Social Phobia and work?

piggeh

meds12 wrote: »

I read a report once which found that the most effective way to make shy people appear confident was to ask them to approach situations acting as a confident person would,they found they could then keep this up - sounds silly, but why don't you give it a try? Try "acting" (after all, that's all I do as a teacher is to "act" angry / disappointed etc, and most people really are not as confident as they make out) as if you were a professional businesswoman or a Sex-in-the-City-type, but make sure you dress for it (make it easier to adopt the role). You never know, it might work!

I did this once. This was when Jose Mourinho was in his 'prime' at Chelsea - he was constantly appearing arrogant in the press (or to some, very confident), and was unfalable (sp?). At the time, I had an interview, during which I was also interviewed by the MD of the company. Obviously, a daunting experience, so I decided to 'act' in a 'Jose mourinho' fashion (I didn't call myself 'the special one', but probably came close), appearing arrogant rather than my usual self (shy, low on confidence etc). I was actually rather pleased with how it went, and didnt get stuck once (and got the job) I do feel in some situations it is good to 'put on an act', as it can get you through some tough tasks. I haven't done it since though, maybe I need to adopt this approach more often.

QueenOfComps

problem solved.

QueenOfComps

problem solved.