MSE Parents Club Part 10

Sami_Bee

OMG Mel, what a (happy) shock! I guess baby will be having lots of new things not passed on from Kai then! (I think my OH may not like you though, I've never know someone who got pink 4th time, this makes me want #4 if even more if 3 is blue ) xxxx

Elle - just been reading the nhs leaflet and loving;

Breast milk can be expressed (squeezed) into a bottle, either by hand, or using a manual or electric breast pump.

SusanC_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Susan - can I ask that maybe you might remove the bit about 'maybe formula isn't as good a breastmilk' from your post. In the current situation even I don't want to hear Breast is Best any more and I BF. Not meant as a criticism but maybe we should all be a little more conscious of how others feel and may take our posts... Hope you don't mind....it may be related to the tetchiness noted above

Yes you can ask. Initially I did mind as I thought it was unfair that you ask me to change my wording in a post where I have been apologising for any contribution I have made to making anyone feel bad and have made a great effort to word things carefully to avoid upsetting anyone considering that when someone told another poster that their reason for switching wasn't "good enough" you didn't feel it necessary to ask them to change their words. On reflection though I realised that you wouldn't have said anything if you thought I was an unreasonable person or deliberately malicious and insensitive to others feelings so I take it as a compliment that you felt able to ask.

Due to you request I have gone back and read my post and did consider rewording it but I think that taking into account the whole of what I wrote I was reasonable and was not bashing anyone over the head with "Breast is best" so I am going to leave it as it stands. Although I have not changed it, I will bear your comment in mind in furture discussions.

I will also add that I am happy for anyone to point out at any time if they think I have said something which is hurtful or insensitive to others. I do make a conscious effort not to and I try to be particularly careful on the subject of breastfeeding and weaning but that does not mean I always succeed and I would rather someone point out my error than that I go round hurting and upsetting other people. I would say though that in some cases it might be more sensible to do so by PM as I fear that if you publically criticise my relatively moderate statements regarding formula vs. breastmilk it may make others feel there is no point in trying to be moderate as people are going to object anyway. That is not how I took your point but I can see that it could be taken that way and I wouldn't want the flames to be fanned further.

Do I make any sense at all?

Fitzio

Congratulations Mel! Very pleased for you.

Had a brief catch up - Glam, hope you are feeling better.
I can sympathise with the big boobs thing, and you know I have asked you about your surgery before. One of the main reasons I haven't done it is because I thought I probably wouldn't be able to BF and wanted to leave the option open. As it was, I tried, and it was the size of my boobs that stopped me BFing! They were too heavy and big for H to latch on to. And they were so big, I couldn't even see if she was latched on properly or not. I had lots of help from around 20 BF Support Workers and countless midwives (they made me slings to go round my neck to take the weight and all sorts!) but it didn't work. Point is, even if you hadn't had your surgery, you might have still had problems. I was upset at not being able to BF (I expressed for a few days but H was dehydrated from phototherapy and needed a top up) but there is no point in dwelling on it. What's done is done. I made my decision and I am happy with it.

Please make sure you are getting help from your OH. I think you need support in RL, not just on here. Don't wait until you go back to work as you might get a shock if nothing changes. Sort it out now.

Feelie - hope you are well too and that I didn't upset you with anything I said. I know your beliefs are important to you and I don't want to think that anyone is upset.

MFD - glad your OH is home from hospital.
SS - hope you get good news on yours soon.

SugarSpun

redmel1621 wrote: »

Right without turning us into the preg thread I went for scan and am very happy to say everything is perfectly fine and I was worried over nothing! Apparantly placenta is anterior which is why I have barely been feeling movement, phew! Baby was a flasher too;):D

Oh my, how exciting!

Also exciting is that OH will probably be home tonight!!!

Apparently there is nothing to see, and the painkillers he has for his back are really hard on the pancreas and liver, which might explain his pain. So either he can have a precautionary CT scan tomorrow, in which case he plans to sneak home for a couple of hours this evening to get some pants and a kiss, or he can come home and get new back pain meds from someone who actually understands contraindications. :j


<fluffy>
I complain about him a lot and he does stuff that makes me :mad: but I do love him and he is the best husband (and daddy to Molly) that I could wish for.
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feelinggood_2

Thanks Fitzio, that means a lot that you said that. I think I've been a bit OTT at the moment, because I'm considering giving up breastfeeding.

searching_me

makes sense to me susan ..

YAYYY!!! mel for your bundle ... so happy for you .. although you and weezl are giving philip ideas :rotfl: ..

i redeemed myself by making zoes pancakes, doing the adult dinner, bottles, pots and tidying the downstairs x

searching_me

this isnt really a milestone .. but jaydens NEARLY crawling hes trying so hard then getting stress with himself :rotfl:x

SusanC_2

:eek: Just realised I took so long writing my last post that another five appeared while I was writing it.

SugarSpun wrote: »

She and I were born on the same day, but she's a nicer person than I am. So I'm the bad twin

I think you are nice so she must be super nice.

feelinggood wrote: »

I've checked with the same resource Krystal uses, and the medication I need is as safe as the alternative I've been given, yet I'm not allowed the right one, despite my telling them. They won't look into it any more, which is really annoying.

Have you tried PALS? Or asking to be referred to another doctor for a second opinion? I know my mum used to take my brother to the orthoptist at a hospital quite distance away (and in a different NHS trust) because she wasn't happy with our local one.

SugarSpun

feelinggood wrote: »

Thanks Fitzio, that means a lot that you said that. I think I've been a bit OTT at the moment, because I'm considering giving up breastfeeding.

Sweetie, BF is important to you, and you've said before that you'd like to let Toby self-wean when he's ready. If it's a question of medication it might be better for you both to explore Weezl and brother-of-Weezl's kind offer before doing something you can't reverse.

I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but I'm concerned that you may regret it but your supply won't catch back up.

Big hugs, lovely :grouphug:

karen1907

YAY Mel - took me a while to catch on d'oh! Congratulations.

yay to SS OH coming home.

Naked botty time is usually enjoyed in this house (by all lol )

I am feeling so tired and was almost asleep with T on my lap feeding earlier. Think I might see if OH will feed her some formula tonight as I am really struggling at the mo. Especially as T seems to want to wake every couple of hours at night at the mo. then she takes ages going back to sleep so I am wide awake by the time I go back to bed. I get up for all the night time disturbances unless I reach the end of my tether then DH will give it a try to settle her or bring her up to bed for me to feed her.

I just keep rambling now.....