MSE Parents Club Part 10

elle_gee

Sorry, I'm watching yet another bizarrely intriguing programme (about tanning on BBC3).. who said tv wasn't educational?

Hope you get lots of sleep Maz, night night

Becles

Morning

Josh was planned. We had just moved from a horrid area to a nice area and I fell pregnant a few weeks after.

James was kind of planned. It was lets have another baby, then a week or so later I had second thoughts and wondered if it was better to wait a while, then a couple of weeks later I found out I was pregnant! Dunno what the second thoughts were as I never had them again once I knew I was expecting.

Charlotte was very much planned. Craig was desperate to get me pregnant

My parents come back from holiday tomorrow and I can't wait. Need to pop up with some groceries this morning, and turn their heating up. After three weeks the Goa sunshine, they're going to feel the cold!

ladybirdintheuk

Mornig all. I have a pleased with hersef baby - she has worked out how to climb up onto my lap when I'm sat on the sofa

Tara and MFD I hope we can have some more good news today.
DKAM have a great day moving your DS today. Does he start new school on monday.
Scruffy - is the costume for you or the baby?!!

Re plans, me, DH and Izzy were all planned. DH was only a surprise in that he turned out to be on BOGOF! MIL didn't find out till she was 7 months gone that there were two fo them, as she put on a stone in a few weeks, so the doctor sent her for an X-ray (:eek:!) to find out what was going on.

weezl74

MadDogWoman wrote: »

I'm also of the opinion of how is the little boy of the one who found out going to feel when he's older when he finds out he was the wrong gender and it made his mum depressed.

I have counselled a few young men who have known that they were not the desperately wanted girl. You are absolutely right that it can be very destructive and can lead to lots of issues in the man forming intimate relationships and to gender confusions of lots of types. They also can feel guilt to have let her down, which can lead to self-hatred, and when able to reject that feeling, hatred of her for doing that to him.

I do sometimes have 'pink pangs' and I think I shared my want to buy some really pretty monsoon dresses at a car boot before we knew that Kester is a he. My promise to myself and part of finding out his sex at 20 weeks is to be fully worked through about his gender by the time he's here, if I can.

elle_gee wrote: »

Oh, birthing pools, that reminds me... Weezl, how much are you thinking of spending? There's a brand new (cancelled home birth) birthing pool and all the kit with it for £120 on our netmums board

Wow! Well the martinness in me says, lets see if the cheaper ones work out and have it as a superb plan 'B', thanks Elle

SusanC wrote: »

It does seem an unecessary qualification. Perhaps what they are saying is that the health of their baby is more important to them than whether it is a boy or a girl but aren't quite getting the wording right?

Interesting that you and Elle raised this point. I usually mean it to try and challenge the view I've highlighted above that gender is so hugely important, and to suggest that other things are a greater priority. It feels too challenging to an acquaintance to say what I really want to which is: I just want so much for us both to live. Gender is neither here nor there.:)

I think they'd probably never speak to me again! Fair play, it would be kinda socially inappropriate:rotfl:

But I shall certainly try to think of a wording which utterly gets away from any idea that I would consider an unhealthy child to be a not-wanted or not loved child. Perish the very thought!

many thanks for help on the birth pools front and recipe testing, all duly acknowledged and I will be back to you on that!

Choppy, your message last night had me slapping my head in a complete d'oh moment. I had wrapped and addressed the book, and left it in a to do pile (of which my house is littered ATM) and did my trick of thinking, 'there we are that's sorted then!'. I'm so sorry, and I shallsend it today/tomorrow. Huge apologies.

xxx

SusanC_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

not sure what to say if Chris ever asked :huh:
I always say he was a welcome surprise if anyone asks me

Sounds like a good answer. Even though Alice was planned, I was quite suprised because I didn't expect it to happen so quickly and I had mentally prepared myself for the possibility of it taking a long time (just in case - no particular reason that I would expect it to take a long time) but never thought about the possibility of it happening staright away.

elle_gee wrote: »

Random mussing... eating strawberries in February in just bizarre :cool:

Unless you live in Florida in which case it's the strawberry season right now.

weezl74

morning becles and Ladybird,

Plannedness- my mum always told me that she'd only ever had unprotected sex 3 times. (I have one brother) so we were very planned. It was completely TMI but she was petrified that I would be super-fertile and end up a mum at 12 or something a bit scary.

Pah! as if I was a geeky girly swot at school and the boys much preferred the trendy laughing girls with make up on :D!

*get strong vibes to Tara DGD and MFSIL*

elle_gee

Morning all..

Had a sneezing fit while barely awake which woke me up properly with a jolt so I got up. It's going to feel like a long day!

Weezl, I was reading my handouts from the BFing supporter training on active listening last night, thinking, "this is how weezl talks"!

No plans here at all for today which feels quite strange.. Will see what time Rhys wakes up and go from there. Weather's miserable so might give going out a miss! :cool:

weezl74

elle_gee wrote: »

Weezl, I was reading my handouts from the BFing supporter training on active listening last night, thinking, "this is how weezl talks"!

*desperately hopes this is a good thing, rather than expressing myself like a bit of a willy head* :rotfl:

SusanC_2

weezl74 wrote: »

Interesting that you and Elle raised this point. I usually mean it to try and challenge the view I've highlighted above that gender is so hugely important, and to suggest that other things are a greater priority. It feels too challenging to an acquaintance to say what I really want to which is: I just want so much for us both to live. Gender is neither here nor there.:)

I think they'd probably never speak to me again! Fair play, it would be kinda socially inappropriate:rotfl:

I guess saying, "It's a human baby" probably falls under socially inappropriate too but when I was pregnant I was in a bad mood most of the time so I wasn't too concerned at the time.

elle_gee

No, it was a good thing! It was about saying, "I feel you are telling me...". Not sure I remember the rest, it was late and they're now at the end of Rhys' crib next to the bed so I daren't go get them but will reread later