depression

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

yeah.. hd to go to a meeting about my daughter... the doctors are making it sound very bleak for her future, as far as saying that I could expect to be burying her in the not too distant future and there's nothing can be done to prevent it

oh hun,

rose07

oh Ethel hun

you just trying to sort out care for your DD, and it seems the docs aint keeping ya spirit up but we are all here for you hun.

Lets show them that we are fighters, I am sure your daughter has the fighting spirit like you do hun

love and peace hun

Rosie hugs xxx

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote:

is ok.. I am fighting.. got a lot of phone calls to make and possibly contact our local MP too... they have a duty of care and are not fulfilling it.. they also have put a block on her going back to the place where she was before and was doing well at :mad:

hopefully we'll prove them wrong eh?

Yes, absolutely we will.

Make them uphold their duty of care - shame on them closing down your options. Good idea contacting your MP, you could maybe also contact your local newspaper - might not be what you'd consider, but it's kinda my neck of the woods - health care trusts hate bad publicity, plus this time of year - after xmas and new year is a 'slow news' time of year and editors are grateful for good local stories. Maybe it some thought hun?

I've gotta crash hun. But please email me if you need to ok? Anytime. Get some rest hun. Much love, Sazbomb xxx

rose07

Sazbo wrote:

Hiya rosie. I'm a bit tired, to be honest. Back at work today and it's been rather taxing. Also the site's doing my head in, so I gonna crash in a min, hunnie. Big hugs and much love to ya, Sazzy xxx

Ok hun, think me gunna sign off meself am drained.
Soz to hear bout work, i hope things go ok for you, I am going to have to get a new job soon and i have to say its scary.

This site is going sooo slow :mad:

Big Rosie hugs to you too huni, and much love
leave some milk out for tiff xxx

Sweet Dreams xxx

blinky

rose07 wrote:

My physical pain, na no medication as it not really treatable, I have a prob with my back, am waiting for a life changin operation and my heart is breaking amongst a few things like joint aches and things

Love is a strange thing aint it? I think I am one of these people destined to be alone though. . I either cause people pain through love or i get hurt through love.:o. I just dont understand it, my last relatiionship who was a woman, and i was with her for ages, she broke my heart and i never thought i would love again, now i am caught up in a love triangle. And Rosie dont know what the f*ck to do and cant handle it, the one thing i am not good at is love, i !!!! up all the time with it, people get hurt. and its aways my fault!!!

I am much better on me own, then no one will get hurt, Last night I hurt someone that means soo much to me, they hurt me too, like a stab in the heart, it hurts, see i told you I f*ck it up.

I am happy that there are a few people here that have found someone, and I hope one day I may find the person that is right for me.

But love is too much effort, it causes pain and upset. I have been in love before and had my heart broken soo much, it broke rosie apart hurt more than anything including the attack, and the pain i feel now is 60% towards feeling that same pain , love is one of the main things that goes towards my depression, hmmmm

I have soo much love for the special people in my life that as soon as i let them in or open up, i seem to loose them, or hurt them, try and tell them how you feel and it hurts if they dont feel the same it hurts and if they push you away it hurts.

Im soz to write such a sad post Rosie just soo confused and upset she dont know what to do xxx, i will shut up in a min

Going to see my gran will be soo painful, as she is soo ill , my mum is there now and leaving on thursday, and i am going up on friday, so any positive vibes much appreciated as my head in soo much pain i dont know how me gonna see it through, i was asked by some friends if i wanted to stay with them when i am there, as things are soo hard with my gran its hard to cope, but i gotta do it, as the thing with me is i never give up on people, i stayed by my nans beside to the last minute, and i seen her die slowly, but at least i was there for her, as long as people let me i will be there for them. god it sinking in now that im going to see her, i dunno what she gonna be like, the last time i seen her we argued. so hope things will be ok.

soz to write a long post just thinking lots tonight and as i say MC not the person to talk to, and no i aint talking bout MC, he a great guy, with a big heart, but i love someone else xxx, plus he has some bad habits, lol. but dont we all :rotfl:

As i say im sorry just need some help on this one

xxxxxxx :grouphug:

Rose, hun,

I understand what you say but isn't love worth it when you are in love?

Don't think you'll f**k it up because that means you are starting with a negative outlook which won't help the relationship.

I admit that I'm probably not the most objective person on this either at the moment but I am looking at it from the other end.

Things will get better.

geminilady

rose07 wrote:

My physical pain, na no medication as it not really treatable, I have a prob with my back, am waiting for a life changin operation and my heart is breaking amongst a few things like joint aches and things

Love is a strange thing aint it? I think I am one of these people destined to be alone though. . I either cause people pain through love or i get hurt through love.:o. I just dont understand it, my last relatiionship who was a woman, and i was with her for ages, she broke my heart and i never thought i would love again, now i am caught up in a love triangle. And Rosie dont know what the f*ck to do and cant handle it, the one thing i am not good at is love, i !!!! up all the time with it, people get hurt. and its aways my fault!!!

I am much better on me own, then no one will get hurt, Last night I hurt someone that means soo much to me, they hurt me too, like a stab in the heart, it hurts, see i told you I f*ck it up.

I am happy that there are a few people here that have found someone, and I hope one day I may find the person that is right for me.

But love is too much effort, it causes pain and upset. I have been in love before and had my heart broken soo much, it broke rosie apart hurt more than anything including the attack, and the pain i feel now is 60% towards feeling that same pain , love is one of the main things that goes towards my depression, hmmmm

I have soo much love for the special people in my life that as soon as i let them in or open up, i seem to loose them, or hurt them, try and tell them how you feel and it hurts if they dont feel the same it hurts and if they push you away it hurts.

Im soz to write such a sad post Rosie just soo confused and upset she dont know what to do xxx, i will shut up in a min

Going to see my gran will be soo painful, as she is soo ill , my mum is there now and leaving on thursday, and i am going up on friday, so any positive vibes much appreciated as my head in soo much pain i dont know how me gonna see it through, i was asked by some friends if i wanted to stay with them when i am there, as things are soo hard with my gran its hard to cope, but i gotta do it, as the thing with me is i never give up on people, i stayed by my nans beside to the last minute, and i seen her die slowly, but at least i was there for her, as long as people let me i will be there for them. god it sinking in now that im going to see her, i dunno what she gonna be like, the last time i seen her we argued. so hope things will be ok.

soz to write a long post just thinking lots tonight and as i say MC not the person to talk to, and no i aint talking bout MC, he a great guy, with a big heart, but i love someone else xxx, plus he has some bad habits, lol. but dont we all :rotfl:

As i say im sorry just need some help on this one

xxxxxxx :grouphug:

Yes love can hurt a lot but the old saying better to have loved and lost than never lived at all is so true.would rather have loved and felt all the hurt but joy too than never felt it at all.Don't know what sort of triangle yours is but i have a square lol.N has a wife plus an xgirlfriend that he still loves.The relationship did not work even though he had a second chance with her.It caused him a lot of pain,still does,he cannot let her go and i don't know how to help him.Spent most of the day texting him because he was really down after recieving an email from her.It seems every time he starts to get over her she contacts him and the pain starts all over again.I suppose what i want is him to feel the same way about me,don't think it will ever happen but at least i can be a friend to him.Like you i never give up on people and i do think he at least values my friendship.He did hurt me tonight though,i offered to meet him,just to give him a hug,i just wanted to make it better but he said no,so now i am feeling rejected,thats nothing new felt it all my life maybe i ask for it i don't know.
Hope things go ok with your gran,i am sure the arguments will be forgotten and as you say there are some things we just have to do but i can see you are strong enough to cope.sending you lots of positive vibes and will be thinking of you.

Horasio

Had a nice evening with our son when he came home. I felt a lot better about 9pm and went with it. I'll probably be awake all night again. I am glad our son had heat and light where he was and discouraged him from coming home till tonight.

The new year starts properly today, as a lot of Scotland were on holiday today as well, good job too, as my husband was really upset at missing out on new years eve too and had our version on Monday night!

I do hope we get off to a better start this year and get some good luck!

Horasio

Tiff wrote:

Hi coggi! :hello:(thanks saz - better than inc.,!:D )

You have nothing to worry about hun in any way! No-one makes me feel
worse and now I'm gonna have to go on several guilt trips -& you know how much us agrophobics hate going out! - because I've made you feel sh!tty!
Coggi hun, and cc and everyone else, I'm so sorry for upsetting you. I didn't mean it to be a post about my problems.
Will come back later guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I appreciate your honesty in your post about your problems and you don't have to apologise for your problems. Something I said must have triggered the need for you to tell.

Re your, agoraphobia. When did you first get it? I used to have it when I had my hormonal illness and I felt people would hurt me on my off days. I very rarely have it now but still feel people know when I'm not on top form. I wonder if this could be how you feel? What are you scared of that might happen? If I say, there is very little chance it will happen, it still won't take away the anxiety. It is a deep seated fear that passes when you feel safe again.

I have a pet hate about people saying there are people worse off. At the time you feel so bad, it is unbearable and provides little comfort thinking there are people worse off, it actually makes me feel worse when I think of people worse off, and yes I pity them but it doesn't help me feel better. It can also promote guilt, which is an emotion you don't need when you feel very low. So I get itchy towards people who say that but I do feel you care, so I don't hold it against you in the long term:)

I feel the new year was a hard time to get thro' for us, one way or another. Now the year is properly here, what plans have you all got to improve your lives? What help do you need? How can you help yourselves and each other?

Horasio

gillette147 wrote:

Well,

I had a load of hassle from the dole today. Grrrrrrr
Then went down the docs.

Got my fave doctor today. Talked about my ear first which meant it was the thing he focussed on. I'm glad coz it is my biggest problem.

Anyway I think he's read my notes about the depression because hes given me AMITRIPTYLINE. It's an AD but with pain killing properties. So it will reduce my headaches, reduce my tinnatus, reduce back pain AND have some AD effects apparrently.

Either it's a miracle drug or I've been given smarties.

PS and a 4 weeks note - which takes the pressure off me as far as dole is concerned (I hope).

I read with interest how you get on with Amitriptyline. I was prescribed them a couple of years ago for my operation pains and too scared to take them for fear of putting on weight, I have be watch my weight and certain ADs can really pile it on for me. You could be lucky and it work just fine for you.

I hope it is a miracle cure for you, as pain is horrible and tinnitus sounds to be one of the worst things one has to endure.

Tiff_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

yeah.. hd to go to a meeting about my daughter... the doctors are making it sound very bleak for her future, as far as saying that I could expect to be burying her in the not too distant future and there's nothing can be done to prevent it

Hi angel!
I wondered how it went hun. How awful for you ethel!
Who were the people you met with? Is she on a section hun? What have they suggested? Where is she now? I'm looking into a couple of things hun as I said to you I would.
Firstly, their duty of care to your daughter is imperative. You need to tell them that, God forbid, if anything happens to your daughter, there'll be legal action involved. The duty of care to her is clear - they have acknowledged the danger she is in. By refusing to put her in secure care, they are not fulfilling their duty and they are leaving her at risk.
Also, have you been in touch with the Patient Advocate who is generally available at most mental health places? They will be able to advise on the legal side of things maybe? It may even be worth having a free initial consultation with a personal injury/malpractice solicitor as to the legality of their lack of care. By doing this, there will be a record somewhere should you ever need to prove the problems you're having.
Write down and date every phone call & every visit ethel. I know this is hard but you need to have this information to a) force them to give proper care & b) to pursue matters if anything does happen-not only financially but because you can use it as evidence towards getting an inquiry by the General Medical Council.
A further approach is via the Human Rights Act and I'll get back to you on that. I'll also PM you later angel. Got an appointment later this morning until early afternoon. I'm thinking of you hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx