elantan's diary

itsarichmansworld

me too

Take her a wee card or a bottle I'm sure she'll appreciate it Elan!

itsarichmansworld

I kinda snuck up all you 2 there didnt I !



oh and trying on a new sig! next week at least it will be true!

elantan

i like the looks of the one you have just now ..unsecured debt free nice one ...mortgage 55000 i can only dream of having one like that ....

Snaggles

It looks okay to me too....I only have a small mortgage, but it will be a while before I'm debt free!

itsarichmansworld

:rotfl:

Well cheque tomorrow its a bankers draft I think so it clears straight away
:beer:

Cant wait!

How you feeling snaggles?

onedayiwill

Elan ... please drop in past your neighbour and say "Hi".

I know exactly how she feels. It can be so difficult to speak ... wanting to make friends with people but speaking is so hard. It brings up so many questions ... should I say this? Should I say that? Did they understand me? Did I say something wrong? What if I upset them? etc etc.

I have really struggled to speak - there is a huge anxiety surrounding it for me - and this and my frustration with not being able to speak was one of the things that spiralled me into the pits of my depression.

Take her a nice card you've made, something for her garden or something you've baked. She will appreciate it so much. She may not be able to say anything though ... so be prepared to do the talking. Don't worry about boring her! For me, having someone talk to me is never boring, it helps me to know that they think I am "good enough" to talk to, and I think she will feel the same.


These days I am doing much better. I still struggle to speak a lot of the time but I now have a friend who I can actually speak freely to. A friend who made me go to the doctor and get help for my depression.

And all because she took an interest in me, brought me a cup of tea and said "Hello" and told me about her day. After that I wrote to her a lot (by email) even though I saw her regularly during the week...it took a long time until I could actually speak properly to her. She would talk to me during the week, about what she as doing, responding to any questions or comments I had written in my email and I would just listen. She didn't care that I didn't respond. I couldn't even make eye contact. And then eventually one day ... I spoke. And with her, at least, I haven't stopped talking!

I still struggle with other people though ... but things continue to improve. I do still mainly communicate in writing, but I challenge myself every day to speak to at least one new person. I always start the conversation with a smile and say "Happy Thursday! " (or whatever day it is). Usually the other person goes "Is it?" and I say "Of course it is. " and then make a comment about the weather or how near the weekend it is. And after a while ... it gets easier.

So, take her a home made gift and say "Happy Thursday..."

Snaggles

itsarichmansworld wrote:

How you feeling snaggles?

I'm feeling okay thanks, I've not done much this afternoon after feeling so wiped out this morning, and it's been nice to have a rest!

Hope you're okay too?

Snaggles

That's a lovely post onedayiwill - I'm so glad things are improving for you.

itsarichmansworld

I'm being extremely lazy as per usual not had a day off in over a week!

Right need to clean my house :wave: by friends! and oneday great response! I'll certainly remember that I have opposite problem extremely loud mouthed

Snaggles

Don't work too hard rich!