msb

thank you my plan is to ring them tomorrow. Xxx