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loopy-loo73

Hi,
I'm going to be miserable at you all for a minute now so i apologise in advance. Went out yesterday with OH & DD and we had a lovely time (we went to the zoo ). Stayed at my sis's last night & had a bit too much vino, but that's not unusual .
Problem is now i'm miserable ... and have very bad tendancies to comfort eat which i'm trying so hard to avoid.
Sis told me this morning that OH had tried to grope her last night :eek: ok so we've all been pi**ed before & her fella tries occasionally and gets a slap from me but its all in good humour & we all have a laugh about it.
But she wanted to tell me so i didn't think she'd led him on ??? ok well that to me sounds like more than a grope. Me & her fella had already gone to bed by this point.
SO i spoke to my OH when we got home today. explained i felt upset, angry & embarrassed all at the same time. He looked sheepish & said sorry.
but i'm still miserable ... don't feel any better ... and don't want to go eat the muffins that are in the kitchen for DD !!!
Ok sorry ... moan over but you guys are so good at keeping me on the straight & narrow ... will go & start my prawn curry instead.
feel a little better for moaning ... sorry again.
lou

stressedoutmum

Well I think you deserve a big pat on the back for not downing the muffins already - which is what I would have done. Hopefully you've got everything sorted now but DONT COMFORT EAT because you'll end up being p*ssed at yourself for doing so which means you might eat more then think [EMAIL="s@d"]s@d[/EMAIL] it and carry on eating - you'll only be hurting yourselves. Move away from the muffins - :T :T

Eels100

Just wanted to give loopy-loo73 a big hug because I can understand why you still feel down and I know how hard it is not to comfort eat. I just wanted to say I am sure that you wouldn't want something stupid your OH did to be the thing that knocks you off the wagon, and I am sure you can turn it around. I find when I am down about something in particular, when talking hasn't helped it's because A) there's something I still need to say or there's something I still need to hear or C) it's actually all sorted but I need to take myself off for a walk to clear my head and absorb what's been said and mull it over. I am thinking of you (and I ate 2 macaroni pies yesterday because OH met up with his ex for coffee).

Lois_Lane

honey28 wrote:

Delly - how much will this make - is this a 1 person portion? I make pudding on Sunday (we eat at my mums house) and was wondering could I make this - she is also following sw, but there will be 5 adults eating it.

Well done Minerva, and pug - dont worry about the gain, at least you know where you went wrong.
Suggs - that sucks, but keep at it, Dont give up now. It will start moving again soon. I like Jeni's idea about taking lady suggs away again :rotfl:

Hi Honey - the ingredients above make two good size helpings, so if you double them up, it should be enough for five slightly smaller helpings. You could bulk it up with some fresh fruit - mango is a great addition to rice pudding, or you could try sliced peaches or nectarines.

LL

honey28

Hugs to Loopyloo - and also to Katyk.

madauri

Hello guys, how are you doing? Hopefully fine. Lou, you can moan as much as you want if that's going to make you feel better.
Instead of going for the muffins, give your OH a good kick in the shin so he has a slight idea of how bad that made you feel.

I am happy to say that I've lost another pound! Oh, if only I managed to lose one pound every week, next year by this time I'd have lost more than fifty pounds! That would be perfect!

Now let's see if I can keep it like that

My strategy this week: I planned the meals in advance, only instead of using the recipe book I went back to the essentials, i.e., made a list of everything I had in the kitchen and chose the meals accordingly and cooked simple dishes of the sort I've always had, but within the SW rules. It worked fine! I spent less than my already lowered budget allowed -so hopefully I'll be able to make it lower again soon- and didn't feel so much pressure with cooking, since I made dishes I've cooked for ages and they feel pretty fast to prepare to me, and fully satisfying. I did try a new one, a vegetable curry with lentils that I've been keeping in a jar for months. A very positive week!

Lois_Lane

Hi Stressedoutmum - ((((hugs)))) - you sound like you really need some moral support. Great news about the reduction. This is obviously something you wanted very much, because these operations aren't handed out left right and centre by the NHS, so you must have convinced them that it will make a big difference to your life.

We all need something to focus on to motivate us to lose weight, and this is your motivation, you just need to make your mind up that you want to do it, you're going to do it, and your reward will be a slimmer, healthier you.

A BMI of 34 puts you in the obese bracket, but reducing your BMI to 30 or less would mean you were merely overweight - and to us, they're just words that mean we're fat, but to the surgeons, it's the difference between having someone on the operating table who is a high risk for things going wrong, and having someone who is less of a risk. The last thing surgeons want is to lose a patient, and I'm sure you wouldn't want to take that risk either.

I go an all inclusive holiday in 10 days time for 2 weeks and I dont want to have to stick to a diet when we've paid all this money for the holiday.

I know what all inclusive holidays are like - as much food and drink as you can consume - and you have paid for it after all. I also know what it's like to come back from a holiday and stepping on the scales to find I've gained a stone in 2 weeks. The problem is that it takes longer than 2 weeks to lose it again.

Which would you rather do, get your moneysworth, only to beat yourself up when you get back, or try to be sensible and have less of a problem to deal with? I'm not suggesting for a moment that you should stick to a strict diet to the point of being a diet bore, but it is possible to choose healthier options - have a few drinks but make them low calorie, and for every alcoholic drink you have, drink the same amount of water - have small portions of main course foods and fill up your plate with vegetables or salad - avoid deep fried foods - limit yourself to a couple of high calorie treats each day.

This is your holiday, so enjoy it and don't make yourself miserable by thinking you've got to go without all the things you like - just try not to go mad.

Is there a quick start diet to get me encouraged.

You could try Weightwatchers or Rosemary Conley - you can do them both online, and they have a quickstart programme that can get you started. To be honest, they're very restrictive - you can only have 1200 calories a day on Rosemary Conley.

I recommend you try Slimming World - and I recommend attending a class if you can. I know you've said its not possible, but attending a class is the best way to lose weight - you will have the support of your consultant and the support of lots of people on this thread who can answer questions and pat you on the back when you lose weight. SW doesn't have a quick start programme, but people who do it often have huge weight losses in their first week - half a stone isn't unusual.

Also she has told me to do some exercise - can anyone recommend a good exercise dvd with decent music I can sing along to as I hate doing them but I know exercise will benefit me.

I have a copy of Rosemary Conley's exercise video, which is good because there are three mini workouts that last for about 10 minutes each, which you can do on their own, or you can do all three one after the other, when your fitness and energy levels increase. You can choose the level you want to work at too - so if you're not ready for high impact aerobics, you just keep it low.

I know its easy to say I got myself this fat and I should lose it but its not quite as cut and dried as that. thanks.

Only someone who has never had a weight problem would say its easy to lose weight - the people on here know different, and you will have all our support and encouragement, but you're the only one that can do it.

Do speak to your doctor as she will be able to offer advice, and you can get help to lose weight - they can support you financially to attend a slimming class or gym if your weight is causing a risk to health.

My final piece of advice is that you break down your target into 'bite sized chunks' - set yourself a target to lose a stone, then when you achieve that, go for your second stone, and so on. That way, you can convince yourself that your goal is achievable, and then anything's possible!

Good luck - and keep us posted!

LL

Lois_Lane

honey28 wrote:

Hugs to Loopyloo - and also to Katyk.

Ditto - and keep your chins up...

LL

katyk_2

LoupyLou - I think you have shown great restraint by not throwing the muffins at him, let alone not eating them! Maybe your new 'exercise regime' should include a punchbag and you could pin a photo on it when it seemed necessary!!;)

Stressedoutmum, I do feel for you. I am about a 40F and, whilst I have not thought seriously about a reduction they can be the most almighty pain. I getquite a lot of pain in my neck and shoulders some times and I am sure they must contribute. But LL is right, it would be silly to undergo surgery if your BMI is so high (think mine is even higher - that thought brought me down to Earth with a bump) when it is the kind of surgery that it is possible to delay until you have time to shed a bit. I agree that you will get there in the end, with such a strong goal to aim for.

Meanwhile thanks, Honey and LL, for the support. It has just been a bit of a stressful time lately and I seem to be trying to eat my way through it! I work in small company with only about 5 other employees and my supervisor and the owner have been at each others throats ever since I started there nearly 6 months ago, and each seems to think I should be on their side. It has reached the full blown shouting matches, floods of tears and slamming doors stage and I am well and truly stuck in the middle without any desire to be there. It will all end eventually as I am sure my supervisor will go soon, either by her own choice or otherwise, but then it may be even more stressful as I will be on my own in a mucked up department where most of what has gone wrong is really only known fully to her....:o

Other than that we decided to have central heating put in, only to find that when they strted lifting floorboards etc to put it in that we may have a wet rot problem that we knew nothing about!:mad:

madauri

Sorry to hear about your stressful job, katyk. Those two people sound very unprofessional.
If you inherit your supervisor muck I hope you won't inherit the rows as well.