The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI

graemecarter

Leigh73 wrote: »

Hi all,

I'm feeling so down and hopeless about things.

Ended up going on a 2 day bender, and drinking Friday and Saturday :-/

I got my a*se to an AA meeting Saturday lunchtime.

Told them I don't know how they do it.. and I don't.

Im angry, and jealous of the fact that they can stay sober.. and I can't.

Not healthy.

Need a job, and don't know where to start.

Night night folks,

Leigh xx

No-one knows how AA works in their early days. So all you need to do is accept that it works for the people in the meeting, and keep going back and then you'll figure it out. If you go to AA meetings, the people there can help you and then you'll be like them soon enough if you're open, honest, and willing.
If you don't go to a meeting, they won't be able to help.

EVERYONE at their first meetings feels like you do - I felt they had a secret they were not telling me, and thus I was resentful at them for having their lives so sorted.
They felt like you did too remember.

Good luck

gien

Wise words as ever GC.
Luihut, moving to live abroad is enormously stressful, and after a year there you are well through the honeymoon phase and into the nitty gritty of really adapting to your new life (I too live abroad although in Europe). Many folk I know here and in the past have ended drinking far too much to cope with the strain.
Interestingly, one thing that helps me is that the local culture is not one of heavy/binge drinking. I rather think the Australian culture is the opposite, no (at least judging by the Aussies I know here - they're worse than the Brits).

Jo, let's try and enjoy the bumps in the road ahead, stay focused and rise to the challenge. We're a big group - there must be safety in numbers!

HAve a good day folks.

40somethingmum

69chick wrote: »

I havn't been around much lately, lots going on and tbh have been rubbish on the af front.:o..will try to read back later on when I get a chance but wanted to quickly say hi and if it is possible add myself to the challenge that starts tonight...

Lovely to see Budgie posting although it looks like you are in need of some hugs hunny so sending some virtually to you xxx

Hope I can get back on track and catch up properly with everyone..:)

xx

69Chick!! :j:j. Good to have you back , girl;)

40somethingmum

4 AF days for me WBF

Thanks

40SMXx

69chick

Thanks for the welcome back 40sm :j I failed last night but I sort of knew I would as it was sort of the last day of our holiday...

Today I am feeling much more positive about the future and am determined that I won't drink today...

I would like to put myself up for the challenge and it really will be a challenge this week as I have not had an afd for ages and ages...

Have seen some stuff on here about the book 'Living Sober' thought I might order it as I would truly love to stop using drink as my de-stresser in the evenings....

Glad to be back, still need to do lots of catching up

xx

fedupandskint

69chick wrote: »

I would like to put myself up for the challenge and it really will be a challenge this week as I have not had an afd for ages and ages

Hi there! Would you like me to add you to the list for the 96hr challenge?

Lurkio

Wanna_Bee_Free wrote: »

If I can find one for you then definitely! Need more caffeine to understand you though... Can start as many times as you like. Did you want to change your target?
Shaggy, thanks for the great Garfield, that sums me up this morning 100%!

:doh: :doh: :doh: :doh: :wall: :wall: :wall: :wall:


I meant STAR...... it WAS early

and I am a 'no target' this month


:wave: 69chick :wave:

jo1972

Morning all, again

Bluddy hell am I tired I woke up at 4am and finally got back to sleep at around 6.30am then OH woke me up when he was getting ready for work at 8am

BUT, I have woken in a tremendous mood and am more than ready to kick this 96 hour malarky into touch

I have one week left before NJD (new job day ), this time next week I will already be a couple of hours in! And so I have decided to spend this week being positive and setting the frame of mind I will need. With this in mind I will be setting myself small goals throughout the week....and yes they will be small (very small )

Todays goals are:

Taking kids to local forest for a trek then visit the farm

Quick inventory of foodstuff and make plans for cheap meals this week

Get back this afternoon and.......please someone save me....hoover

Then spend the rest of the evening watching soaps and not drinking alcohol

So, a fairly easy day to start off

I will also be using as many different smilies that I can possibly find

Anyway, won't keep you lot much longer, off to get the kids ready for our forest jaunt!

Just received an email which is very corny but quite apt for my mood today so thought I'd post it....

'An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.

At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water..

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments.

But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.

'I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.'

The old woman smiled, 'Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side?'

'That's because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.'

For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table.

Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.'

Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding.

You've just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.

SO, to all of my cracked pot friends, have a great day and remember to smell the flowers on your side of the path!'

Signing off now, be vigilant

xx

Icandothis_2

Morning
I would like to declare another AF day for a total of 3 please WBF.
Could you put me on the list for the 96 hour challenge please fedupandskint? I was going to try for Mon - Wed anyway so want to extend that to Thurs.
Welcome to liuhut.
ICDT

fedupandskint

96 Hour Challenge

Mon - Thurs

Sparkles
Lurkio
PBT
Mookie
PP
Miss P
Jo
DB
Fay
40SM
Saorsie
Marru
gien
honeybear
YM
Budgie
WBF
Bubble
Icandothis

Anyone else to add or remove from the list just let me know and I'll edit away

Almost 10 hours in now - hope the nightime was ok for everyone

Let's keep strong and block out the bells if they ring later on