The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI

Wanna_Bee_Free

gien wrote: »

WBF, I have really little idea what number of AFDs I'm on now - more than two but less than 11...
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Hi Gien

I've looked at your posts since the end of March. You posted being AF 1/4, not AF on 6/4 and then back on the wagon 7/4 & 8/4. So that sounds like 3 up to Thursday? How did this weekend go, any more on Fri Sat or Sun?

G'night, sleep tight.

Leigh73

Hi all,

I'm feeling so down and hopeless about things.

Ended up going on a 2 day bender, and drinking Friday and Saturday :-/

I got my a*se to an AA meeting Saturday lunchtime.

Told them I don't know how they do it.. and I don't.

Im angry, and jealous of the fact that they can stay sober.. and I can't.

Not healthy.

Need a job, and don't know where to start.

Night night folks,

Leigh xx

yellowmonkey

Hi Leigh

Sorry to hear you are feeling down tonight but well done on attending a meeting on the Saturday. That is something that I have not had the courage to do and try not to think of what other people are capable of doing.

I get down sometimes when I know people who I work with are on better money than me but at the end of the day it does not effect how I live my life so I try not to worry too much.

Hope things look better in the morning and dont beat yourself up about the little blip. You are not the first that has happened too and you wont be the last

Been there myself

Take care

yellowmonkey

fedupandskint wrote: »

The next 96 Hour Challenge starts at midnight Sun 11 Apr

Feeling good so far

liuhut

thank you so much for the comments on my post and the welcome.
I was feeling down as OH had been drinking since 1pm and had then fallen asleep. He had had 5 days prior to that with no drinking and we worked out that it was the first time in 18 years that he had gone that long with out a drink.
I drink as well, I probably have half a bottle of red wine every night, maybe a few beers sometimes as well. Its OH that I'm really worried about although i know I need to cut down too. We went out the other weekend and he was dancing with DD, he was so drunk he fell on her, shse is 9 and is now aware of when Daddy is drunk, she was telling him...I think the worse bit..well there are two...one was that the look on peoples faces as they walked past, it was awful..the main one is that DD is never going to forget that is she?? We had had a lovely day and it just totally spoilt it. Just to say, she wasn't hurt when he fell on her, they were on grass but it doesnt really change what happened does it...
to be fair, OH then didnt have a drink for 4 days after that, something he has never done and finially admited that its getting out of hand. He is an all or nothing person I think, he cannot just have one can of beer and leave it..... we will see what happens this week, I have hidden all the beer and wine leftover from yesterday

liuhut

Also YellowMonkey... lol about the upside down bit, we really are... the Moon is the wrongway round when we look at it down here!! and that when I sober!!
I am from England, we moved over here just over a year ago, I think the drinking has got worse with the stress of emigrating tbh

yellowmonkey

Morning Liuhut

Hard as it sounds he is going to have to WANT to give up. It seems as if he is aware of the consequences that his drinking is having through the eyes of your DD and he did stop for 4 days. I know when I was smoking everyone was telling me to stop but I only managed it when the penny dropped for me and me alone.

Difficult one and I do not have the answer but I hope things work out OK.

Hope you dont mind but what is the time in Melbourne ATM ?

yellowmonkey

liuhut wrote: »

Also YellowMonkey... lol about the upside down bit, we really are... the Moon is the wrongway round when we look at it down here!! and that when I sober!!
I am from England, we moved over here just over a year ago, I think the drinking has got worse with the stress of emigrating tbh

It always sounds so exciting moving to another Country and starting a new life

liuhut

Its 10.45am Monday morning, we just changed our clocks so we are 9 hours in front now...makes it a Bit easier to Skype people back home!
Yeah I agree, he has managed 4 days and then 5 which I was very impressed with, I did the same which I was pleased about as if I've had a stressful day, I reach for the red wine!
I think I'm just going to have to try to be the one that stays dry and hope that he will do the same, I did have a small glass of red wine last night but it was DD's birthday and I had a big party, felt I needed it!

EDIT 10.50...took me so long to type!!

liuhut

Yeah I agree ....sounds exciting and loads of people want to do it...but best discription is a roller coster... We have had some great time exploring the place but its starting life again, new friends, new jobs, new schools, just finding where the local petrol station is when your about to run out!!! We have found a lot of support in other expats but there have been times when it has been SO stressful,