depression

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gillette147 wrote:

What's this site all about then?
Im not diagnosed depressive but could easily kill myself if it didn't hurt anyone.

Hi Gillette - welcome - come on in.
This site, I think, is a place where people can come to express themselves, share experiences, get varying advice and we even manage to have a laugh sometimes.
Have you had any discussion with your GP on how you feel? That's the first place to start. If you are depressed or have another mental ill health situation, they'll start you out on the road to recovery. Well done you for having the guts to post.
If you read back through some of the earlier threads, several of us posted views on what it means to people should you take your own life. Without question, it would hurt many people.
Please feel free to join in angel - we're not judgemental here and just want to help each other. Men and women post here - you are so very welcome.
Best wishes,
Tiff.

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feelinggood wrote:

Hey guys
Only a quick one, wanted to let you know I went to the shop today! Yay me, I made it outside.
Will definately go to the docs on Monday. I'm not ready to be blunt with OH, so I won't tell him I'm gonna go. Hes a bit stressed with work, esp. with having to go to Germany on Thurs, so I'll wait till thats out the way first.
Thanks for all your kind words and advice, much appreciated

That's fantastic fg! I know how much that took doing. Well done you! It's good to hear you sounding hopeful hun - keep us posted about the docs tomorrow - good luck!Much love
Tiff x

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Miroslav wrote:

Yeah, when she's standing in front of me, I will faint, because she's wanted to get to know me

Well, she is at the moment. Unless I am really really down, and I haven't been this bad for many years, it's like getting blood out of a stone About time I got something back for all my years work with her

I realise the sleeping/eating is likely to be depression. My flatmate reckons I am grieving. Even though I don't live a hectic lifestyle, i've never been able to just 'grieve' and now I am forcing myself too. I've never had anyone to talk to about the people I have lost, because counsellors have never deemed it importnat enough, and never had a friend to talk about it too.

Slow is good, but i'm waiting for the inevitable, nothing that lasts.

Plan B - Britney loves me? Can I dream that?

Hi Miroslav - any counsellor that tells that those losses were not important enough should get a hard slap (no, don't!) and a very effective Tiff letter (no-one wants a Tiff letter! ) You should report any counsellor that tells you that! Disgusting! Ooh, you've started me off now...:D
About Plan B - you can dream about anything you wish hun, as long as it's legal! You can find peace inside yourself sometimes like that when you can't find the peace on the outside.
Tiff x

gillette147

I've had some great help from someone on here all day. I feel back on the level now. Be honest, seeing your battles has kicked me up the bum about it.

I switch from ok to right down instantly. It's like something in me catches me feeling ok and says "oh no you're not allowed that". That happened last nite. Beer made it worse.

I don't think doctors will help. Or TBH i can't face seeing one at the moment. That feels even more depressing. I feel i've gotta deal with it myself. I have been all these years.

Thank you all so much.

I've got to go to germany for work tomorrow til thursday. It'll make me get on - got no choice.

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Mrs_A. wrote:

mrs a here just checking in with you all.
i am ok i suppose had my paroxitine upped to 50mgs a day, getting my cbt weekly at the day hosptial, i dont know how i feel about it i think its too early to make a decision not that i am very good about them, have been off work for 3 weeks and i am off next week too. i think that is probably why i have been ok to be honest. been doing a lot of housework recently because it has been needing it. started an evening class nearly 3 weeks ago on manicures etc and i am really enjoying that, in fact i have my first customer tomorrow and my cousin has asked me to go to the bingo as well which i am thinking about. been doing some painting in the house too which i am finding a real drag but it needs doing and i am off work and feel i should be doing something if you know what i mean.
better go for now hope EVERYONE is well and coping just now
kindest regards
mrs a

I think you've got some very positive things starting here angel. Don't worry about work, try not to fret. I was the same - went from over 60 hours a week to nothing and because I wasn't aware of the reasons i was ill, I felt like a bit of a fraud. Nothing could be further form the truth.
This is your time now mrs a., and you deserve to make the most of it to be well. You're doing really well.
Tiff
x

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rose07 wrote:

thanks huni, (yeah you can say i told you so now. :rotfl: )
glad to see you, i thought i was going to have to get me wellies on again (and to be honest i dont have the energy to get them on), so everyone be good!!! or i will get me fluffy slippers instead , lol.
Hi Rose I've posted a reply before reading this post from you. I KNEW you'd have bunny slippers!!!:rotfl:

you are right i am not one for taaking my own advice, never do, lol. (usually do the opposite,)
yeah im glad the doctor was nice, i dont know how i woulda been if i had been told to go away or not helpful etc..
Well sometimes tiff as you say when we hit bottom there is only one way we can go, so i realised i could get no lower, and took everything yesterday with all my strength (yeah i was dreading the whole day)
(strange thing in my interview was that, i was soo ill ( i only managed it out of bed because i had the doctor), and i could barely talk just kept saying yep alot, but i have the experience that they are hopefully wanting to move the company forward with (so i am a good investment realli )arrgghh parents arguing, :eek: giving me a headache,:o to be honest feeling awful today, can barely talk, breathing is awful and last night i couldnt sleep for all the coughing and thinking i was doing. (i had to take a morphine mixture to ease the pain), i am on all kinds of medicine and cant stand it. lol.
i am going out tonight to say bye bye to my mate who is off to london (yes tears will be shed, if i can get me emotion out). ,

Hey Rose - at least you're giving it a try. If it works out you have £s and new people in your life. If not, you're stuck with us! I know how strong you are. Tiff x

im not going anywhere Tiff, job or no job, i will still find a way to see how your all doing (i have my ways) and dont be thinking for one minute you can escape me again.
i want daily updates, and if anyone has any bad dates, post them!!!
my bad dates this month are 16, 17 and 19. (9 days :eek: )
then we can support and help you through the worst time.

Glad you're following my advice angel! We can count on each other here.

oh im not really in the mood for tonight, i got a banging headache, chest sore, flu symptoms and tonsilitis, GGREEAT, nothing like some pain and things to keep you going. lol , and got an hour before i go out (and will most likely be out till 4am+), and i have to be up at 5am on monday for some freelance work i am doing. :eek: ,(i havent even had a chance to sort the equipment out) god i already feel stressed and its not even started yet.

ok stopping me ramblings. . .

Tiff, so how are you then hun? (no wellies, i promise)
How are you sleeping and have you managed to sort a few things out?
Was thinking about you last night as i tossed, turned and generally coughed me guts up. lol(musta reminded me of you somehow, :rotfl:)
I seem to have this effect on a lot of people!

yeah it has been a long day/week for us i have a feeling that the next week is going to be just as long?, here is hoping that you get some sleep, and have a great weekend.
I know you, so do something you enjoy, spend time with your DS (if you can), oh what is your interest hun?
( you don't have a 16 year old son do you?! just joking! )

as you know mine is creative things, lol.
do you have a hobby?, (oh i can just imagine you horse riding, :rotfl: )
Actually that's something I always wanted to try but feel my current physique may be more suited to camels!:rotfl:
Another coincidence Rosie - I guess I'm the creative type. I'm a writer (no, not just on here you spanner!:rolleyes: ) - - had some poetry published, write poetry and short stories with a twist (like Roald Dahl, etc.) in the tail, won some competitions. Trust me to love doing something that most people don't become famous for, (if only I was that good!) until they're dead!!!:rotfl:

and then there is music, very relaxing . . . .(i use that to try and sleep)
Love music, genealogy, theatre and finding dairy free chocolate!:D

i can be very stubborn as far as looking aftr myself, lol.
I must admit Rose, i'm exhausted, run down and feeling what a lot of you can relate to - a bad case of I can't be bothered cooking. My DS thinks I'm dating someone from Dominoes!:rotfl: And it's torture too because only he can eat it!:eek: I've lost some of my support carers due to cuts and I've got to see consultant on Wednesday about getting fixed (hysterectomy! ) - wait for it.... AT THE MATERNITY HOSPITAL!!!:rolleyes:

glad you know where i am, and that goes for all of you.
take care tiff xxx
Thanks angel. x

ok take care everyone
off to get ready (this is going to be fun, can barely move, LMAO)
and remember everyone do something you enjoy, keep fighting and try and be positive,
much love to you all xxx

We appreciate your time angel!

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rose07 wrote:

Hi CCStar

im here . . . .

aaww i hope you are treating your cold with things and taking care of it all.
keep warm x...


QUOTE: no fighting/upsetting people . . . . or i will have to get tiff here with me. You called? Who needs a Tiff letter? Was forced to get my pen out today and it's still sharp!)

you ok now CCStar?

QUOTE:CCStar i am soz i brought up your DS now. lol. i have great respect for parents/adults as us kids/adults can be a right handful, and i want you to know, that whatever your DS is like and why he is like that, he is an adult and is responsible for himself. QUOTE

CC, I'm sure you've been the best mother you could be. It not always a reflection on a parent as to how their 'child' behaves. Some people are just unlucky with how things turn out. You give good advice and we care about you.

QUOTE:anyway dont woz
we all here to talk and get things out and hopefully make things better.
x

Too right! x

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Bettyboop - Hi angel - well done for persevering in getting that help via the Crisis Team! And honey, don't feel bad about the 'good time' not lasting very long this time - you can apply the same thought to the 'bad times'. Take heart angel, at least you know - and through your post, now others may have learned and been reassured - that there ARE good times and that they WILL be back. Talk soon.
Tiff
x

Horasio

Tiff wrote:

Too right! x

I dont understand what this is meant to mean.

I do hope I am not being ganged up on. Rose and I sorted it ages ago and don't want to get involved with a third party about it. I stated my opinion about what was said to me, it was not an attack and she seemed to be OK with it. I don't like people, saying they will set others on others. It is a form of ganging up and I don't agree with it.

I am glad to give a sympathetic ear to people and stand up for people whom I feel have been attacked, there was someone earlier who attacked another member and basically dissed this thread. Perhaps you could use your energies for dealing with her. She posted as a wind up we think. It was certainly a trigger for a lot of people.

I have issues with feeling ganged up on and won't post here again and take appropriate action, if I feel I am.

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gillette147 wrote:

I need a blokes depression thread.
Cya girls
xx

Hi Gillette - obviously I don't know whether you'll read this but why judge us so quickly? Men do post here. I sense that you are worried that we won't understand your viewpoint, or that you don't like opening up for fear of lessening your masculinity?
gillette - we're people - it's not about male or female. There aren't any men/women haters here and I'm sorry you feel uncomfortable.
Just a thought though before I go, you came onto this thread for a reason. You came to us! Which is a way of asking for help or looking for people with similar experiences. Why not give us a chance?
If not, then I wish you well - good luck.
Tiff x