MSE Parents Club Part 10

Sami_Bee

SS - I won't go into it, I won't disappear from the thread either but I just feel that I've come to a realisation of some 'stuff' if that makes any remote sense

MFD - ewww and yey too, I think I can spare a few get well soon vibes for your lovely hubby

oh and eeeeepp! at Poppie being whipped of to theatre :eek: majority of vibes going to the little cutey

must get unsmelly and prepare for arrival of 2 girly toddlers now :wave:

karen1907

Why does DH always assume that when Tegan is crying in the evening she is hungry?! I fed her from 6.45 -7.45 last night (like I usually do) to make sure she is well topped up for the night ahead. I then put her down and ran a lovely hot bath to help me feel better with my crappy cold knowing full well that T wouldn't need feeding. About little while later Tegan had been crying for some time DH said he was going to get some formula as she was obviously hungry... I thought I'll let him get on with it as I'll want him to look after her on his own in the future. But 10 mins later she was still crying, so I got out the bath to see what was going on and he had used my emergency carton of milk that I keep in my change bag (7oz) (rather than using the instant formula which is cheaper and he could have just made 2 oz) and was trying to force her to take it. I took her out his arms gave her a couple of pats she burped and went to sleep so I put her back in the cot and got back in my bath (it was vv hot ) A little while later she started crying again just as I was getting out the bath. Once again DH after trying to stop her crying for a few mins decided she was hungry and tried to feed her out the bottle again which was distressing her even more. Once again I felt I had to intervene and exactly the same thing happened! Burp then slept.

I then commented to DH that he had wasted my carton of 7oz when he could of just made 2oz up with formula. Suffice to say he wasn't happy with me and said that he wasn't going to be stuck with a crying baby whilst he had to make up more formula because 2oz wasn't enough. I felt really bad cause he dos so much but its like he cant cope with her crying which is when I need the most help and will be worried that when I do manage to go out he will be trying to force her to eat!!

So does anyone have any idea how I can diplomatically explain to DH that sometimes its wind, or a need to be swaddled or just because she is tired at the moment? I don't think I can do anything diplomatically! He seems to think I always go in and feed her when she cries whereas I tend not to feed her unless she is still waking up crying 3 hours later.

Oh god I feel like such a whinger! Feel free to ignore.....

My_Fathers_Daughter

Missed Poppie going into theatre.


GET WELL AND STAY STRONG THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS WINGING THEIR WAY TO BRISTOL

3onitsway

Sami_Bee wrote: »

SS - I won't go into it, I won't disappear from the thread either but I just feel that I've come to a realisation of some 'stuff' if that makes any remote sense

None whatsoever!

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Hubby keeps asking me to go to the West Car Park of the hospital so he can see me through the window :rotfl:

Aw, bless him! That made me , not :rotfl:!

emlou2009 wrote: »

Right, I am childless as despite OH and I having the day off we have sent the Seth Monster to the CM's to enjoy a nice day as a couple, going for lunch and to see Avatar at last! My house is feeling very empty right now so I intend to not be in it until we pick him up later

Have a lovely adult day - i'm not jealous at all!

Karen Hugs - my OH does it too. Last night V woke a little when we went up to bed, so he went straight down to make a bottle. When he came back two minutes later she was fast asleep (just like I told him she would be!) :mad: Oh well, he's just trying to help.

SugarSpun

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

It just struck me that it was a massive contrast and perhaps we should all take heart that 'normal' is just doing whatever our babies can do, whenever they can do it.

Oh well - I popped Benjamin in his cot this morning whilst I dried my hair and when I went back to get him he had a full-on, massive, green snot moustache AND BEARD :eek::eek:

That makes a lot of sense MFD, and is particularly well timed for me. Thank you :A
:eek: at the snotmonster.
:eek: too at your hubby's insides. OH had some horrors coming out of him too, but his was more like applesauce than apple juice.

Sami_Bee wrote: »

SS - I won't go into it, I won't disappear from the thread either but I just feel that I've come to a realisation of some 'stuff' if that makes any remote sense

Sounds a bit deep for me today. Big hugs all the same

karen1907 wrote: »

Why does DH always assume that when Tegan is crying in the evening she is hungry?!

Because so often babies will comfort suckle that daddies confuse it with actual hunger, maybe? OH is the same way and in the end I told him (rather forcefully) that she has her own predictable three/four hourly feeding schedule and if she was unhappy outside those times he could productively ask when she last fed, then check her nappy, wind her, entertain her or put her down for a sleep and stay there stroking her head and if she was STILL crying could suggest a bonus feeding time.

Lots of good thoughts for Poppie

My_Fathers_Daughter

Karen - I think men (generalisation here) tend to struggle when the baby cries and try to solve the 'problem' and food is the most obvious solution.
They don't have the same instincts we do when it comes to baby because they don't go through the same routines 24/7.

At least he is trying xxx


Is it any help to say in 15 years time if he goes to get food (choccie and cake) when DD is crying he will be doing the right thing



Not trying to cast aspersions on your parenting skills dads, I think sometimes it is only the 'full-time-carer' who knows what is going on because they are the ones who have been there all day IYSWIM. MILs do it too!!



3 - it made me but I am brave-facing it.
My assistant split with her husband over the weekend so I am feeling quite grateful for my hubby, even if I can't see him at the moment.

jillie1974

feelie- you posted asking if anyone had a problem with LO stopping bleeding...it was me and Kian.

Mazcabs

searching_me wrote: »

maz it was tara .. but with everything thats go on shes not been able to sort anything x

Thanks SM - Its just I had it going around in my head and couldnt remember who it was that posted it and whether the outcome was resolved.... obviously understand that its on hold but at least thats one less thing going round in my head for me to think about!!!

pinkpig08 wrote: »

We had the 6 week check when Caitlyn went for her first lot of jabs at about 9 weeks.

William has first set of jabs tomorrow :eek:... hope he reacts teh same as Henry did...ie no reaction at all!!

angelfairy

hi everyone,

quickly popping in and out today. my head is full of work/baby/marriage stuff but i have a question for you lovely lot.

i know a little while ago there was a discussion re cows milk and other mums saying that there was a time when cows milk was given at six months.

do we know why there was the change to 12months?

just going to have a quick nose over the thread

xxx

Glamazon

Karen - my OH & MIL is the same. Every cry is hunger - the boy would be the size of a house if I wasn't here!

Took J to the docs, not ear ache and his tummy is soft so either teeth or constipation even though he goes 3 times a day! When he does go the first is always really hard & yesterday was like rabbit droppings but loads!

Have bought the Aptamil comfort & gripe water and got some NFC OJ to see if that helps clear him out.

I'll not be around much either - MM going back to work has hit home how fast time has gone.