depression

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Miroslav wrote:

Do you think you would be better off without him? Do you put up with his attitudes because you don't want to be alone?

He sounds mean to you. Is there anything in his life that maybe causing him to act like he does towards you?

The way I feel now, I do. I'm not scared of being alone. I stayed because I didn't have enough money then I stayed for my son, as being a single parent was too difficult with my health problems.

He has this thing that I am blaming him. I am not but everything I say, he takes as me blaming him. There is no blame, it is bad communication. We are not gelling tonight and he's being totally unreasonable with me.

Maybe there is some manspeak I am unfamiliar with.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

Leave my balls alone. I don't shout very often

It's OK, if I say anything about men, it isn't aimed at you. I can tell you are a caring one.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

Why did it * out the i in twit

Kick him in the ba..........nah wouldn't condone violence

coz it isn't twit

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Miroslav wrote:

Why did it * out the i in twit

Kick him in the ba..........nah wouldn't condone violence

No violence never solves anything. But I have this thing about men who are aggressive.

They seem to attack women for any weakness, yet never admit to theirs, either taking everything as a blame or blaming others.

I haven't felt very happy with males. I feel they put women down, call them irrational, unreasonable and deep down hate them. These are males I have encountered, no-one on this thread. But a few on the main forum.

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Miroslav wrote:

She's been better the last couple of weeks. She has 'problems' too, but has moved on a bit, although, she still has many problems, ones which I can help with sometimes.

She's usually as she is now, I don't think she can handle my problems. She's usually tactless, doesn't think before she speaks, can't understand that I don't like alcohol, crossing the road etc etc. I mean she knows why, but she acts like I should just get over it. She says one things sometimes and acts like another. I just think she's fed up of me feeling low and can't understand why I can't give all my attention.

Occasionally she'll do something for me, like talk to her friend, who is now my friend, or provisionally my friend anyway, but I get the feeling she's done it so I have someone else to do things with, just to get out of her way.

She understands i'm down, but doesn't know how to deal with it, because for the last 12 years, i've been the stronger one, but when it comes to my feelings, she finds it hard to deal with mine. She doesn't understand, she's not been through what I have.

It is frustrating when you are the 'strong' one but need someone to be strong for you, sometimes too.

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feelinggood wrote:

Ummm, call her anything other than girlie, otherwise I'm likely to cry every time I read your posts lol. Its not a big problem tho, its alright

Bunnie, if you cannot face it, don't do it. You might make yourself worse if you push it too much. Hope you feel better soon xxx

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feelinggood wrote:

Ummm, call her anything other than girlie, otherwise I'm likely to cry every time I read your posts lol. Its not a big problem tho, its alright

Bunnie, if you cannot face it, don't do it. You might make yourself worse if you push it too much. Hope you feel better soon xxx

Yes, without sounding like I'm being odd. I'm not keen on the term 'girlie' either. Sounds a bit patronising and like !!!!!! stars/girlie magazines

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

The way I feel now, I do. I'm not scared of being alone. I stayed because I didn't have enough money then I stayed for my son, as being a single parent was too difficult with my health problems.

He has this thing that I am blaming him. I am not but everything I say, he takes as me blaming him. There is no blame, it is bad communication. We are not gelling tonight and he's being totally unreasonable with me.

Maybe there is some manspeak I am unfamiliar with.

Loneliness is not a nice place. I've lived with my flatmate for many years, and have very rarely felt anything but alone.

I doubt it is 'manspeak', it just sounds as if he has some issues of his own.

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

It's OK, if I say anything about men, it isn't aimed at you. I can tell you are a caring one.

Oh good

As for caring...........too caring

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

No violence never solves anything. But I have this thing about men who are aggressive.

They seem to attack women for any weakness, yet never admit to theirs, either taking everything as a blame or blaming others.

I haven't felt very happy with males. I feel they put women down, call them irrational, unreasonable and deep down hate them. These are males I have encountered, no-one on this thread. But a few on the main forum.

We've come from different lives, as most women i've known are attracted to dominant/aggressive men, and think sensitive men like me aren't real men.

I don't get on with men, I'm much better with women, and as my flatmate says, I'm like a woman, only don't dress as one. I'm caring, sensitive, don't like drinking, violence, cars. Flatmate and 'S' were joking about doing female things with me 'S' said it was good I wasn't like most men. Sad thing is she is attracted to bad guys. Some of the things I heard she's been through made me really angry

I've seen people, male and female, on the main forum try and be aggressive and dominant, act like they've never made a mistake, and too quick to jump on easy targets. It's all to boost there own fragile ego's, I wouldn't worry about it.