MSE Parents Club Part 10

searching_me

MFD no you're not .. i could see myself have another but i could quite happily have the 2 and not be bothered .. philip wants at least 4 and i just dont want that many .. i dont wanna be in my late 40s still popping them out IYKWIM .. its an on going talk with philip but i know im on the depo for at least 2-3 years x

Sami_Bee

Elle to quote a very cool song, 3 it's a magic number, no more no less
I WILL get my 3rd baby mwahahaha (OH says if I suddenly get more 'interested' in him in about a year he's running off for the snip :rotfl:)

:shhh: I've got a sniper set on a parent facing buggy, saying no more to avoid informing the competition :cool:

Glamazon

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:

Now this is why I won't ask DH about more children!! Benjamin is his 4th and it was hard work getting him to agree to one. There was a point in our marriage where he told me that he didn't want any more kids and we pretty much hit rock bottom for a while. I don't want to go there again if he says no to any more

Although, chatting with the girls today, part of me can't imagine life with another one...but part of me can't imagine not having another one.

Am I the only one who is undecided?

We will definitely have one more - ideally we would like 3 but if we had the money so that I could give up work we would probably have more. I've got a large family so can't imagine just have J.
Pregnancy & labour was fairly easy first time round but who knows what will happen 2nd time?! I might decide I definitely don't want a 3rd!

MadDogWoman_2

MFD - I'd love another one but with my history I've had to accept that may not happen.

SM - I'll have one.

Be back in a minute just got to go and make an all-in-one chocolate cake for morning.

Glamazon

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Elle to quote a very cool song, 3 it's a magic number, no more no less
I WILL get my 3rd baby mwahahaha (OH says if I suddenly get more 'interested' in him in about a year he's running off for the snip :rotfl:)

:shhh: I've got a sniper set on a parent facing buggy, saying no more to avoid informing the competition :cool:

I say a buggy with twins in today - one was facing Dad the other was facing outwards. Not sure which one it was though cos I was driving and the writing was too small down the side for me to see!

You'll have to build it up over a period of time so he doesn't notice the 'extra' interest! :rotfl:

ManOnTheMoon

Subject of more kids - Yes, because it would be wrong of me to deny Lucy, just because I already have a few. Not yet, too early in the relationship, unless an unforseen incident happens. Finances not an issue and a stable home points to yes, but too early in relationship, but who knows when we will decide to 'go for it'.

elle_gee

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

.. Am I the only one who is undecided?

Nope, I'm completely undecided! I only decided on 2nd April (2008) I wanted kids and was preg by 25th June (see, I remember dates too!)! I have no idea.. I've honestly never really thought about how many kids I'll have / I want. I think I'll just wait and see if I ever think "It'd be nice to have another one" and then go with it. If that happens one more time or eleven more times (or never), so be it! *shrug*

ETA: It depends if we can afford to have more too.. I know for certain I'm not prepared to make too many sacrifices to our "standard of living" (is that the right phrase?) just to have more kids. If we're earning more or our costs go down, all good. If we can't afford it, no more kids. Simples!

Sami_Bee wrote: »

.. :shhh: I've got a sniper set on a parent facing buggy, saying no more to avoid informing the competition :cool:

AKA Tia?


PS This msg was so hard to type correctly and I've only had two glasses of wine.. I'm officially a lightweight!

carlamagee

SusanC wrote: »

Make list of parts needed for Roman blind
put Alice's presents in box (I buy stuff all the time and put them in a box ready for when it's birthday or Christmas and the box is a bit inaccessible at the moment)
Create general present box (birthday presents for other people so we don't lose them again)
Sort out Christmas box (because I packed it and then found some more Xmas decs I hadn't taken down but it's like one of those puzzles where the things only fit in one way so it's a long job)
Record Narnia CD onto tape (because Alice's CD player doesn't accept random CDs and she want's to listen to The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe.
Price up soda crystals
Decide on what Borax to get (which I can't do until I find my washing powder recipe which also tells me how much I use per year)
Clean windows
Find index cards
Sort out stationery
Get rid of teaset
Make engagement card for friend
Find WTP material (for aforementioned Roman blind)
Update price book
Write lisitngs for eBay
Take stuff to charity shop
Look for granola recipes online
Develop slowcooker, no-knead, sourdough bread recipe
Sort photos
Go through recipes
Make catechism cards
Make back up menu (for if I'm ill when next pregnant)
Make rag rug
Make Roman blind
Go through stamp collection and update spreadsheet
Review book
Finish wedding and honeymoon scrap books

Plus all the regular stuff like:
business accounts
our accounts
gas/electricity/groceries spreadsheets
menu plan
bread
yoghurt
buttermilk
kombucha
cream cheese
washing
shuffling everything around/decluttering/tidying in the hopes of finding a home for everything

wow. you are way too organised for me susan. i admire you.

searching_me wrote: »

night those off to bed ... im watching random crap on tv theres never anything good on x

its awful. i came offline to sit with OH for a while tonight and was bored off my backside with it. so here i am! :T

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Subject of more kids - Yes, because it would be wrong of me to deny Lucy, just because I already have a few. Not yet, too early in the relationship, unless an unforseen incident happens. Finances not an issue and a stable home points to yes, but too early in relationship, but who knows when we will decide to 'go for it'.

i cannot imagine having 3 kids, never mind 7 thinking about another one. I really admire you for havng the patience and time for each of them. I think i would be in a mental home. lol

searching_me

if i decided kids on my money situation id never have kids .. because everytime i have a child my money situation gets worse (not because of the child just coz hidden debts hit me) x

My_Fathers_Daughter

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Subject of more kids - Yes, because it would be wrong of me to deny Lucy, just because I already have a few. Not yet, too early in the relationship, unless an unforseen incident happens. Finances not an issue and a stable home points to yes, but too early in relationship, but who knows when we will decide to 'go for it'.

Wrong of you to deny Lucy???

What a strange way to look at it.


I am certainly glad that my husband (who had 3 boys already) didn't just decide to have children with me because it would be 'wrong to deny me children'. In fact, I would find that incredibly insulting.

I apologise if I have picked up on a minor point or a turn of phrase and turned things around but personally I would rather be without than be given a child 'out of duty'.