The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI

yellowmonkey

Going to sign off now and tidy things up and then home.

Have a great day everyone and hope your achieve everything that you set out to do.

Mine is to sleep until at least 2pm

Edit....Bye Jo. Enjoy the birdsong ( insert smile )

Au Revoir

shaggydoo

Morning all :hello:

11 for me please WBF



Have a Nice Day!

Shaggy

shaggydoo

Budgie -


Sorry you're having a tough time:(

fedupandskint

96 Hour Challenge
Mon - Thurs

Sparkles
Lurkio
PBT
Mookie
PP
Miss P
Jo
DB
Fay
40SM
Saorsie
Marru
gien
honeybear
YM
Budgie
WBF

Anyone else to add or remove from the list just let me know and I'll edit away

Almost 7hours in now - hope the nightime was ok for everyone

Let's keep strong and block out the bells if they ring later on

fedupandskint

jo1972 wrote: »

Thanks to those that offered their hands to me last night, I will accept all of em if you don't mind have a feeling its gonna be a bumpy ride.

Good - we'll overcome those potholes together

yellowmonkey wrote: »

Tiring work making sure you are all safe when tucked up in bed at night

absolutely! You did a good job though - all safe here

Lurkio

Morning all

I think I started the challenge a day early :rotfl:

Can I have another start please ,WBF?

Hope we're all ok?

Wanna_Bee_Free

Lurkio wrote: »

Can I have another start please ,WBF?

If I can find one for you then definitely! Need more caffeine to understand you though... Can start as many times as you like. Did you want to change your target?
Shaggy, thanks for the great Garfield, that sums me up this morning 100%!

Bubble1379

Morning all

11 AFDs for me please, WBF

Can I join the 96 hour challenge too?

Hope everyone has a good day.

Bubble

graemecarter

liuhut wrote: »

Its 10.45am Monday morning, we just changed our clocks so we are 9 hours in front now...makes it a Bit easier to Skype people back home!
Yeah I agree, he has managed 4 days and then 5 which I was very impressed with, I did the same which I was pleased about as if I've had a stressful day, I reach for the red wine!
I think I'm just going to have to try to be the one that stays dry and hope that he will do the same, I did have a small glass of red wine last night but it was DD's birthday and I had a big party, felt I needed it!

EDIT 10.50...took me so long to type!!

The only person you can keep alcohol free is yourself. Expectations of others frequently leads to disappointment and resentment.
Alcohol plays such a big part in so many people's lives that the desire to cut down/give up has to be strong and come from within. Your OH will only try and cut down/give up when he feels ready, regardless of how you feel.
By all means be an example to him by cutting down/stopping yourself, but do not expect him to follow your lead.

Unfortunately, some people put alcohol before relationships with their loved ones. I myself sometimes let down my wife, not coming home for dinner when I said I would, as I was drinking.
I would be regularly hungover when playing with my kids, and thus I wasn't really there. This is because my relationship with alcohol was prioritized before
my relationships with others. At the time I thought I was the best husband and father in the world, but with hindsight I realised that my alcoholism made me very selfish.

Alcohol damages me and hurts those close to me. Why did I carry on drinking? Because I was alcoholic, and couldn't see clearly the misery that my drinking would inflict on the people I thought I truly loved.
Stopping the drinking and changing myself was necessary for me to stop this damaging and destructive behaviour. However, it was a long time coming until I was ready to be willing to do anything to stop. People are ready when they are ready. And sometimes they will lose jobs, houses, families, friends, etc first. Some people will lose their lives to alcohol before admitting they have issues.
It sounds like your OH and yourself acknowledge there is a problem and want to do something about it. Well done and good luck :T

graemecarter

yellowmonkey wrote: »

Morning Liuhut

Hard as it sounds he is going to have to WANT to give up. It seems as if he is aware of the consequences that his drinking is having through the eyes of your DD and he did stop for 4 days. I know when I was smoking everyone was telling me to stop but I only managed it when the penny dropped for me and me alone.

Difficult one and I do not have the answer but I hope things work out OK.

Hope you dont mind but what is the time in Melbourne ATM ?

So true YM - and there is no answer. The most we spectators can do is offer support, compassion, and honest advice. We have to give time time