depression

EthelBloggs

Miroslav wrote:

It's an idea I had not thought of........

So, for Christmas..............hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Well.. you got the chocolate stockings and dint u mention something else too? maybe leave it at that for now?

Miroslav

EthelBloggs wrote:

hiya FG.. I'm fine.. bit nervous as b/f is due home any time now I can feel my stomach churning like mad :eek: weird cos I've no reason to be nervous of him

glad to hear you sounding so positive and upbeat

:eek: Hope things will be okay!

EthelBloggs

Miroslav wrote:

:eek: Hope things will be okay!

that's the thing... it's totally irrational to feel like this.. panicky and almost afraid of him - he's never done anything to make me feel like that.. I hope it's not the start of some other kind of mental health issue

Miroslav

EthelBloggs wrote:

Well.. you got the chocolate stockings and dint u mention something else too? maybe leave it at that for now?

Chocolate stockings :grouphug: :rotfl:

Stocking full of chocolate

Not got anything else yet, just ideas

Truprint have 1/2 price offer on calendars at moment - £7.49. Upload your own photo's to it, so was thinking of getting a calendar of my cats, as 'S' loves them. Can also personalise it, with birthdays and things

Miroslav

EthelBloggs wrote:

that's the thing... it's totally irrational to feel like this.. panicky and almost afraid of him - he's never done anything to make me feel like that.. I hope it's not the start of some other kind of mental health issue

It's possibly the fear of change. Knowing you want to change something, and he's the thing you want to change, as in offload him.

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

if you feel like it's too much to give her the teddy just yet.. why not buy it and keep it til it feels right?

Good idea... when are you giving her the presents and seeing her over Christmas? You could give her the teddy but not when you give her the other parents and then surprise her later.

Thanks things with 'R' are going very well.:happyhear It's just tricky finding the time to be together and we do miss each other.

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

It's possibly the fear of change. Knowing you want to change something, and he's the thing you want to change, as in offload him.

The fear of change is a poweful emotion. It's natural to be scared of change, we all like our comfort zones and don't like moving from them. Fear of the unknown can also be a powefully paralysing emotion.

The trick is to try and think of the unknown / changes as something new and exciting. I know from my own experience this is considerably harder to do than to say.

Think about it though - if we didn't take the occasional chance / risk try something new we would miss out on so much.

Horasio

I feel so drained

talking to idiots is like:wall:

How can I keep sane?

beer2006

Miroslav wrote:

Chocolate stockings :grouphug: :rotfl:

Stocking full of chocolate

Not got anything else yet, just ideas

Truprint have 1/2 price offer on calendars at moment - £7.49. Upload your own photo's to it, so was thinking of getting a calendar of my cats, as 'S' loves them. Can also personalise it, with birthdays and things

Why don't you just keep it simple, flowers.

I don't know the whole situation, but I've read alot of your posts about her, you need to calm it down a bit by the sound of it. You can love someone as much as you like, but if they don't feel the same way, there is nothing you can do.
If someone was persuing me the way you seem to be her, I would be pressurised and seriously put off. I wouldn't get someone else to tell her how I feel, go direct, ask her out for a drink. Take it slow. Don't keep contacting her all the time............ and I would say, definately don't buy her teddies yet. You need to show you are a man, someone who given the chance would look after her.
You need to show her you care, but you're not a maniac chasing after her.

I might be saying different from everyone else, I can't help that, its what I think
I'm afraid Feelie calls it Tough love, I call it common sense, mine........... not everyone else maybe.

Miro you sound a great guy, there may well be lots of women out there for you, you need to believe in yourself more.

feelinggood_2

I don't know what you can do CCstar, it does take a lot out of you.
Could you just avoid them instead?