depression

feelinggood_2

Rose, still sending you positive vibes, take care, and if you need me you know where I am.

Ethel, sorry you are feeling down, how things come back up. Want to talk about it?

CCstar - how are you sweetie?

I'm a bit in a muddle really, wondering When I should go - do I hold off till after xmas? Is there ever going to be a right tme? How do I ask my bro if I can stay with him? I'm still needing to think about this, its scary.

Miroslav

I shall post again later. The contractors have finally gone, without telling us they've finished...........I assume they have gone..........no vans, 30 minutes since last contact.......hmmmmmmmmmmm.

I'm off out for food, can't eat here, kitchen is an absolute mess, so is everywhere as we have had to get all the kitchen things out and dump them here there and everywhere, so where do I sleep tonight

I need food and to be out for a bit, then when I return a bit of PC time.

Still nothing from 'S'

Has she left without telling me? Wouldn't be surprised!

Horasio

feelinggood wrote:

Rose, still sending you positive vibes, take care, and if you need me you know where I am.

Ethel, sorry you are feeling down, how things come back up. Want to talk about it?

CCstar - how are you sweetie?

I'm a bit in a muddle really, wondering When I should go - do I hold off till after xmas? Is there ever going to be a right tme? How do I ask my bro if I can stay with him? I'm still needing to think about this, its scary.

It is five or six weeks until Christmas.

We are putting the place up for sale in the new year, so I will be staying until the place is sold. It is more money saving to stay put till we release our funds.

I am not sure how you are going to go about leaving. Are you going to just disappear? or break it to your husband? If you need to raise money from the house, you will need to discuss whether you will sell or him buy you out. Whatever, you will need to find a place to go. Staying with other people is OK for a very short time but it does cause a strain.

He will find out one way or another. My tactic is to keep things reasonable, so when the settlement issue arises I am not done. During this time, look at ways of raising cash and finding a place to go for the long term.

My suggestion would be looking to leave in the new year after the stresses of Christmas have passed. You don't want to cause waves with the family before then. Keep cool and focus on what you NEED.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

I shall post again later. The contractors have finally gone, without telling us they've finished...........I assume they have gone..........no vans, 30 minutes since last contact.......hmmmmmmmmmmm.

I'm off out for food, can't eat here, kitchen is an absolute mess, so is everywhere as we have had to get all the kitchen things out and dump them here there and everywhere, so where do I sleep tonight

I need food and to be out for a bit, then when I return a bit of PC time.

Still nothing from 'S'

Has she left without telling me? Wouldn't be surprised!

I love the way tradesmen make a mess and don't clear up or keep you informed:mad:

rose07

EthelBloggs wrote:

evenin all...

well.. I WAS feeling good til about 10 mins ago.. aint it wierd how someone can bring you down with a few words?

*sighs*

sorry to hear you're feeling so crappy rose.. i hope you get some rest and sort things out x

Hi Ethel sorry to hear your feeling bad too.

whats happened?, hope it wasnt me and my words

i just tried lying down but rosie cant even do that xxx (bad back)

I hope you feel better soon and take care hun xxx

EthelBloggs

Thanks peeps... grrr it's that bloody b/f again, surprise surprise!

The police station is at the end of a nice old fashioned streetmarket so on the way back i bought him some socks. When he came in, I gave them to him and instead of saying thank you, or even saying nothing, he started a rant about where his old socks have gone!! I suggested they might have slipped under the bed or sommat but nooooooooooo....... he's accusing the world and his brother of stealng them!! !!!!!! who would want to steal his socks??? lmfao.. it would be funny if it wasn't so aggravating.

And I've done what I swore I woldnt do after last year. I bought my mum a mobile phone, only a cheap, v basic one (£20 in woolies) and when i got it home i thought it might be a bit too small and fiddly for her.. so what do I do? ask him if he thinks his mum would like it.. knowing full well he;ll say yes but he wont give me the money for it! Last year I bought his whole family presents even tho I've never met them, n he never gave me a penny towards anything, looks like this year might be the same

Horasio

My day today.

Did more packing, it is looking more bare and minimalist (clean) now but still have to pack books, CDs, videos and beauty things that I won't be using. Still need to keep them as a back up even though I have backed up some onto DVD.

I haven't bought a book for years, as the internet is more accessable but I can't throw away books.

Keeping back nice ornaments and stuff I actually use. I think the ratio is 80% useless to 20% useful.

I wish I could be more minimalist without tears

Horasio

EthelBloggs wrote:

Thanks peeps... grrr it's that bloody b/f again, surprise surprise!

The police station is at the end of a nice old fashioned streetmarket so on the way back i bought him some socks. When he came in, I gave them to him and instead of saying thank you, or even saying nothing, he started a rant about where his old socks have gone!! I suggested they might have slipped under the bed or sommat but nooooooooooo....... he's accusing the world and his brother of stealng them!! !!!!!! who would want to steal his socks??? lmfao.. it would be funny if it wasn't so aggravating.

And I've done what I swore I woldnt do after last year. I bought my mum a mobile phone, only a cheap, v basic one (£20 in woolies) and when i got it home i thought it might be a bit too small and fiddly for her.. so what do I do? ask him if he thinks his mum would like it.. knowing full well he;ll say yes but he wont give me the money for it! Last year I bought his whole family presents even tho I've never met them, n he never gave me a penny towards anything, looks like this year might be the same

He sounds a grumpy ignorant pig - don't buy him anything else. It sounds like another relationship should be shed in the new year.:mad:

Tiff_2

rose07 wrote:

Tiff your PM box is full, you popular person

I think i need a tiff letter hun :mad:

Tiff and everyone i rang the GP, but nothing happened. i was trying to explain to the receptionist, but she musta wanted to get home. she wasnt very nice, i told her it was an emergency and that i needed to see Dr asap. hun now what do i do? how am i going to get through the night?
they said i had to ring at 8am, how on earth am i going to do that? that is when the house is at the most busiest and everyone is round the phone. so i cant ring then. (and i aint a morning person

im gonna sign off for a bit, after that phone call im drained hun, i dont know if i can tell councellor anymore, that phone call was awful

im soo glad you are all here and tiff hun i do want help xxx

xxx
Feeelinggood, thanks for your help i do appreciate it, im just afraid im in a bad place xxx, but thanks for the support. i will be fine, just need a kick up the a**. your all gonna slap me now. x and feelinggood i hope you are ok, i think about you all alot
saz, elona, blinky, miro, ccstar, well everyone, take care all of you
thinking of ya xxxx
ok rosies is off for a lie down

xxx

Hi Hun,
Did you get my 2nd PM? Sleep is good my angel. You must be exhausted. Tiff will deal with the receptionist - Tiff letter will be posted on board for you hun.
Your options hun:
- call out NewDoc or whatever your equivalent of a duty GP is in your area.
- you can go to A&E and someone will see you there.
- you can call your counsellor now, tell her what has happened & exactly how ill you are including s-h, how you feel and let her organise help via the Crisis Team.
- we can reorganise everything for the morning but I think you should do it tonight hun.
I'm going to send you a PM angel Ok?
Take comfort in the fabulous people here who have you in their thoughts!;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

feelinggood_2

CCStar wrote:

It is five or six weeks until Christmas.

We are putting the place up for sale in the new year, so I will be staying until the place is sold. It is more money saving to stay put till we release our funds.

I am not sure how you are going to go about leaving. Are you going to just disappear? or break it to your husband? If you need to raise money from the house, you will need to discuss whether you will sell or him buy you out. Whatever, you will need to find a place to go. Staying with other people is OK for a very short time but it does cause a strain.

He will find out one way or another. My tactic is to keep things reasonable, so when the settlement issue arises I am not done. During this time, look at ways of raising cash and finding a place to go for the long term.

My suggestion would be looking to leave in the new year after the stresses of Christmas have passed. You don't want to cause waves with the family before then. Keep cool and focus on what you NEED.

I can't tell him that I am going to leave - he'd manage to make me stay and I don't want that. I'm going to have to go when he is at work, and just leave a letter. Gutless I know, and I'm feeling ridiculously guilty about it. What if I'm making a mistake? I'm so scared that I'm going to get things wrong. Almost crying now, still not managed too. I can't cry, I get close, but its all bottled up. I'm going to explode one of these days.
My mum just phoned, and I almost told her, but I couldn't. Maybe I should just bite the bullet and tell her once I'm sorted? I was planning on posting her a letter, but I shall probably phone her once I've left.
I think I'm going to have to make a clean break - I'm probably only going to take what I can fit in a suitcase. I won't make any claim for the house - that isn't fair.
I hate this situation I really do. I need a hug, I need lots of hugs.
I can barely type at the moment.
Sorry