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Sts this week

micron_2

2lb loss for me this week. Must try even harder next week. I succumbed to a few packets of crisps this week and portion sizes could have been smaller!

ruby_eskimo

Hi everyone, think my original post got lost somewhere along the line because I'm not on the tracker....but anyway I sts this week. 28lb to go still!

Burlesque_Babe

5 off for me, so 44 in total. Pleased with that.....are there 2 more weigh ins?? I think there are....who is looking after the sheet whilst Lou is away being a party girl?? I'm going to be brave and say stick my end of challenge up to 50 pounds :eek:

tenmah

Oh BB well done, that is fantastic :T

I don't think anyone is looking after the spreadsheet whilst Lou is away - she is going to do it when she gets back.

Dare I ask what the comment was this week from OH?

Burlesque_Babe

Haven't told him tenmah....he went out last night and didn't come back (as per usual). Before he went out last night he said he was dropping his car at a mates nearby and this morning could I run him there from my house to pick it up as he had to be at football training for 10.30. I said 'so you will be back' and he said 'depends how drunk I get'. I sent a bit of an acidic text this morning saying I hoped wherever he was it was worth it. I went out around 10 and said I'd gone out and had waited for him but he had obviously sorted himself out. He had the cheek to text 5 minutes later to say if I was anywhere near his house could I come and get him to get his car......

I ignored it as I was out by then and sent a text a bit later saying I had already gone out and was nowhere near his house. His house and his mates house are about a quarter to half a mile away. I feel what he does is selfish, disrespectful and thoughtless as he just stays out. I once said to him what would he do if I went and out and just didn't come back - wouldn't he be concerned? He just shrugged and said no.

tenmah

Oh dear, I am sorry to hear that.

In between these selfish acts and comments, do you have a good time together though? Do you have a laugh and good conversation and the badness is occassional or are they more the norm?

Burlesque_Babe

We don't spend much time together. Other than holidays we've never spent a weekend together in over 7 years. He goes back to his house every Saturday and Sunday after getting up. I've asked, pleaded, been upset, been cross, been nice, been horrible, it doesn't work, he won't spend a day with me - he always has 'stuff to do' but when you ask what he's done, it's often 'not much'.

He doesn't turn up now until 9 each night even though his house takes about 1 minute to drive to. I used be narky when it was 8! I've never met any of his friends and again, other than holiday we never go out, possibly once a year? He says he doesn't want to just turn up and be sat watching TV when I say how late it is each evening, but when I reel off a list of things we could do (cinema, beach, walk, pub etc) he just shrugs and says he doesn't want to do it. The only thing we have in common is the Tv programmes we watch when he does get here and I never really know what to talk to him about.

tenmah

Oh no, I don't know what to say! I suppose the obvious question is why are you with him, but I know that has been asked of you many times and isn't really any of my business.

But I see you as a very intelligent, friendly, person with a great sense of humour - surely being on your own is better than being in such an abusive relationship.

I am sure if one of your friends was in the same situation, you would be telling her to get out of it quickly!

Burlesque_Babe

I don't know why I am still with him, I think a combination of thinking he might change although I know he probably won't and the fear of being alone (and lonely). I agree about friends - I have seen some situations where I really want friends to end a relationship and often they do (examples amongst our love DFW friends) but I don't seem to be strong enough to do it. I can certainly stand up to him now, which he hates whereas years ago I never said anything back and just took it.

As he has laid his cards on the table and said that the reason we have never had any kind of 'relationship' is definitely down to me, this is going to prove it one way or the other. As I have given him opportunities to walk in the past and he's never taken them, I feel that the problem is about him and issues he won't face. In the past he has said it is down to him and has completely shut himself off emotionally and physically from me. But he now says that I am the problem, he thought he could change me and he can't bring himself to touch me.

So time to see really.....