Social Phobia and work?

exitroute?

It sounds quite a serious problem and I'm sure your Mum must we aware of it. Has she made any comments?

exitroute?

Have you got any pets?

QueenOfComps

problem solved.

fizzytrinket

group therapy may be suggested but you don't have to. it would be a group of people with the same problem as you.

a task might be going in to a shop and saying hi to the cashier and other small talk like 'its busy in here' or something.

piggeh

JemmaLouise20 wrote: »

What kind of tasks do cbt ask you too do? Is it a group of people that go?

Relying on my mum is a problem now especially now i am an adult and i do know that and i dont want too be. My mum works all week, 9pm until 6pm so i am in my house every day pretty much unless a friend pops over too see me or one of my friends can pick me up and we go out for a drive or whatever. But in the evenings i tend too be in the house with my mum. My mum has a partner who doesnt live with us but he tends too stay the weekends or she will go out with friends on a saturday night. If she goes out i tend too have a friend over for a take away and drinks. I probably wouldnt beable too book a taxi to go on my own, not that i can afford taxis either being on benefits. My fear of public transport comes from when i was 11 years old first year at comprehensive and we had moved about 40 minutes from my school and i had too get a different schools bus too get there so i didnt know any of the kids they use too kind of laugh at me because i was alone.
Yes i do my own job search and also do now manage to go to the jobcentre via a lift but i do go in and wait and talk on my own which is quite an achievement for me because in the beginning my mum had too come and sit next too me.
I dont really know what my mum thinks of it all. When i was constantly leaving jobs and colleges she eventually kicked me out of the home and i had too live with my grandparents which actually made me worse. I felt more isolated living with my grandparents than ever because they were much stricter and wouldnt help me out with anything but now i have been living back with my mum in a year and i feel a bit happier now than i did living at my grandparents. I think my family know my problems but actually try too hide it and push it away for me too be "normal". No i dont have any pets. I did have one at my grandparents that died and i was quite "close" too my dog so it upset me alot.

Your anxieties are similar to what I have/had. Once you start to gain more examples of where you are successful when you had anxieties that things would go wrong, then you will gain in confidence. You have already made a start with what you've achieved at the job centre (insert cliched talk about how proud you should be )

IMHO - CBT is about challenging negative thought processes. Tasks are generally to put yourself in situations where these thought processes occur, and then they help you break these down and challenge them. You may fail some times but then analysing what you think at the time and talking these through really help to get you thinking differently. Your tasks may be to go and speak to someone and then speaking through how it went, what your thoughts were & why you think that way. You will find it very helpful and it's a lot different to counselling which I found to be a waste of time personally.

exitroute?

There are many layers to your problems which have built up over a long time and these need to be sort of taken apart bit by bit and each problem addressed. It wont be an overnight recovery but the first step is via your GP and seeing a counsellor. 'Normal' teenagers go through hell during puberty as it is and you have been dealing with all sorts of emotional issues as well. It would be great for you to have what they call a mentor to help you and encourge you in all sorts of ways. Each word you say to someone you have never met before or only met a few times will be helping you. It seems as though you expect bad consequences when you talk to someone and may have been a child who was expected/told to shut up too many times. We will never know your full story but we do know that professional help is available and that you need to get everything out of your system to someone who is trained and qualified to help people in your kind of situation. One thing is for sure. You are not alone and if you do get to a group meeting, you will find great comfort in being with people who are in similar situations to you. Think positive. You can and will get through this.

exitroute?

Too tired to go back over thread...what is CBT please?

piggeh

exitroute? wrote: »

Too tired to go back over thread...what is CBT please?

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Cognitive-behavioural-therapy/Pages/Introduction.aspx?url=Pages%2Fwhat-is-it.aspx

exitroute?

Thanks for that P..will read through it later today. I have this feeling that I want to go and give the young lady a great big hug and assure her that everything is going to be fine...there is light at the end of what must have seemed like a never ending dark tunnel. Sort of puts your own problems into perspective doesnt it? Gnite x

QueenOfComps

problem solved.