The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI

Lilith1980

Hi all,

Unfortunately I didn't have an AFD yesterday although to be fair I only had about a quarter of a glass of wine at home and I think I did well considering.....my husband and I are definitely separating

It's not acrimonious, we're both very upset about it. We were initially going to go to Relate for other issues but another one came up recently which blew the others away and that was that my hubby wants kids and I don't. We decided when we got together that we weren't 'kids people' but he has since changed his mind.

I don't feel angry towards him about this at all, I respect his decision. I said I cannot promise that I will change my mind and want kids and he said he couldn't take the risk of staying with me and hoping I did. I understand that totally.

So, he went out and got a bottle of wine (he drunk the rest of the one in the fridge). He poured me a glass but I didn't touch much of it which I was proud of. I wasn't even tempted to drown my sorrows in it.

At the moment we aren't telling anyone and there is no rush for me to move out (would need to save for new bits and bobs) so I'm not panicking or anything. I think at the moment it's about me grieving. I recognise this is a new chapter for both of us, and I am not frightened about being on my own. If anything I am actually excited as we have been growing apart for a while, but at the moment the overwhelming feelings are sadness.

My birthday has paled into insignificance and I really can't be bothered going out. I've got a friend coming up to stay as well and I wish she wasn't. I won't be telling her, she has an issue with men and would rip hubby's head off

Not slept very well and got uni today so hope I can keep awake. Just feel sick in my stomach and unashamedly looking for hugs really peeps

Won't be back on here 'til lunchtime probably so thanks in advance for the support cos you're a great bunch in here.

Thanks for listening to me waffle x

shaggydoo

Morning all :wave:

I've done a calendar month without a drink :j Mostly this is because I've been trying to lose weight as I was due to meet up with some school friends at Easter. Found out last night that this has been put back until July. Dissapointed that I won't be meeting old friends but at least I have a new dieting date to aim for iyswim.




Shaggy

yellowmonkey

Sorry to hear this Lilith and dont really know what to say so I wont only that I wish you the best and I am thinkng of you

ym

yellowmonkey

Feel a bit about posting this after Liliths post but it may give you some ideas why I have not been here lately and sorry for being self indulgant

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=2342869

shaggydoo

YM - I don't really understand anything about BR - why is 12 months an important milestone? Glad the 12 months is over though :-)

shaggydoo

Lilith1980 wrote: »

.....my husband and I are definitely separating

Shaggy

shaggydoo

MAD (March Alcohol Detox)


Castri09 - 10/31

Decemberbaby - 3/10

fayjmck - 9/25
fedupandsparkles - 12/29

fruitycar - 8/22

gien - 6/21
Holliegarson - 9/20
HoneyBear - 10/20

Icandothis - 7/10

IcelandicMaiden - 2/31

Jo1972 - 7/TF*

lamarsi - 1/21

Lilith - 8/15

Lurkio - 5/15

Mamam - 5/10

Mollypolly - 13/31
Marru - 15/31

Mookiepook - 6/27

Moutain of Debt - 3/21
Paybacktime - 16/TF*

Price Is Right - 11/25

Shaggydoo - 15/17
Saorsie - 13/23

Shellywb - 8/23

So Sad Angel - 12/31

WannabeeFree - 8/15

115k - 5/TF*

*TF = Target Free

A Bag of gold coins when you reach 7 days and another at 14 days


Well Done Everyone :T:T:T:T

Shaggy

Lilith1980

Hi, thanks for your hugs and support

YM - don't be daft I don't think you're being self-indulgent at all. I'm comforted knowing I have the support of people here

jo1972

Hugs to you Lilith, please stick around for hugs and support xx

Haven't read back anymore than this page yet so hope everyone is okay?

I've not had time to post, totally manic at work as still doing colleagues work and I don't get the laptop in the evenings cos of all the homework and poker that has to be done *rolleyes*

Don't think I updated yesterday did I Shaggy? I've stayed AF (god knows how but I have).

Not feeling any benefits yet *shruggy*

Gotta dash and get ready for work. Chow for now :wave:

Lurkio

Best of luck, lilith. (((hugs)))


Well done shaggy :T :T

And "what shaggy said" ym - I don't understand either



Another one for me please shaggy 6 so far (which aint great, but......)