The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI

Pippilongstocking

RecoveringAlcoholic wrote: »

Go back to AA. Loads of folks have been in your position.



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Cazz I think you're action plan is great and I also think RA is right

Its so nice to see you posting - we're here and I think that you're taking all the right steps

Call your local group again if you can - they were helping you so much before.

Have you thought of a second job or somthing like volunteering for those study days or is the workload too heavy?

Hugs xxxx

Pippilongstocking

I liked the peedie house btw - not v rural in some senses - but in others it backs right onto fields with lovely views and it even has a spare room.........or two.....

And a very very peedie greenhouse

Lurkio

fayjmck wrote: »

I liked the peedie house btw - not v rural in some senses - but in others it backs right onto fields with lovely views and it even has a spare room.........or two.....

And a very very peedie greenhouse

sorry Dr, just for clarity.......

peedie = small?

I've seen it a few times and feel a bit daft asking now, but I'm never sure....

graemecarter

cazzasmazza wrote: »

I write this while I am drunk. I just want to say that so I am not in denial when I read it back some time in the future. I AM DRUNK.

I admit I had a great morning watching telly and drinking - I have really enjoyed myself and I have felt great.

But now I feel hiccuppy and awful and heartburny and I have not eaten any food since breakfast. I am worried about when my partner comes home at 4pm from work. I am going to be a mess. But I am not worried that much because I have got myself into this mess.....

I have prepared, on the strength of yesterday's post and wonderful suppportive replies, an action plan which may give me some hope. Please let me know what you think.

Step 1 -I have the car (I can drop off and thus have to collect my partner after work - I NEVER drink and drive so will be forced to stay AF and if I don't, my partner is stranded at work and I would never let that happen.) Currently she has the car for work and I get lifts to uni. On study days I should not stay at home - like today where I am free for hours to drink.

Step 2 - Give my partner all my money cards and have no cash - she should have my debit, credit cards and also she should check my purse for money so I don't have anything to buy booze with.

Step 3 - on private study days (I am a student nurse) I should get away from the house, e.g. library, study day with a friend, so I can't secretly drink on my own.

What do you all think?

Hugs
Caz
xxxx

While it is admirable you are taking certain steps to be AF, I don't think what you plan will work.
It sounds like you are planning on denying yourself alcohol by altering your circumstances. I know if I had planned the same (I did similar plans) that I would alter my plans when I really wanted a drink.
Step 1 - While you have never driven drunk, there could always be a first time. I am sure 5 years ago you may have said to yourself that you would not be getting drunk in the daytime, watching TV and writing on a forum about stopping drinking. Alcoholism is progressive. It takes us to places we said we would NEVER go to
Step 2 - The onus should not be on your partner to police you - and I am sure if you want a drink you will obtain money somehow.
Step 3 - Admirable again, but only you can insist on getting out of the house. If you want to stay in and drink, then you will

What I can see working is removing the desire to drink - then you won't have to go to these steps to prevent you drinking. Wanting something and not being able to have it is ratrher miserable, and I guess that's how you'd be if you were to execute this plan

There was a lot of positivity from your posts when you were attending AA meetings (and you managed some periods of being AF)
Try it again, and get to a meeting everyday. If you work at AA, it will work for you. It's easier than following this plan.....

Good luck whatever you do.

Pippilongstocking

Lurkio wrote: »

sorry Dr, just for clarity.......

peedie = small?

I've seen it a few times and feel a bit daft asking now, but I'm never sure....

Yup - Orcadian for a small thing/person/event

My dog is peedie - hence he never got a proper name

paybacktime2008

Hugs to Cazzamazza. Listen to the wise ones- RA and Graeme. They've both been there got the t - shirt.

Fay-I have an overwhelming urge to shout NO to you!!!. I know I would curl up and die without a garden of my own. Maybe do the flick the coin trick heads you dont get the house tails you do and see what your reaction is...always works for me! Good luck with whatever you deciede.

Jo-My dates in a pub/resturant. Talk about a challenge! He knows I'm not drinking though so won't have to put up with all the 'Oh go on just have one carp' well at least I hope not anyway......off to declutter and clean while my mum does a puzzle with ds.

holliegarson

Cazz

Hugs to you - it's such a bleak lonely place and such a whirl of emotions seem to spinning around your head. I think I agree with graeme - your plan is so well intentioned but I think he is right in that you will/can find ways around it if you get desperate.

Be brave - call AA - they will welcome you back and I am sure it will help.

I x

castri09_2

hi this might sound a silly question at the mo im feeling sick, head aches tired do you think this might be wine withdraw its my second day and im feeling like !!!!.before monday i can remember when was the last time i didnt have a drink for day.
hug to everyone that needs a hug

Pippilongstocking

Castri09 I think maybe your body is detoxing - stick with lots of fluids and be nice to yourself

PBT - Aw thanks for caring - I went today - it does have a decent (by normal standards) sized back garden and a greenhouse, patio, lots rooom around the house for pots and a front lawn area as well and my bedroom would have an upstairs balcony big enough to put pots and sit out on - I'd truely die without a garden. Have emailed them to say Ok - we like it enough to find out more - its a nice family house IYSWIM - we often do the flick of the coin thing with the kids - good advice!!

Goodluck on the date

paybacktime2008

If you think about it Castri when you drink it numbs you. Numbs sensations and feelings...what i'm trying to say is there probably is a link between the two and also in the past a good cure or pick me up for tiredness/headache was a drink. Now I cannot beleive i used to stay up to 2am regularly dfrinking and back up at 6am....how i managed that for years god only knows.When i stopped the merry go round i relaised how utterly and completely shattered my body and mind were. So Yes its probably the alcohol leaving your system but stick with it because it truely is worth it.