depression

Horasio

feelinggood wrote:

Seems a common reaction that, and one I couldn't understand.
I was raped, and started sleeping around after that - seems the opposite of what I'd have expected to happen.

Pefrectly normal to be nervous, Remember to breathe!

I think it gives you a feeling of control, being a sexual preditor.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

True, but with someone, it's more special, and if I do do it, it would mean me being comfortable with someone, which I don't see happening.

Anyway, I'm going offline. Flatmate home very soon, and i've got to gear myself up even more.

I may be back soon, when it's cancelled :rolleyes:

Thanks for all the kind words

:wave:

It is 4.35pm - I hope all is OK:)

feelinggood_2

CCStar wrote:

You say you feel rampant. Does your husband appreciate it? Mine wasn't so rampant, so felt sooo frustrated most of the time and felt he was trying to control me. I thought men wanted sex more than women, so was so upset and confused.

Sometimes sex can be a temporary relief from the misery but it is tiring.

I'm not really wanting it to be with him tho :-/

Horasio

Bunnie1982 wrote:

I used to have a very good sexual appetite until I was sexually and mentally abused by someone who I was going out with in the past. I found it very hard to escape the clutches of this person and always blamed myself for the way he was with me.

He was 28 years older than me and knew how to manipulate and control me.

Now I am with my husband, I am shy of sexual situations and tend to pull away from him. Occasionally he does or says things that reminds me of my previous relationship and I just burst out crying. He is very patient with me.

That is some age difference, of course he could. What a nasty person:mad:

I am glad your husband is understanding

Horasio

feelinggood wrote:

I'm not really wanting it to be with him tho :-/

Have you gone off him? Is there someone else you like?

feelinggood_2

CCStar wrote:

Have you gone off him? Is there someone else you like?

I was never on him lol.
There is someone else I like, plus I'm tending to swing more to the lesbian side of things :rotfl:

Horasio

feelinggood wrote:

I was never on him lol.
There is someone else I like, plus I'm tending to swing more to the lesbian side of things :rotfl:

Is there a female you like?

It is understandable you liking women after what happened. I like the company of women but not sexually attracted to them, never was.

I did wonder about my sexuality at one point, as I don't like the dominance of males during sex. They take control, if they don't want it or can't get it up, it is a problem. If they force it on you, it is a major problem.

Can I ask - why did you marry him?

I was keen on my husband but he has this distance which really psses me off. I need(ed) someone who I could rely on after all the screwed up relationships I had before.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

When I was sexually abused as a child, I turned to sex, with my g/f and then for a long time, didn't understand anything but sex. It may be just another reason why I'm bad at relationships.

About 20 mins to get there (walking) and it's just a casual meet, so just t-shirt and jeans, but it's my fave t-shirt. New shoes too! My old one's squeaked.

I've shaved, smell good, will smell better.........sounds like a date, it's not as flatmate will be there, and it's not what I want it to be, I just want to make a good first impression.

Shiting myself.

Is it normal to be virtually sick? I keep gagging

I shouldn't laugh but the thought of squeaky shoes:D

I think the excessive indulgence of sex is a form of escape and control

feelinggood_2

CCStar wrote:

Is there a female you like?

It is understandable you liking women after what happened. I like the company of women but not sexually attracted to them, never was.

I did wonder about my sexuality at one point, as I don't like the dominance of males during sex. They take control, if they don't want it or can't get it up, it is a problem. If they force it on you, it is a major problem.

Can I ask - why did you marry him?

I was keen on my husband but he has this distance which really psses me off. I need(ed) someone who I could rely on after all the screwed up relationships I had before.

Theres a guy I'm interested in, and a woman.
I've always thought of myself as bi, but never acted on it, I really want to now!

He was the first man who ever paid me any attention, first guy who wanted me for more than just sex. I thought no one else would.
Plus, it would (is) have been hard to leave, seeing as we faught hard to be together

feelinggood_2

Mmm, scared everyone off hehe
Hope everyone is alright, and Miroslav, thinking about you!

I'm off to the pub tonight, so I'm drinking now to get me in the mood hehe.
Bit down, but alright. Need to have a shower and stuff, but can't be bothered.