depression

EthelBloggs

CCStar wrote:

What did he do?

Mine blows hot and cold. When you think you will get some happy moments, mine starts withdrawing emotionally. The things he has spoilt are too numerous to list here but I don't look forward to happy events any more with him!

At first he was lovely.. I thought he was just protective.. he rarely drank, just if we went out, he'd cook, clean, do the washing, ironing, etc etc.. ideal husband. After a few years it became apparent that the protectiveness was in fact possessiveness and control. He started to check the mileage in the car to see if it matched up with where i said I'd been, studying phone bills/shopping receipts etc with a fine tooth comb, going thru my phone, stuff like that. Then he started following me.. gradually getting more and more verbally abusive, he'd also started drinking more.. the abuse gradually became more and more physical and he would do some really sick things to me (I really don't wanna say it here) and one night I ran in my pyjamas at 3am.. grabbed the car keys and got out.. that was it, I never went back after that During the marriage I never told anyone what was happening because I was ashamed I spose.. when ppl were around we were sweet and kind to each other and all that but it was all for show. Thats why everyone was so shocked when I ran away.

EthelBloggs

Mornin peeps, hope you're all ok.. gawd Miro.. I wish I had decorators in my home, havent done it for about 5 years n it's looking very shabby, lol

Miroslav

EthelBloggs wrote:

Mornin peeps, hope you're all ok.. gawd Miro.. I wish I had decorators in my home, havent done it for about 5 years n it's looking very shabby, lol

Well, not overly pleased about it........bad timing the way I am feeling.

Last night went well, but now i'm thinking more about 'S'.

I'm foolish to think she'd like me like 'that', and maybe foolish that I started believing she liked me at all.

I dunno, maybe i'm selfish expecting her to reply to me at least once in a week

feelinggood_2

Some people just don't do what we do Miro - I can't understand it really.
If I like someone, I make the effort. Its rare that I get close to anyone, and it does always go to pot. One day, things will work out.
I've gotta be off now, hope you are okay xx

feelinggood_2

Sorry about your story Ethel - mine isn't that bad.
I don't really go out, he's too suspicious - always thinks I'm up to something. I go to the local shop maybe once a week, to the doctors about once a month and in to town maybe once a month or so. Other than that, unless I go out with him, I'm at home Think my biggest time without leaving the house, at all, was about 5 weeks. Part of it is that I'm scared to go out - panic attacks and stuff, but its also that I don't want to answer the questions. He doesn't get hold of my mobile, but he likes to check the last dialed/recieved numbers. He also checks the internet history unless I clear it. But, its fair enough really.
Talk to you all later xx

Miroslav

feelinggood wrote:

Some people just don't do what we do Miro - I can't understand it really.
If I like someone, I make the effort. Its rare that I get close to anyone, and it does always go to pot. One day, things will work out.
I've gotta be off now, hope you are okay xx

Thing is, i'm not one for emotions, until lately. However, if I meet someone I like and if they had told me they cared for me and liked being with me, i'd then make more effort, knowing they wanted to see me.

She seems to want to be lonely, maybe.

Someone said something true once, and I don't mean to offend anyone.....but......"Some people want to be ill, because they get the attention they wouldn't get if they were well"

Not saying that about anyone here, but 'S' does like her attention. Not in a bad way, but when with people, she needs to be looked after, despite her protests to the contrary.

EthelBloggs

Miroslav wrote:

Well, not overly pleased about it........bad timing the way I am feeling.

Last night went well, but now i'm thinking more about 'S'.

I'm foolish to think she'd like me like 'that', and maybe foolish that I started believing she liked me at all.

I dunno, maybe i'm selfish expecting her to reply to me at least once in a week

I know what you mean about the timing.. when you're feeling crappy the last thing you want is ppl around

I don't thik you've got a sefish bone in your body.. you're a very likeable person and you've got an awful lot to offer.. if I was single...... and its not too much to expect more than one text a week but maybe its just too much for her to do at the moment. She's got her own issues and problems and maybe she can only do what she feels she can cope with?

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

I know this is the pot calling the kettle black but try not to put yourself down. Yes, I know its bloody hard - we're so use to doing it.

So does everyone here - it's just so damm difficult to see what at times.

Miro - the hugs are just hugs. Take them as females hugging you if you want. They were aimed at everyone. Hope I didn't offend you - I didn't intend to.

In general, no. Some relationships are but many aren't. You will find someone -it can't say if it will be 'S' but you will. I thought for years I wouldn't find anyone. All relationships have ups and downs - it's part of the course of life. As for your second sentence - it's one of the things which makes us human.

Glad the performance went well

I know, and I know i'm a good person too, but experiences tell me different. I mean, people always tell me how nice I am, but the number of friends and relationships i've had in the last 15 years, tell me differently.

I took no offence at all, not in the slightest I was just being sarcastic Or something like that, jokey sarcastic, dunno but I wouldn't take a man hug ever anyway, it's hard enough accepting female hugs!!

Well, not sure I will find anyone, it seems such an unrealistic thing to happen to me. I'm stupid for getting too hopeful with 'S'.

Hope things are well with you and 'R', must be going well to tell the parents

Miroslav

EthelBloggs wrote:

I know what you mean about the timing.. when you're feeling crappy the last thing you want is ppl around

I don't thik you've got a sefish bone in your body.. you're a very likeable person and you've got an awful lot to offer.. if I was single...... and its not too much to expect more than one text a week but maybe its just too much for her to do at the moment. She's got her own issues and problems and maybe she can only do what she feels she can cope with?

Yep, just wanna be left alone, well apart from one person

I'm not selfish at all, I think we all can be, but it rarely rears it's ugly head with me.

Not you as well, i've already had another poster tell me if they were single :rotfl:

I understand it may be her issues. The issue I have, is that i'm used to 'undamaged' people doing this, so i'm going by past experience.

I don't know what to think anymore

EthelBloggs

feelinggood wrote:

Sorry about your story Ethel - mine isn't that bad.
I don't really go out, he's too suspicious - always thinks I'm up to something. I go to the local shop maybe once a week, to the doctors about once a month and in to town maybe once a month or so. Other than that, unless I go out with him, I'm at home Think my biggest time without leaving the house, at all, was about 5 weeks. Part of it is that I'm scared to go out - panic attacks and stuff, but its also that I don't want to answer the questions. He doesn't get hold of my mobile, but he likes to check the last dialed/recieved numbers. He also checks the internet history unless I clear it. But, its fair enough really.
Talk to you all later xx

Lol fg... it sounds so much like mine... the not going out n stuff.. the real abuse in my case was only the last 3 years.. for the first 8 it was very similar to what you're describing.. and I said the same.. fair enough, he's worried cos Im so much younger than him..... but gradually it got worse n worse. Just be careful ok? Because things can get worse without you realising, if that makes sense?