depression

rose07

CCStar wrote:

My husband and I always get into a fight when the neighbours are noisy. He seems to think I am getting at him. It is very frustrating when you want or want someone else to tell them to shut up but know it won't help and we are wanting to move, so don't want to get into any situations over neighbours.

We want to move because

Our son is hardly here, so might as well move out
It is too big for us if he does
The neighbours really annoy us, especially in the back rooms and in the garden.
It will be three years by the time we move out - our average

The front of our house is lovely, allotments, open views and a small main road but the back is surrounded by 3 uncaring neighbours. The traffic can be annoying at rush hour but not a great problem.

neighbours can be a right pain hun.

luckily i dont have any neighbours, closest thing we have to a neighbour is a cow in all the fields that surround us.

do you and your OH argue about trivial things, (tell me to stick me beak somewhere else if ya want). and men can think that women are getting at them as they might not get the bigger picture.

sounds like you have a good plan for moving hope it goes ok

and works out for the both of you

your happiness is the main thing and as long as you and your family are happy and healthy that is that counts.

much love
xxx

rose07

Miroslav wrote:

Okay............I will reply to you all..........later..........right now, follow my instructions........

Repeat after Miroslav......."Miroslav is a fool, Miroslav is a prat, Miroslav is not very good at this friendship lark"

As planned, at 12:45, flatmate and I walked with clothes, CD's and freeview box. The plan was I dropped flatmate off just around the corner from where they were meeting........as I say, it was the plan.

Instead, flatmate decided to take another route.......okay I thought, so she might see me from a distance.......didn't want that to happen as don't want to be around every corner she turns, as things are going well.......don't wanna push it.

So we are walking along, just gotta cross the road..........arrrrggggggggghhhhhhh, she's walking down on the other side........so I put the bags on the floor, said cya later to flatmate, and pegged it :rotfl: Didn't even wait for 'S' to notice I was there, although when I looked round to check no traffic was coming so I could cross another road, she clearly had noticed me.........so now she may think I was ignoring her but I basically cacked myself and left the scene! I didn't want to bump into her as I don't want her thinking i'm moving too fast.

Anyway, had a text from flatmate saying she liked alot of the clothes and the freeview box is setup, and she says thanks, so text flatmate back, with a simple 'Good' .

Flatmate was having another of her mis-understanding evenings late last night and was the same this morning, picking at me for shaving, saying she would take me as I was, despite my protests that I shave if anyone I like I might see. She also got in a huff with me as i'm doing stuff for 'S' but not her, which is no way true, it's just that for once, she has to share my helpfulness with someone else.

She's been telling me i'm being silly for being so nervous and not wanting to bump into her...........it's not that I don't, it's that I don't want it going too fast either, cos i'm pretty scared myself, I haven't got to know someone new outside of therapy/work etc for many years. She keeps putting my fears down, so much so, i'm now panicking again about meeting her.

I heard her on the phone this morning (I know it sounds like I listen in........I don't, my flatmate is very loud!) and she told 'S' I was helping her 1/2 way, when I wasn't, I was going virtually the whole distance, and flatmate said she'd say something other than explaining that I didn't want to seem like I was in her face by walking the whole way and bumping into her.

She's being a pain at the moment, she likes taking all the credit and making herself good, but in doing that, she'd make me look ungentlemanly by saying I only carried her bags 1/2 way, and I pride myself on being a gentleman.

I dunno, maybe that rant is silly, but it's how I feel.

oke doke (do you remember that programme was great, little man came out of the tree), (god you can tell i am on me happy pills, :rotfl: )

ok,

well i am not sure why you ran away from her, dont think she would think you were being too keen, (its not like you are jumping on her), and all this gives you more of a reason to see each other.

but i do understand your nerves, do the count to 3 rule.
if you get nervous or are scared or dont want to do something, count .....1......2........3, and by the time you have got to 3 you will have overcome what you were trying to do, or stepped over the rock you could not face.

Your flatmate is in the middle of the two of you at the moment, why dont you arrange to meet 's' on your own? :eek: , scary thought i know but whats the worst that could happen, you can chat get to know each other, or take her out to the cinema or something, not a date!!!, just get to know her and what she likes doing.

try not to get stressed at your flatmate, talk to her

take care
xxx

Miroslav

rose07 wrote:

oke doke (do you remember that programme was great, little man came out of the tree), (god you can tell i am on me happy pills, :rotfl: )

ok,

well i am not sure why you ran away from her, dont think she would think you were being too keen, (its not like you are jumping on her), and all this gives you more of a reason to see each other.

but i do understand your nerves, do the count to 3 rule.
if you get nervous or are scared or dont want to do something, count .....1......2........3, and by the time you have got to 3 you will have overcome what you were trying to do, or stepped over the rock you could not face.

Your flatmate is in the middle of the two of you at the moment, why dont you arrange to meet 's' on your own? :eek: , scary thought i know but whats the worst that could happen, you can chat get to know each other, or take her out to the cinema or something, not a date!!!, just get to know her and what she likes doing.

try not to get stressed at your flatmate, talk to her

take care
xxx

:rotfl: No I don't remember that program :rotfl:

I was nervous and didn't want her to feel nervous either. I don't think I was ready to see her.........if I knew I was, i'd have been prepared. Will see what flatmate says when she comes home.......I hop I didn't upset her

I'd need to count to 50........by which time she'd have been next to me

I'm meeting her on my own Thursday. I don't expect it to happen as she has to go to a funeral on Wednesday......she doesn't want too but her estranged family are forcing her. Apart from he mother who passed, no-one ever cared for her, she hates both her real dad and step dad, and she's scared at the moment, so she'll probably cancel Thursday, as Wednesday may take it all out of her. I will be gutted, but will of course understand.

We have agreed to coffee, she's asked flatmate if I wanted to go for a walk after or shopping, I've asked flatmate to probe more...........cos I can see us having coffee, both wanting to go for a walk, but neither being able to ask :rotfl:

I do talk to flatmate, only she gets annoyed with me She doesn't understand how much I worry...........I don't know if she understand's 'S' does, I mean, she knows she does, but my flatmates usual answer to things like that is, "It'll be alright" in an annoyed tone

rose07

Miroslav wrote:

:rotfl: No I don't remember that program :rotfl:

I was nervous and didn't want her to feel nervous either. I don't think I was ready to see her.........if I knew I was, i'd have been prepared. Will see what flatmate says when she comes home.......I hop I didn't upset her

I'd need to count to 50........by which time she'd have been next to me

I'm meeting her on my own Thursday. I don't expect it to happen as she has to go to a funeral on Wednesday......she doesn't want too but her estranged family are forcing her. Apart from he mother who passed, no-one ever cared for her, she hates both her real dad and step dad, and she's scared at the moment, so she'll probably cancel Thursday, as Wednesday may take it all out of her. I will be gutted, but will of course understand.

We have agreed to coffee, she's asked flatmate if I wanted to go for a walk after or shopping, I've asked flatmate to probe more...........cos I can see us having coffee, both wanting to go for a walk, but neither being able to ask :rotfl:

I do talk to flatmate, only she gets annoyed with me She doesn't understand how much I worry...........I don't know if she understand's 'S' does, I mean, she knows she does, but my flatmates usual answer to things like that is, "It'll be alright" in an annoyed tone

Aww thats a shame he was a great little thing slid down a slide and things (oh thinking of my childhood lol.)

ok, i didnt mean to have a go there, just didnt quite understand why ya run, but can understand now, if you werent prepared to see her, no wonder ya didnt know what to do, you prob froze and realised you had a few seconds to decide what to do. lol.

ok we will have 50, for your number then, ok 1-50, count and next time she will be next to you and all you need to do is say, hi.

well i hope you do get to see her on thursday, will prob be nice for her to see someone after the funeral, so she can chat.

remember positive thoughts

Mrs_A.

good evening folks hope everyone is okish
i have had another up and down week, off work this week and next again i really glad about it because i just cant face it i am beginning to think its the job thats my problem.hey ho
anyway still going with the cbt still dont know how i feel about it
not sleeping very good and i am extremely exhausted plus this increase in paroxitine is giving me awful heart burn.
big hugs to everyone and hope everyone is going to manage to cope this week.
i dont have much planned but i bought stuff to try and make home made xmas cards and i have knitted a couple of fluffy scarves and bought more fluffy wool today at the market so thats my plan for the comming week
kindest regards
mrs a

Miroslav

rose07 wrote:

Aww thats a shame he was a great little thing slid down a slide and things (oh thinking of my childhood lol.)

ok, i didnt mean to have a go there, just didnt quite understand why ya run, but can understand now, if you werent prepared to see her, no wonder ya didnt know what to do, you prob froze and realised you had a few seconds to decide what to do. lol.

ok we will have 50, for your number then, ok 1-50, count and next time she will be next to you and all you need to do is say, hi.

well i hope you do get to see her on thursday, will prob be nice for her to see someone after the funeral, so she can chat.

remember positive thoughts

Never heard of him, oh well, I may have to look out for him

Nah, didn't think you were having a go, and yes, I froze and thought "Argggghh" and turned around hoping she hadn't seen me

I'll have chance Thursday hopefully to say 'Hi' and more Well, hopefully

Yeah, hopefully she'll want to talk about it. It's no-one close, she doesn't have anyone close, it's just a friend of the family who she's being pressured to go to the funeral. Problem is, when she goes there, she comes back very down They really drain her

I'll try and remain positive, flatmate will be home any time in next couple of hours I suspect. *scared*

rose07

Mrs_A. wrote:

good evening folks hope everyone is okish
i have had another up and down week, off work this week and next again i really glad about it because i just cant face it i am beginning to think its the job thats my problem.hey ho
anyway still going with the cbt still dont know how i feel about it
not sleeping very good and i am extremely exhausted plus this increase in paroxitine is giving me awful heart burn.
big hugs to everyone and hope everyone is going to manage to cope this week.
i dont have much planned but i bought stuff to try and make home made xmas cards and i have knitted a couple of fluffy scarves and bought more fluffy wool today at the market so thats my plan for the comming week
kindest regards
mrs a

Hi Mrs A

nice to hear from you

if you are not ready for work then dont do it as it will only make you feel worse if you feel negative about it.

sounds like you have got some good things to do this week, keep youself busy and stay positive.

take care
xxx

rose07

Miroslav wrote:

Never heard of him, oh well, I may have to look out for him

Nah, didn't think you were having a go, and yes, I froze and thought "Argggghh" and turned around hoping she hadn't seen me

I'll have chance Thursday hopefully to say 'Hi' and more Well, hopefully

Yeah, hopefully she'll want to talk about it. It's no-one close, she doesn't have anyone close, it's just a friend of the family who she's being pressured to go to the funeral. Problem is, when she goes there, she comes back very down They really drain her

I'll try and remain positive, flatmate will be home any time in next couple of hours I suspect. *scared*

Well you can be there for her and let her know if she need to talk you are there.

Keep just being yourself, and stay true.

But try and get some sleep and eat properly as well.

take care hun
xxx

rose07

my posts are getting shorter. . . .

Well I dont wanna go to work tomorrow, infact dont wanna do anything.
AARRGGHHHH

Just been speaking to my gran, she has cancer and was talking to me about it, i didnnt know what to say.

In the last hour have started coughing alot, (you would think i am a smoker with the sound of the cough, lol), but i dont smoke, thought i had got rid of the tonsilitis, but maybe not!!!!!

anyway off now
as got quite a few things to do before tomorrow
will be thinking of you all
take care and sweet dreams
xxx

Horasio

rose07 wrote:

neighbours can be a right pain hun.

luckily i dont have any neighbours, closest thing we have to a neighbour is a cow in all the fields that surround us.

do you and your OH argue about trivial things, (tell me to stick me beak somewhere else if ya want). and men can think that women are getting at them as they might not get the bigger picture.

sounds like you have a good plan for moving hope it goes ok

and works out for the both of you

your happiness is the main thing and as long as you and your family are happy and healthy that is that counts.

much love
xxx

Bl**dy neighbours have been a plague for the past 10 years. I would love to live near to just cows - I know they moo but it's a pleasant sound:)

He has it in his head that I blame him for everything. How can bad neighbours be his fault. They are the igorants t*rds, not him. Yes I would say it stems from trivial stuff. It does bring me down tho'. I don't find him relaxing. Sometimes I would like to have my own place away from horrible neighbours and family, so I can truly relax.

He reminds me of me when I used to get my severe PMS, what you see is very real. You think people are being horrible etc.

Yes, I have a plan.

Go to this party, start packing, get Christmas over, put the place up for sale whilst it is cool and quieter, hopefully sell, find another place or two, get another car, get my son a place to live.

I would like this all done by April/May before the summer. Can't stay here another summer:eek: