depression

EthelBloggs

blinky wrote:

Ethel, hun, how are you today?

Big hugs

How's you blinky? *megahuggs*

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote:

I found what the consultant said yesterday particularly chilling because a few weeks ago I was out shopping and one of those gypsys who sell heather came up to me and said "I'm sorry for your troubles darling.. it's a horrible thing to have to bury your daughter" Now, I'm not normally superstitious in the least but thre is no way she could have known about our situation is there?

Also the consultant said all this stuff in front of her and she literally curled up into a ball and was sucking her thumb and refused to speak after that... he wouldnt let me hug her goodbye.. he put himself between us and said "She's ours now" I so wanted to scoop her up and take her home with me but she wouldnt come.

She's not been sectioned yet as they said she's not in crisis, she's just in a very serious condition - there is a difference apparently?

I appreciate all your help with this.. it's so far out of my field of knowledge that I really feel as tho I'm trying to swim through mud while trying to sort it out.

gonna go get a cuppa and start on the phone calls :eek:

Morning everyone. A very quickie Sazzy:) as I've got a manic day at work ahead of me, plus my assistant's away this week, plus this evening I have a reflexology client, so may not get much time to post today. Thinking of you all though as always, much love, Sazzyxx

But I just wanted to reply to this Ethel - I'm gobsmacked by the way that consultant behaved. Absolutely appalling. Good luck with getting everything sorted today - you're a marvel, so I know that you will. And don't pay too much heed to what the gypsy said - if she honestly believed what she was saying was true, she would never have been so heartless as to actually say it to you. They just make random comments to people - it's a safe assumption most women over a certain age have children - so it's bound to hit home for someone. Just ignore.

Thinking of you today. Much love and big hugs, Sazxxx

EthelBloggs

Mornin sazbomb

I've made a few phonecalls and now I've got to wait for ppl to get back to me. I didn't realise you did reflexology, I thought you had it done to you My mum used to go n have it and she loved it, used to make her feel great but the bloke moved away and she never found someone else that she liked so she's not had it for a few years now.

Try not to get too busy today.. make time for a cuppa

have a good one, huge huggs

Ethel xxxx

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote:

Mornin sazbomb

I've made a few phonecalls and now I've got to wait for ppl to get back to me. I didn't realise you did reflexology, I thought you had it done to you My mum used to go n have it and she loved it, used to make her feel great but the bloke moved away and she never found someone else that she liked so she's not had it for a few years now.

Try not to get too busy today.. make time for a cuppa

have a good one, huge huggs

Ethel xxxx

I'm just having a cuppa now before the onslaught starts!:D Yes, I qualified as a reflexologist a year ago and I do really enjoy doing it, but it's hard to take on too many clients on top of working fulltime. Ultimately the plan is to cut back my hours here so I can do more reflexology, but that's not possible at the mo.

Catch ya laters hun xxx

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

How's you blinky? *megahuggs*

Hope you get somewhere with the advocacy for your daughter. It sad that mental health isn't a 'glamorous' illness so doesn't get as much funding as it needs. That said, it doesn't excuse how you were treated yesterday.

As for me, I'm busy today at work. Parent missed their flight so they are travelling up from London by bus so I need to pick them tonight. At least 'R' is back tonight but she's back too late for me to see her tonight :sigh:


Will be seeing her tomorrow night and over the weekend :j , so I'm not sure how much time I'll have to pop in until next week.

EthelBloggs

Sazbo wrote:

I'm just having a cuppa now before the onslaught starts!:D Yes, I qualified as a reflexologist a year ago and I do really enjoy doing it, but it's hard to take on too many clients on top of working fulltime. Ultimately the plan is to cut back my hours here so I can do more reflexology, but that's not possible at the mo.

Catch ya laters hun xxx

Good on ya girlie urggh I can't touch people's feet at all.. even the kids when they were babies.. had to get me mum to cut their little nails, lol

EthelBloggs

blinky wrote:

Hope you get somewhere with the advocacy for your daughter. It sad that mental health isn't a 'glamorous' illness so doesn't get as much funding as it needs. That said, it doesn't excuse how you were treated yesterday.

As for me, I'm busy today at work. Parent missed their flight so they are travelling up from London by bus so I need to pick them tonight. At least 'R' is back tonight but she's back too late for me to see her tonight :sigh:


Will be seeing her tomorrow night and over the weekend :j , so I'm not sure how much time I'll have to pop in until next week.

That's the thing.. I think she got the consultant's back up cos she went in and said I really think I need to go back to the previous clinic. However, there is no excuse for him talking to us both like that.. as if we were naughty children who had displeased him :mad: Trouble is I was so busy trying not to let him see that he had got to me that I culdn't speak! This place where she is seems very plush and luxurious and they dont hesitate to pay for taxis n things. when i told my GP where she is he whisted and said wow, apparently it's the creme de la creme of mental health facilities... so I dunno

gosh for a minute there I htought you were driving down to london to collect your parents.. I was gonna offer to stick the kettle on

tis a pity you can't see 'R' tonight but.... the longer you wait the more you'll enjoy it when you do get to see her Have a lovely few days, we'll keep your seat warm here for wen you get bck, lol

Horasio

Tiff wrote:

Hi cc!:hello:
Hope you are well hun and rid of that cold.

CCStar wrote:

I am still feeling very angry. I don't like people saying there are people worse off, it never helps and I find it patronising. I know you care but it was clumsily written. I can't deal with it just now.
Oh dear cc - I'm not looking for a fight of any description. Yes cc - I really do care about you and the rest of the family here. I'm sorry that you're still so angry and you felt that way.
I don't think my post was at all patronising. I was trying to say that you angrily posted something that wasn't deserved angel. I admit I was ticked off ,hence my reply because I felt your post was too harsh. As well as talking about my situation and that of others, I also said in my post that your pain is as important as everyone else's, so I wasn't disrespecting your pain. There is nothing worse than being patronising and I didn't mean my post to be. I was trying to say that no-one here would have treated you like that deliberately and that maybe you were being a little over-sensitive and misunderstood - completely understandable with all your stress. I do apologise though for letting my own situation out then.

But sometimes cc, anger can be so self-destructive and I just wanted you to know you weren't deliberately ignored that night imho, and that people probably had other things they were doing or going through and that's why they didn't reply immediately. I wasn't in any way trying to tell you to get a grip hun. I did also say kind things about you in my post that you seem to have missed, that I honestly meant. I'm sorry you ''can't deal with it just now'' but hun, if you post things in an angry and accusatory manner, then maybe some people will be offended and have the right to reply.

I am finding it hard to cope just now. The neighbours are being annoying with texts. They didn't send us a Christmas card for the first time this year... They wished us a happy new year by text, we ignored it. I'm not a hypocrite... I can't take this on top of a long draining cold, being without heat and power.
Hopefully your neighbour problems will soon be gone hun. I know you've had a hard time coping.
You said yourself that you weren't going to send them a card. So you've both done the same thing haven't you? Still, at least they sent you a text wishing you a Happy New Year hun - that's something hun.

I am insulted that you say my post was ''clumsily written''. Do you feel you have the right to judge that hun? Maybe people do think it was clumsily written and I've got it wrong? However, I wouldn't be rude enough to make such a hurtful statement to anyone. I really try and respect other people's feelings. I'm sorry you feel this way hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I have every right to say what I think, as you so clearly have in your last paragraph.

I feel extremely hurt and I don't feel my feelings have been respected in that last paragraph - again clumsily written. We are all equal here and I feel you have appointed yourself as some kind of mother figure on this thread who can tell people off. I don't need any more people like that in my life.

It is a new year and I am in a bad place just now. Your clumsy replies aren't helping.

Horasio

EthelBloggs wrote:

Tiff wrote:

Hi cc!:hello:
Hope you are well hun and rid of that cold.



Well said... and so much more tactfully than I did

Nice to know who your mates are:mad:

geminilady

CCStar wrote:

Tiff wrote:

Hi cc!:hello:
Hope you are well hun and rid of that cold.




I have every right to say what I think, as you so clearly have in your last paragraph.

I feel extremely hurt and I don't feel my feelings have been respected in that last paragraph - again clumsily written. We are all equal here and I feel you have appointed yourself as some kind of mother figure on this thread who can tell people off. I don't need any more people like that in my life.

It is a new year and I am in a bad place just now. Your clumsy replies aren't helping.

As you say we all have the right to say what we think and as i have said before tiffs posts are not clumsily written and in no way has she told anyone off.It seams to me you expect people to agree with everything you say and feel the same anger as you do towards things which happen in your life.Well i am sorry but people won't and to be honest the thing about the christmas card seemed very trivial to me.Also your post to Ethal "nice to know who your friends are" was very childish, do your friends have to agree with everything you say and take sides like children in a school yard?That is not my idea off a friend.Anger is a destructive emotion and makes it very hard to feel empathy towards people who radiate it.I am sure you are hurting and people do want to help but sometimes the best help is by looking at something from a differant perspective