depression

Tiff_2

feelinggood wrote:

19 now, it was 6 years ago.

The drinking is numbing it a little bit. Helping. Got to make sure I don't drink too much otherwise I'll be silly and go and find my hidden craft knife :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Hi fg, not going to tell you anything you don't already know hun. it is NOT helping. I can relate to what you went through angel and the best way to get rid of a demon is to get help and face it. Your soul was scarred by your experience - please don't let him be the reason that your body is scarred too.
We're here for you
Tiff
xx

Tiff_2

gillette147 wrote:

Well if we could bottle all that milk of human kindness you've got we could all make money.

Christ almighty - have you got no soul
This is about the only thread that should exist
The rest is just meaningless prattle


Sorry to be rude - here's a 5p off voucher for your trouble

I hadn't read all the posts when I last posted to you. Glad you stayed - boy, you're fitting right in!
Tiff x

Miroslav

Hello

I've learnt alot about her tonight, after my flatmate visited her She has so little She lives so basically, has very little, other than an ex b/f who leeches and she's had a terrible life

My flatmate says she has very little, but doesn't accept many people in her life, especially ones who want her for just her, as she doesn't understand why they want her Nowhere to go at Xmas

We are all going to meet Tuesday for coffee. I know she won't like me, but hey

I hope in time she'll like me. I want to help her even more now........she has barely any money, barely eats, and literally just enough in her flat to fill a suitcase She just doesn't accept help. My flatmate can help there though, she seems to have got 'in' past the barriers.


I'm now gonna wet myself until Tuesday I know she won't like me, I just know it.

Miroslav

gillette147 wrote:

But i'm not dealing with it, or on treatment.
Don't even want to admit to it.
Too much of a bloke.

Well, I'm 6'9, very big built, and I struggle with every day life.

Don't get me wrong, if someone tries causing me grief, i'll sort it out, but some things happen in life, that wouldn't matter who it happened too, irrespective of height, weight, looks, financial status, that could knock us all back.

I don't like admitting it, as guys aren't meant to have feelings according to some, but we do, so some times we need an ear or three.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

Hello

I've learnt alot about her tonight She has so little She lives so basically, has very little, other than an ex b/f who leeches and she's had a terrible life

My flatmate says she has very little, but doesn't accept many people in her life, especially ones who want her for just her, as she doesn't understand why they want her Nowhere to go at Xmas

We are all going to meet Tuesday for coffee. I know she won't like me, but hey

I hope in time she'll like me. I want to help her even more now........she has barely any money, barely eats, and literally just enough in her flat to fill a suitcase She just doesn't accept help. My flatmate can help there though, she seems to have got 'in' past the barriers.


I'm now gonna wet myself until Tuesday I know she won't like me, I just know it.

I was thinking about you earlier and wondered how it was going?

It sounds like you have got past the first hurdle. Your flatmate sounds invaluable to this lady. She sounds like like she will need a lot of patience, as she sounds very damaged. Be friendly, but not expect too much on Tuesday. You have good intentions, but she needs to be able to trust. That takes time.

Miroslav

rose07 wrote:

thanks saz. (ok so im not quite up on the whole jargon wargon yet but getting there, LMAO)

right im going to moan for a bit now, as well i need to.
ok so feeling awful today and here is why (rose makes a rewind noise).
last night went out i was on a sobre night, very strange being sobre when everyone else around you is wasted. lol
anyway was having a good night until we got to the club, it is a over 21 club.
we were waiting in the que with my mates, a guy has a go at me, but i think nothing of it as hhe is drunk.
then we get in th club and we are dancing away and i bump into one of my exes. lol. (he just sent me a text saying how i looked good last night :eek: )
anyway thats not the pprob as me and him are cool.

anyway on the dance floor later.. . .
i bump into the guys that were giving me and my mates hassle at the door.
(now i dont go out dressed to kill, i wear jeans, and a strappy top)
this one guy starts pinching my as* and, slapping me, and keeps pulling down my straps to both my top and my bra, :eek: .
well there is only so much i can take, i punched him (know i shouldnt have)
he punched me back and went back and forth for a bit till my mates seen what was happening and took me away.

well made me feel awful, as now i feel like i ask for these things, that i must go out to places with, oh i dont know, something, i guess.


anyway im a bit upset today (well if im honest alot)
as i was trapped between 4 guys, all were not being nice and touching and being absolute w*nkers., least to say it reminded me of the whole attack 3 years ago, i felt very vulnerable, and scared. ( i am oonly a little thing just under 5ft and everyone towers over me, to the point that i usually dance in the middle of my mates, but last night it was soo crowded i lost them, and couldnt see them).
god you all prob think i am a wimp now.

i didnt get home till 5am today, and i am shattered, very stressed, upset, scared, shaking and feel like someone is killing me from the inside.

does anyone know any way of relaxing, or at least being able to breathe?

darn it, i wasnt going to cry, but too many memories coming back.
i realli feellikedoing something.

right thats me moan over with, will go and walk into a car now. . . .

Just wanted to say, we aren't all like that. I've never pinched a girls bottom, apart from when in relationship with them. It's bang out of order.

I thought most girls like that sort of thing, but i've never lowered myself to being sleazy. It's nice there are girls who still exist, that don't like it.

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

I was thinking about you earlier and wondered how it was going?

It sounds like you have got past the first hurdle. Your flatmate sounds invaluable to this lady. She sounds like like she will need a lot of patience, as she sounds very damaged. Be friendly, but not expect too much on Tuesday. You have good intentions, but she needs to be able to trust. That takes time.

Thanks

She's very outgoing, but it covers all the crap. She's scared of me, because of my size, she's lost her Mum who is the only person ever to love her and look after her. She's learnt to look after herself, and hides things well.

She was disappointed when my flatmate said I would pay on Tuesday, but gave in She is damaged, but I know we can be good for each other as friends.

I'm not expecting too much, I just hope she wants to get to know me, and we can be friends. I'd really like that. It's a massive step for both of us, I think I am more scared than her, at least on the outside.

My flatmate has told her i'm really gentle, genuine, kind, caring and not out for just one thing.

She said that she said I seemed 'Nice'

I've got this far, I hope she doesn't reject me anytime soon

Tiff_2

LizEstelle wrote:

The sub board title for this thread says 'this board is for health-related money saving'.

Just to play devil's advocate, can anyone point to the last post on the thread which had the SLIGHTEST relevance to the saving of money?

The usual suspects will now raise a clamour at my meanness and cold-heartedness etc etc - but, in all honesty, does a thread like this REALLY belong on the website..?

I can see the point you're making and I'm sorry you couldn't resist playing Devil's Advocate. My turn...
-You don't have to post or read if this thread doesn't appeal.
-Threads like this one make a difference to lives - financially too. Another poster said that funerals are expensive. That's just the tip of the iceberg hun.
-What should we be doing - advising each other on where to buy the cheapest Paracetamol?!
-I, and many others, have offered experienced replies to people here who did not know about benefits or Disability entitlements or how to apply when they were too scared to stop working because there'd be no money coming in. That is a very valid financial aspect. There are many money saving posts about that on here - you ought to read the pages before you ask such a question. It can also mean the difference between somebody feeling so cornered that they take their own life.
- How valid are the other discussion boards (and no I'm not slating them) like the MSE's Friday night Arms - where general discussions, including depression are held - or the recipe thread. If you check the forums, you will see that not all mention £s in all their posts.
- We support each other because obviously the resources are not there for everyone at the right time. We may even be saving the NHS some money - but we are not a replacement for them or for other professional or charitable organisations. We are just people with experience and helpful advice.
-And we don't judge anyone.
-We don't have the resources to have a separate website which is what you imply you'd prefer. We're from all over the country with varying problems and we were drawn to MSE forums because of Martin's ethos. We're a small board and not hurting anyone. Even our wonderful MSE Martin is supporting charitable causes and putting something back. Other boards brought us here and through that, we've been given something from MSE just as we give to other MSE forums.
-Maybe you'd like to tell us where you think we should go? I hope you never have the need we have and I, for one, feel privileged to be a part of this thread!
TIFF

Miroslav

LizEstelle wrote:

Ok, let me add my tuppenceworth here - and I apologise straight away if what I say has been mentioned either here or on any other thread.

Going back to the original post - if difficulty with waking up in the morning was one of the worst things about living with depression, I would not consider this a major obstacle to getting on with life.

What I have found to be a besetting, chronic problem about depression is the way it does not allow you to think straight or come to good decisions about really important matters. Again, if this was only to do with, for example, saving money/financial planning, I would not cry foul.

Within limits, money is not an overriding consideration in my life.

No, I mean REALLY important matters - family, relationships... people we love...

Oh for a time machine...

I'm guessing lack of replies to this, led to your outburst tonight.

Hope you feel better soon.

Miroslav

Oh, I can't go through any more tonight.

I am so tired, excited, nervous, depressed, hopeful, begging for this girl to like me.

PLEAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!

Bet she doesn't wanna see me again after Tuesday........if she doesn't cancel