depression

EthelBloggs

Well.... he's back. After a couple of hours of being a bit wary of each other, all of a sudden he just grabbed me and gave me a big cuddle n said not to worry.. we'll talk it all thru and find a way forward. I hope he's right.. seeing him again even tho he was only gone a few days made me realise how good things are when they are good.. and surely if things can be good SOME of the time then with a bit of effort it can be good MOST of the time? I say most of the time because no one can be in a good mood ALL the time can they? lol

I've realised that I do really want it to work out but I dunno if I've got what it takes to make it happen Spose we just wait n see how it goes eh?

I hope miro's post doesn't mean he's leaving us??? miro.. beer even said himself that he hadn't read eveything so he might have misunderstood.. that's no reason to leave. You're right, none of us fully understand the situation, it's impossible for us to do that without knowing both of you but you're a valued part of this thread/board and you will be horribly missed..... please come back

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

Right, now my essay is over (been taking essay lessons from Rose ) I shall call it a night.

One thing I have learnt tonight (and we all learn something new everyday!) is that despite what anyone types, it can be taken in many ways!

I have certainly not pursued 'S' like a maniac, sometimes, it's over a week between contact, I just talk about her alot on here, as I care, so apologies to anyone offended by 'S' being a conversation of mine. I realise I talk about her alot, I guess she means so much to me and I know she's in a bad way, and it upsets me when I cannot do anything for her. Talking about her sometimes helps, when others can help me look at things more positively.

Therefore, there isn't much point in asking advice or ideas re: 'S', as however much I detail the situation, understandably, no-one knows the true situation, and conflicting advice/comments can cause more confusion, over my intentions and/or situation, making me out to be something I am not.

So I shall don my cap, and move along my merry way, and deal with whatever is thrown at me, on my own

If anything happens with 'S', I shall PM those who shall need a new hat for the wedding

:wave:

Good Luck to you all. Hope you all find happiness and/or whatever it is you are looking for

Hope your not leaving us Miro. You're a valued friend and contributor here.

elona

Miro

Don't go - we will all miss you.
Best of luck with everything.

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

Well.... he's back. After a couple of hours of being a bit wary of each other, all of a sudden he just grabbed me and gave me a big cuddle n said not to worry.. we'll talk it all thru and find a way forward. I hope he's right.. seeing him again even tho he was only gone a few days made me realise how good things are when they are good.. and surely if things can be good SOME of the time then with a bit of effort it can be good MOST of the time? I say most of the time because no one can be in a good mood ALL the time can they? lol

I've realised that I do really want it to work out but I dunno if I've got what it takes to make it happen Spose we just wait n see how it goes eh?

Make sure you keep him to that - don't let him off easy.

Both sides need to work at a relationship. The fact that you don't know if you have what it takes is actually a good thing as it means you aren't thinking too far ahead. I think you probably do as long as he is prepared to put some effort in but who knows what will happen.

I'm not an expert at relationships. Before 'R' it's been an awfully long time since I've been with someone. If you'd asked me in the summer I would have said I would have said I'd more or less given up hope of meeting someone.....

Tiff_2

Miroslav wrote:

7 days a week? :eek:

Oh miro - you make me laugh hun!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
It's not like you can take the weekend off from depression!:rotfl: Though maybe you're onto something...:think: ...right, I've decided... I'm booking the whole of December, the 1st 2 weeks of January 2007, the 2 middle weeks of February off!:D
People are ill 365 days a year & thank God there's help available 365 days a year.:T
Hope you're well angel. Hope all is well with you & 's' hun. haven't caught up on all the posts yet - just had to reply to yours 1st.;)
Have I got the Miro & 'S' saga got summed up accurately hun?;)

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:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: -Sorry angel - I just get confused.:o

I hope you have a great day hun. Look after yourself ok?
Much love,
Tiff xxx

blinky

Morning all,

Hope you are all well. Thinking of u all

feelinggood_2

Morning Blinky, I'm up early! For good reason too
Another day thats feeling ok - I'm not even going to let OH bring me down.
How nice of him to wake me up 2 hours before I am due to get up. I then decide I might aswell watch the news as its on. He then decides to comment on everything, so I can't hear a word of the news hehe. So, decided that if he wants a chat, we can have a chat - so I tell him my dream. Only, I offend him cos in my dream he had a different job! He then has a go at me for trying to make him smoke by stressing him out.
Could of had a big row, but I got up and did the washing instead

Hope you are all good, and that our Miro will be back with us soon.

Big hugs to all, thinking of you.

Hows everyone today? CCstar, Rose, Saz, Tiff, Blinky, Miro, Elona and Ethel?
I'll write more when I am properly awake
I do like weekdays much better than the weekend.

Roll on day 3!

Tiff_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

lol, he wasn't deliberately trying to upset me.. but he hasn't given me my housekeeping money for the month so as far as he knows I'm skint (I'm not) and he's sititng there telling me he's bout this n that an the other n blah blah.. makes me a bit :mad: when he persuaded me to give up my job and that he promised to support me financially and now its like pulling teeth getting cash off him!!

Now he reckons he'll be back here around 7 tonight.. I really don't want him back yet.. think we need longer

Hi angel
He seems to want to get a hold over you hun. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time.:grouphug:
Ethel, if you're not ready for him yet hun, say so. You're entitled to feelings too and you sound like it would just rub you up the wrong way. There's nothing wrong with saying that you need some extra time hun - maybe it will be what gets the message home to him!;) I'm thinking of you angel.
Much love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Miroslav wrote:

Well, I tend to as well, although when it's with someone you care about, you have to compromise or risk losing them forever.

My flatmate says I shouldn't buy the £20 Bear, as it's too much money on someone i've known for 7 weeks and in a Non Romantic way.

She's been trying to put a dampener on things this afternoon and she's really annoyed me.

For what it's worth miro, if you want to reassure 's' that you're not just trying to get her up that tree;) , you could say that it's a Good Time Bear for her to hug whenever she needs a hug or is lonely. That makes it ok in all scenarios.
You could send it to her hun - see how she interprets it miro. Good luck angel
much love
Tiff xxx

feelinggood_2

Hehe, I think I am a bit manic!