depression

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

It is frustrating when you are the 'strong' one but need someone to be strong for you, sometimes too.

Yeah, for the first time, possibly since I was 16, i'm outwardly scared. I've not hidden it, and my flatmate isn't handling it well.

She's helped get me and 'S' together as a friendship, which I am very grateful for, but she now thinks I should be all happy again, and worry about her 24/7 again.

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

Yes, without sounding like I'm being odd. I'm not keen on the term 'girlie' either. Sounds a bit patronising and like !!!!!! stars/girlie magazines

Well, I only called her that, as she's a girl, she's girly and.........well that's it.

'S' it is

Horasio

Bunnie1982 wrote:

I'm still here feeling sorry for myself, feel like my husband is going to hold it against me as he keeps mentioning it.

Don't think he can trust me on my own in the house now, I think he fears I may harm myself again

I can understand him being worried but duh, doens't he realise the shouting probably drove you to it.

The bl**dy idiot:mad:

regularsaver1

Thats good then Miroslav

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

We've come from different lives, as most women i've known are attracted to dominant/aggressive men, and think sensitive men like me aren't real men.

I don't get on with men, I'm much better with women, and as my flatmate says, I'm like a woman, only don't dress as one. I'm caring, sensitive, don't like drinking, violence, cars. Flatmate and 'S' were joking about doing female things with me 'S' said it was good I wasn't like most men. Sad thing is she is attracted to bad guys. Some of the things I heard she's been through made me really angry

I've seen people, male and female, on the main forum try and be aggressive and dominant, act like they've never made a mistake, and too quick to jump on easy targets. It's all to boost there own fragile ego's, I wouldn't worry about it.

Ironically, I find aggressive men are not a bit manly. They are nasty little insecure boys. I don't understand women who go for aggressive men. OK if a person is nasty to me and I want someone to stand up to them for me, then it is OK for some back up but not be done aggressively.

I find it tiresome and I get really bored when males (and some females) go down that stubborn route:rolleyes:

It is bl**dy hard work:mad:

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

Yeah, for the first time, possibly since I was 16, i'm outwardly scared. I've not hidden it, and my flatmate isn't handling it well.

She's helped get me and 'S' together as a friendship, which I am very grateful for, but she now thinks I should be all happy again, and worry about her 24/7 again.

It doesn't happen like that, she can't expect you to snap out it immediately. You are still feeling uncertain.

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

Ironically, I find aggressive men are not a bit manly. They are nasty little insecure boys. I don't understand women who go for aggressive men. OK if a person is nasty to me and I want someone to stand up to them for me, then it is OK for some back up but not be done aggressively.

I find it tiresome and I get really bored when males (and some females) go down that stubborn route:rolleyes:

It does my head in too. I just want to meet a nice female who wants to be loved and cared for, and will do the same in return.

I've met 'S' now, but that's just for friendship. It's more than I had, and I didn't think i'd ever meet another nice girl. It's cool we are going to have fun, with no strings, but also support each other. My next target is a nice young lady, who realises I have baggage, and also appreciates I don't want a sexual relationship yet.

Expecting too much I know, it's taken me nearly 15 years to find a supportive friend. I don't include my flatmate as i'm more supportive to her, or my ex, who basically was a nasty person who took advantage of me.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

Loneliness is not a nice place. I've lived with my flatmate for many years, and have very rarely felt anything but alone.

I doubt it is 'manspeak', it just sounds as if he has some issues of his own.

I feel blooming lonely most of the time too and I have a husband, so being alone isn't the issue. I feel a void most of the time.

He won't talk to me and he certainly has bad communication skills

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

It doesn't happen like that, she can't expect you to snap out it immediately. You are still feeling uncertain.

Wish you could explain that to her!

She's okay with me, it's just not the same way I am with her.

rose07

jellycat40 wrote:

Hi Rose thanks for your concern and thoughts.

Went to the docs yesterday and she said that my symptoms (sexual dysfunction) are a side effect of the meds! She asked if I could live with it and to bear in mind I may be on them for a few years.

She is happy with me overall and said I seemed better to her. I was with her for all of 10mins!

A new scrip and an appt for 2 weeks.

Went to aqua fit last night which always boosts my mood. Today I am ok, tired, but ok.

Louise

hi

thats ok, i care bout everyone here. x

i am glad you got to your doctors, and that now you know whats up and can deside on best course of action that suits you

i used to go to aqua fit with me mates, it was great fun a real motivation thing, and great exercise too, plus it was funi some of the things we did. lol

xxx