Social Phobia and work?

fizzytrinket

well get through those as best you can.
please try the gp and tell us how you get on.

off to bed now. 'night.

exitroute?

Nos da x..i find this site a nuisance to use and have to keep going back to the forum home page to see if anyone has posted. is there an easier way to do it?

piggeh

exitroute? wrote: »

Nos da x..i find this site a nuisance to use and have to keep going back to the forum home page to see if anyone has posted. is there an easier way to do it?

use the forum tools option at the top of the thread, then click 'subscribe to thread'. Then you can keep track of threads through your control panel.

QueenOfComps

problem solved.

fizzytrinket

JemmaLouise20 wrote: »

I will try the gp, just got too try and tell my mum first. I just want too beable too do things and i feel like telling her is like admitting too her that i cant do nothing for myself and i am 20 years old.
I feel so silly waiting for my mum too get home from work and asking her too ring someone, why cant i just do it?? but my mind tells me i cant.

this is why you need help. you've put barriers up. all the steps now are going to be challenging for someone with a phobia/anxiety.

exitroute?

You have nothing to 'admit' to anyone. This is about how you feel inside and that needs to be explained to someone who can help you. We dont know the situation. I am curious to know lots of things about you but at the end of the day, your problems began in your childhood and the help you need should come from experts in this field. It would help you to try and view things in a different way. You know you CAN make a phone call in that you are not disabled. You have a phone, hands to pick up the receiver and key in the number and ears and a voice. ie: you have all that is needed to make a phone call. The reasons why making a call is a problem for you are all psychological and an expert will help you deal with that.
Do you keep a diary? Writing down your feelings..not typing..is therapeutic. If you could write down at least some of the problems you are having..like making a phone call..in a list form and give it to either the counsellor or therapist..it might help if you find it difficult to talk at the start.

Bruja_2

Anyone is entitled to an appointment with a disability advisor. Ask for an appointment at your jobcentre, explain your situation and ask her to help you make a more suitable job seekers agreement so you wont have to go for jobs you can't do. If you have trouble going to a GP (which is the best solution) try to drop in and have a chat at MIND which is in St Helens Road. They have councellers that can advise you about social phobia, they also have therapy groups for anxiety and abuse if you feel up to it, they know what social phobia is all about and can put you on the right track. Good luck.

SpiritMan_3

Great advice from people on here, i can sympathise as my cousin went through something similar, it's a hard thing to work through but i do think you can get through it, and i know that want to run and hide in a room and stay there is strong but even getting out in little bits and trying to get some kind of work that you are able to do will all be of benefit for your future.

good luck to you

exitroute?

Although this is about YOU, counsellors or therapists may ask you about your relationship with your Mother. They can only go on what you tell them and its very important to tell the truth. There will be no bad consequences or judgements and what you tell professionals will be confidential. They simply need to know all the about the pieces that form a jigsaw of a persons life. If youre having problems talking to people, they can only get information from you by asking questions or they may ask you to write it down in your own time at home. At the beginning, its likely to be things you can just say yes or no to at the start so dont worry and you dont have to answer anything you dont want to answer. These are highly trained people who will have seen hundreds and hundreds of people with your 'symptoms'. They wont be telling you they have never come across this before and cant help you. Thats 100% guaranteed. They go into this type of work because they choose it as a career and every case will be of great interest. You will be giving them another challenge and a job to do. Its what they are there for. Put it this way, without people who are having problems, they would be out of a job! View it that you will be keeping someone in employment. See? You are already doing good for someone else and in turn, they will do their job and help you. x

Uncertain

JemmaLouise20 wrote: »

I will try the gp, just got too try and tell my mum first. I just want too beable too do things and i feel like telling her is like admitting too her that i cant do nothing for myself and i am 20 years old.
I feel so silly waiting for my mum too get home from work and asking her too ring someone, why cant i just do it?? but my mind tells me i cant.

It is important to try and understand that this is an illness (and can be a serious one too).

You would not "admit" to your mother that you had a broken leg or appendicitis. You would tell her and she would no doubt provide help and support.

This should be no different.

Equally your GP will be well used to seeing patients with a whole variety of psychological / mental illnesses. It makes up a significant part of their workload. The resources they have available for these type of problems have increased significantly in the last couple of years.

You are young and it is important to get as much help as possible. Don't be afraid to ask. GPs really have seen it all before!

All the best.