depression

Horasio

gillette147 wrote:

I don't know yet. I think i might get incapacity benefit because of my back trouble. And tbh I have other health issues. I have some savings which it will upset me to have to use but in reality I do have time.
I am trying to se if I can accept having a lodger.

I have mentally prepared myself for being off work for 6 months - that does take some of the panic away. I wish I could go s*d i and call it xmas and have some true time off! But the guilt would get to me.

I just need to think straight but it's been three weeks and I still can't.

Three weeks isn't very long.

I know guilt is terrible but the job sounded to be harming you. Use this time to rest and evaluate where you are going.

A lodger would help with the finances and if you choose well, you could make a new friend.

My husband was out of work for 8 months in 2002-03. We had savings and just got the dole. We made sure we enjoyed Christmas. It won't change anything making a special time miserable.

I'm no expert on benefits but I am sure you are eligible for some.

Philippa36

I wondered where you'd got to Gillette good luck with the job search ~ it can seem impossible at times but I'm sure your skills will be very valuable to employers out there.

Hugs to all ~ I have suffered with depression and can totally sympathise with you, my good days now outway the bad fortunately.

Sometimes it is easy to think that everyone is pm'ng everyone else and having a great time but the truth is often very different! I hate pm'ing people in case I am intruding or considered rude too I guess I should get over it and pm everyone if and when I feel like it

gillette147

There probably should be a thread about PMing ettiquette.
I have only ever cold called two people (except with a valid reason like support during abuse or with info) so maybe I can't complain if no-one does it to me.

But because I am male and usually it's females that I make friends with I don't like to PM in case it is seen the wrong way. But I treat new PMers like when I'm at salsa - I never refuse a dance.

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

It's all over. She couldn't handle what I said and told me to leave her alone

Sorry to hear that Miro. Are you sure it's all over and she doesn't just need some space? It may well just be the latter if she couldn't handle what you said at the time.

Try and stay +ve.

Gillette - Sorry to hear about your current problems. I know how it feels for everything to be going swimmingly and then for it all to turn s****y. I think that's one of the reasons I a bit scared with about how my relationship with 'R' is going. Sometimes I think I got like a Midas touch but everything turns to sh*t when I touch it...

As far as does happiness only occur in movies?

No it doesn't but it is rare to be happy all the time. Most people just have to get by most of the time. We all have our ups and downs - it's just us depressives have more and deeper downs and less ups. The movies are a bit unrealistic but isn't that why we watch them anyway?

Hang in there, you have a lot to offer. See your GP. A lot of the information I wrote to welsh earlier also applies to you.

Some genderless hugs to keep you going

I'm dog tired. Need to have a short nap before getting ready to see 'R'

Sazbo

blinky wrote:

I'm dog tired. Need to have a short nap before getting ready to see 'R'

Me too, hun. Hope you have a nice evening though. Love Sazzy xx

EthelBloggs

aint it weird how you can read something and it hits you in the gut like a punch.. and something you thought was long ago buried rears its ugly head

Hiya sazbomb and everyone who's here

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

aint it weird how you can read something and it hits you in the gut like a punch.. and something you thought was long ago buried rears its ugly head

Hope it's nothing I've written

Miroslav

I'm off out with flatmate for something to eat and talk things over. I'll respond to you all later.

After an hour of her negativity, I said what I needed, or the 1st bit and she flipped, saying I was too negative. Then when I was trying to make sure she was okay, she shouted "Leave me alone, I want to be on my own, please leave" So I walked out the restaurant.

I'm not even close to being tearful, I am very very angry.

I text her after and said "You took it the wrong way, i'm very fond of you"

She replied "I'll be in touch soon"

I didn't respond

So she text me again

"I'm sorry"

I still haven't replied

I will either let her stew or text back something like "Maybe you've pushed me away for good"

How dare she, after all i've done and put up with!!!!! I've done nothing but run around after her, be nice to her, buy her flowers etc and what has she done for me?

I can do better than her, but when i've calmed down, i'm sure I will be very tearful and depressed.

I love her to bits, I just don't need this

Sazbo

EthelBloggs wrote:

aint it weird how you can read something and it hits you in the gut like a punch.. and something you thought was long ago buried rears its ugly head

Hiya sazbomb and everyone who's here

Yes, it's weird for sure. Hiya ethel hun - how you doing? Love, Sazbomb:D:D xx

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote:

I'm off out with flatmate for something to eat and talk things over. I'll respond to you all later.

After an hour of her negativity, I said what I needed, or the 1st bit and she flipped, saying I was too negative. Then when I was trying to make sure she was okay, she shouted "Leave me alone, I want to be on my own, please leave" So I walked out the restaurant.

I'm not even close to being tearful, I am very very angry.

I text her after and said "You took it the wrong way, i'm very fond of you"

She replied "I'll be in touch soon"

I didn't respond

So she text me again

"I'm sorry"

I still haven't replied

I will either let her stew or text back something like "Maybe you've pushed me away for good"

How dare she, after all i've done and put up with!!!!! I've done nothing but run around after her, be nice to her, buy her flowers etc and what has she done for me?

I can do better than her, but when i've calmed down, i'm sure I will be very tearful and depressed.

I love her to bits, I just don't need this

It's probably all a bit raw and close now, have a bite to eat with flatmate, then see how it looks from there. Sxx