Neighbours driving me mad!!

mrcow

elektra-2007 wrote: »

I dont think i explained properley, we have a shared path inbetween our houses. When i pull up in the car they jump upto the window and stand there whilst we walk up the path, then it branches off on to our garden. We just keep our head down now til we get in the garden. I only put up the cctv after a few incidents its in my garden only.

Keep one of these in the car and wear it with the peak pulled down and a pair of sunglasses when you walk up the drive.

chris_n_tj

elektra-2007 wrote: »

I dont think i explained properley, we have a shared path inbetween our houses. When i pull up in the car they jump upto the window and stand there whilst we walk up the path, then it branches off on to our garden. We just keep our head down now til we get in the garden. I only put up the cctv after a few incidents its in my garden only.
As for doing the fire they never did it this late only since we havnt been talking, in the morning he has taken to doing it early.
Not got 6 ft fence in back garden that is another story, I would like them.
I dont own my own house, it is council, the last tenants were forced out by her behaviour.
Thanks for all your comments. Im gona keep myself to myself.
I just went out with my lad and built a snowman coz ive been promising him for ages... I dont ever try to out do my neighbour, i just get on with it.

Hold your head up high and smile sweetly I promise you it works wonders. Good luck

Mojisola

Your neighbours have obviously decided to try to get to you. If their behaviour had been like this since you moved in, it could be just their way of life, but as it's changed since the problem with pets, it's being done deliberately.

You have to just let them get on with it and try not to focus on it yourself. It's only entertaining for them if they can see it's getting to you. If you aren't reacting, they will either find some other victim or will get progressively worse - in which case they will give you evidence that you can use against them.

If they jump up to the window when you get home, just nod and say hello and carry on up the path with your head high. Go out in the garden and play with your lad and ignore them.

The more you focus on their behaviour, the more every little thing they do will get to you. It's not always easy but take a step back from the problem and let them waste their time.

hothothot_3

elektra-2007 wrote: »

I dont think i explained properley, we have a shared path inbetween our houses. When i pull up in the car they jump upto the window and stand there whilst we walk up the path, then it branches off on to our garden. We just keep our head down now til we get in the garden. I only put up the cctv after a few incidents its in my garden only.
As for doing the fire they never did it this late only since we havnt been talking, in the morning he has taken to doing it early.
Not got 6 ft fence in back garden that is another story, I would like them.
I dont own my own house, it is council, the last tenants were forced out by her behaviour.
Thanks for all your comments. Im gona keep myself to myself.
I just went out with my lad and built a snowman coz ive been promising him for ages... I dont ever try to out do my neighbour, i just get on with it.

If you make them realise it is disturbing you that they are watching you - I think that will make them more inclined to keep doing it. You are right to say just to ignore them. Wheres the father? My experience is these type of people only play games with lone females. Are the cameras well hidden? If not, it shows them that you are scared of them. Nothing they have done amounts to crime.....yet....... but there is options about stopping harrassment or antisocial behaviour.

DirtPoorGuy

I fully understand the problems you are having from personal experiences and how you can start to wonder if it is just you being overly sensitive.

Some people are very devious and they will try and annoy their neighbours in subtle ways, but that doesn't mean that local councils are ni!ve to the fact that people do that, they will have seen it all before.

You could contact your local Anti-Social Task Force run by the council, they will advise you that as a first step to reconcilliation you should write a letter to your neighbour voicing your concerns over their behaviour and how it affects your quality of life, the next step is for the council to mediate between you and your neighbour, if that fails they will assess the situation and if they believe she is in the wrong will issue an ASBO against her, this in it's self isn't very effective as I believe they have to issue it 3 times to someone before they can start proceedings to evict.

As for the noise, the council can install monitors in your home to decide if it is excessive, just because it is things like door slamming and shoveling coal outside does not mean they won't give it consideration as a nuisance.

My suggestion is that initially before you do this is to make a big effort to ignore their behaviour, smile and be pleasant when you see them on the street, wave if they are at their window, encourage your son to employ the same behaviour.

Don't attempt to reciprocate their behaviour, this may backfire and you may be the one portrayed as a bad neighbour.

One of two things are likely to happen they will either give up or up the ante when they see their actions are not generating a response from you, this increases the chances of them getting caught when you approach the council.

KEEP A DIARY

This is very important, most councils will ask you to do this, but they tend to act more quickly if you have already started a diary, write down what happened and approximately what time it happened, you may start to see specific patterns emerge, which can make it easier for the council to pinpoint times when they are likely to catch them in the act, it will also be used as evidence against them if the council applies to the court to have an ASBO issued.

Good luck and don't give up hope.

elektra-2007

Im a single person with my lad they are a couple next dooor with a few kids. Luckily I work and go college all week, and most weekends i go out, then I dont have to be in. I know if I was living with someone it wouldnt be half as bad, When I have visitors or my mum stays for a few days its very quiet and normal. But enjoy living alone with my lad.
Il keep my head down, its hard explaining to an 8yr old who cant understand why he gets dirty looks and the v sign when he goes out to play. But thats life.

lrr_2

Just give them a wave everytime they come to the window. Never give in to bullies. And if I felt like really getting back at them I would get my kid a nice loud musical instrument!

Good luck!

hothothot_3

elektra-2007 wrote: »

Im a single person with my lad they are a couple next dooor with a few kids. Luckily I work and go college all week, and most weekends i go out, then I dont have to be in. I know if I was living with someone it wouldnt be half as bad, When I have visitors or my mum stays for a few days its very quiet and normal. But enjoy living alone with my lad.
Il keep my head down, its hard explaining to an 8yr old who cant understand why he gets dirty looks and the v sign when he goes out to play. But thats life.

this makes me very angry :mad:

I feel like turning up there.

very upsetting.

plane_boy2000

You mention that yours is a council house....is your neighbours also a council house?

If what you say about them forcing out the previous residents is known then could you not seek advice from the council? They may side with you as there has been previous issues

emsywoo123

hothothot wrote: »

this makes me very angry :mad:

I feel like turning up there.

very upsetting.

I agree. This was the post from the OP that annoyed me about her neighbours the most.:mad:
I have an awful neighbour at the mo who upsets my DD (6) We have now just made a joke of her between ourselves and called her the "moody moose" which DD finds hilarious as it is a bit rude
We are lucky enough to be moving in a few weeks, but my sympathies to you OP.