Neighbours driving me mad!!

bestpud

nuttyp wrote: »

i too live in a council house, and have neighbour over the road who 'logs' everyone comings and goings. He writes tot he council every week with issues that like number 5 havent cut there lawn this week ets ets. Ive been reported to the local council, highways, mp, house of commons all because i have to drive over a small peice of grass to enter my drive way. The last 3 tennants have also done this over 20 year period.

It all beggars beleif, he obviously has too much time on his hands, and should be a hobby.

Were waiting for the next report..............

Well, look on the bright side - if ever you were burgled, you'd have a witness!

neneromanova

What was the problem with the pets?

poppyolivia

neneromanova wrote: »

What was the problem with the pets?

I was wondering the same, sounds like it stems from that???

Kazipoo

We were the victims of nasty neighbours. It took four whole years to get the council to believe us, and even then they said we weren't a high enough priority to move. Our neighbour then broke into our house on New Years Eve (a few years back) and assaulted both the hubby and I! He only got cautioned despite "having form". We harassed the council and they got an injunction taken out against him, although unfortunately because he was the primary carer for his mother, he got to stay where he was. The council eventually moved us over 10 months later.

It is a very long and drawn out process, you absolutely must keep diaries, even of the smallest most trivial things. If there is a lapse of over 3 months, the council will consider it over and if you complain again they will open a new file. That is why it took so long for ours to be sorted, our neighbour knew this and was very crafty.

Since we have moved, we have heard that he bullied the entire street, but I can't have sympathy for any of them, because like her other neighbours, none of ours would get involved or stick up for us, we were very much alone. Luckily though, the police believed us, especially when he started phoning them claiming we were drug dealers or money launderers!!!

Stick with it, you will get there, but make sure you keep the file open. Also, apparently CCTV footage cannot be used as evidence unless you fulfill certain criteria!

surfsister

so I also need to keep a log asap. I will start tonight as 2am is very late to be hammering the fire with a poker surely and running up and down stairs!!! (I have posted a few posts up!)

Kazipoo

surfsister wrote: »

so I also need to keep a log asap. I will start tonight as 2am is very late to be hammering the fire with a poker surely and running up and down stairs!!! (I have posted a few posts up!)

Most definitely, but make sure that your council are aware that there is a problem in the first instance. Start a diary now, inform the council if they do not already know, they will send you further information and a diary, keep filling the diary in and most importantly, any major disruptions should be phoned through to them in order for them to keep the file open, plus you should send the diaries back to them at regular intervals, I would say every 10 - 12 weeks, otherwise they will "forget" that you have previously complained, plead ignorant to it and then tell you they will have to start a fresh complaint.

Good luck to anyone who has to go through this, it was probably the most awful four years of our lives, and actually once we moved we thought we all had carbon monoxcide (sp) poisoning because we slept soooooo well for the first time in years!!

elektra-2007

Wow reading some of these I feel almost lucky! The last 2 weeks havent been so bad...which is strange, my friend mentioned the words "calm b4 the storm" but im just hoping not! The pet problem is a long story, but she was encoraging my hens into her garden to amuse her toddler, then her dog attacked them twice. I kept putting bigger fences up, but my gate was opened to let them out, she told me she was feeding them and liked to see them in her garden. I asked her not to allow them as they are a bit thick but do remember where food is and will constantly go to check where they got food from, i.e her garden. But she wouldnt stop, it was really annoying i put up bigger chicken wire, clipped their wings ect but i couldnt prevent them being let out of my garden by a human. After the 2nd attack, she went mad at me saying my hens should not have been out of my garden. I retorted she shouldnt be encouraging them to which she denied even tho we had a conversation just 3 days before with me asking her to stop feeding them. It took me and my lad over 1 1/2 hours to find my hen who was hiding in the bushes scared. I really thought she was going to die that night and me and my lad were in tears. But she was ok but refused to come out of her house. I made the decision they would have to go as I couldnt bear for them to be killed by a domestic dog. She then complained to the council my hens were on her garden and out of control. Probably because she was scared of what her dog had done. Anyway I have a friend with an allotment that took them on and we can still see them. But it puts me off getting anymore pets, as her dog isnt under any control if it escapes it just dosnt respond to them.
SURFSISTER- I really do sympathise with you as its the most awfull sound, and horrible when people are delibratly noisey, im lucky that our stairs are at the otherside of our houses, its the living rooms and chimney breast that are joined, aswell as the bedrooms!
KAZIPOO- well done for persavering and getting moved. She is very up on rukles and laws so im sure she will use every trick in the book. I know my cctv cant be used it was more of a deterent to try stop the gate being opened and things going misssing and other stuff, upto now it has worked!
NUTTYP---wow that is extreme, I just dont know what to say!
DKLS--I like it but 1 id be too scared to do it and 2nd it would just agrevate the situation further.
EVERYONE ELSE-- thank you for your replys its heartning to know im not going mad or being unresonable. Thank You

surfsister

thanks elektra great to have solidarity!!! Unfortunately the chimney breast runs right up to my bedroom and I have nowhere else to sleep!! If it doesn't get better I may have to move house as it's making us quite depressed.

I have started the diary good idea guys!

Kayteehee

Interesting read, tbh i think this could be resolved by speaking to your neighbour, rather than drawing loads more 'official' figures into it, which could make it worse. I don't have any other advice to offer as my own advice isn't working for me, but can sympathise with you and wish you the best of luck.

Its interesting to see as well what people think is acceptable behavior and not.

I have had trouble with my neighbours too. I moved into a mostly council-owned area in July. I'm a female student in my early 20's and i've had problems with depression, had to move home with my parents for a year and now living in a flat my parents bought about three hours from them (we checked the crime rates, asked around etc but did not know how bad the estate is). I live alone and i have bad anxiety problems to start with, but my neighbours make it hell.

Some of the things that have happened - local kids came in my garden started smashing it up, I tried to go and mediate with them - parents came out and called me a 'f***ing pedophile and saying their kids were bored. The four year old is worst, he called me an f***ing divvy, and came into my yard, took all the bottles out the recycling box and smashed them up all over.

All my garden chairs that I got from a lovely lady on Freecycle have been stolen and smashed up all over the back streets (my yard was secure but they broke the fence), my wheelie bin got set on fire and melted to the ground (had to pay £10 to council for a new one - despite having a crime number - they still haven't delivered it and keep getting notes put through my door being threatening about the rubbish in the yard)

I've had eggs thrown at my house, the local kids bang on my door, throw things at my windows etc a few times a week, it gets me totally terrified but i don't even react, except if it gets really bad I call the local police number... they have been out a few times and say they are monitering the situation.

I can't think WHY they do it to me except that i look 'different' to them and seem to have ambitions in my life. It is affecting me a lot but i try and stay at friends houses, it seems to have calmed down over the Christmas period. It's so unfair as well cause I really don't have a lot of money and when i'm having to pay for other people's criminal damage it's just sickening.

If any of you lovely people have any advice to offer me as well as the OP that would be fantastic.

tandraig

oh Kateehee - you are different! you are nice!
Your parents own the flat you say? have you told them about all this?
hmmmmmmm - sounds to me like your nieghbours wont be scared of council or police.
my advice - move out pronto. why should you have to stay at freinds houses because you are scared in your own home?
can you not find student accomodation? houseshare or even someones spare room?
there should be someone at uni you can go to - explain the situation - it must be affecting you hun. which in turn will affect your grades.