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Neighbours driving me mad!!
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If you are council tenants and so are your neighbours and others have told you they forced previous tenants out - then they should be known to the council. complain to them. keep a diary - even trivial incidents can all add up to anti social behaviour.
In the meantime hun - try to make a joke or game of it with your son. reading between the lines of your post - these sound like scary people and i wouldnt want to be next door to them.
take the oneupmanship as a joke! ask your son if you got a garden gnome how long it would be until their garden was full - then yours disappeared! make fun of them in private!
Try not to let them get to you - this is what they want - go out and come home with smiles on your faces. never EVER let them know they annoy you.
And keep a close eye on your possesions. dont ever leave anything out overnight. get good padlocks for the shed etc.
the neighbours also called the police on you - but the police didnt follow up - could be counted as a nuisance call.
hang in there hun. and talk to the other neighbours. get friendly with them is my advice - even if they are scared of them - they may well come to your aid when they know you better. its easier to distance yourself from people you dont know isnt it?0 -
Hi there
I work for my Local Authority and deal with calls like this on a daily basis.
There are things that can be done and seeing as you're a council tenant then there are more options open to you.
Firstly, as already advised, start keeping a diary of events.....times, dates, an outline of what happened.
Secondly, report this to your Tenant Support Officer/Housing Officer, whichever you have there, even if your neighbours own their own home. Your Tenant Service Officer or HA can then back up your information with Environmental Health.
Thirdly, also report to Environmental Health or Public Health & Protection (what it's called here) during office hours and then ask if your Council have an Out of Hours Contact Centre or number you can ring to log any calls that are not within office hours. We do this at out LA, we log calls for first time complaints which then get passed to PH&P Department the next working day, if it becomes an ongoing issue then PH&P will give the complainant a reference number to quote to us when calling OOH, we can then action their call by informing the PH&P Officer that's on call.
The process can be lengthy but is often worth it!!
As I said, that's what we do here. Also use Google to find out if there are any Anti-Social Behaviour Schemes in your area. In certain areas here, tenants are given another number, as well as ours to call, if they experience anti-social behaviour from their neighbours.
They have no right to make you feel uncomfortable in your own home or garden.....they are nothing more than bullies. Pathetic at that for insulting an 8 year old.0 -
Thanks everyone for your replies,somtimes i do question myself and wonder if i am being too sensitive. I am going to start keeping a diary even if things seems trivial, and give it a few more months of just ignoring them and hoping they get bored. I like the idea of playing a game with my lad i suggested the knomes to him he thought it was hillarious, so were off to get some this week, even tho I think knomes are awful!
Thanks Everyone0 -
good luck electra!
if the neighbours dont try to one-up you with the gnomes - you will know its because gnomes annoy them! I just suggested that to take some of the heat out of the situation for your son, if you treat the neighbours as a minor annoyance and point out that they dont act like normal people, hopefully your son wont take their spitefulness too much to heart! and if if gives your son a giggle its worth putting up with plastic gnome or two!
I cannot understand people who act like this towards kids! they need to be taught a lesson!
post back and let us know what happens please - good or bad!0 -
elektra-2007 wrote: »Im wondering what I can do, my neighbours are driving me a little mad!! We used to be friends but fell out over pets(another story), now things are getting worse, they are being delibratly noisy, but not in a way i can complain about just things like banging, slamming cupboard doors, shouting laughing really loud next to the walls,Riddling the fire at 11.30pm and getting coal in (really noisy) when they know we have gone bed around 10.30pm or getting it in at 6am! When we walk up the garden path they stand at the window staring at us. If my lad plays out they stand at the window staring or come in their garden and give him dirty looks till he runs in scared. I put cctv up in my garden because of small things like my lads footballs going missing and i opened up my shed one day to find a mountain of top soil behind the door!! (I cant prove anything) She sent the police to my house because I might be filming her kids! The police were fine when they saw it was only on my garden and said keep it up. I only have 3 neighbours but im at the end so she is my only next door neighbour. The other 2 used to let on but now dont, Ive no idea what she has said but i dont really care. I just want
a peaceful life. She tries to out do or copy everything we do. She will buy bigger but the same christmas lights and outdoor kids toys. Today I made a snowman with my lad she already had 2 in her garden, its the first time weve been at home to do it, she came out and built a bigger one!!! If i cut my grass she will do it an hour later if i change my garden furnitrue around so will she!! I know it sounds petty but i just want to be left alone to live in peace. I dont want to be woken up by their noise or thrown dirty looks, stared at when im in the garden, copied with everything i do. Should I just learn to live with it...is it my problem...or would other people be annoyed by this behaviour?
I really really sypathise with you, i too lived in a council house and i had the neighbour from hell and her son, it was a nightmare, they played loud music at all hours, abused us in the garden, i hated going out and used to wait until she had gone to work before going outside, my grandson was terrified to go out as the son used to abuse him aswell, it ended up the son accused my daughters boyfriend of assaulting him outside our house, it was completely untrue as i was there myself but he had his two mates to back him up and one of his mates mother who lied and said she'd seen it from her house 200 yards away from her bedroom window and unfortunately the police believed them, my dd boyfriend was arrested and charged with common assault, everytime she saw us she laughed it was awful and she did manage to turn a couple of the neigbours against us but the ones that mattered stuck by us, we ended up going to court and the judge threw it out of court saying it was ridiculous and she never wanted to see the sons face in court again, we even overheard there solictor saying to the three lads that there story was ridiculous and after reading the police report he said not one of you has got your story straight. But having said that nothing changed and it all carried on, it only ended when my dd over heard the son telling his girlfriend that they were going to get us out of the house one way or another, i knew it would end up that they would so we took the decision to buy our house as it was the only way we would have a roof over our heads (she had bought hers a couple of years before) we did this all behind her back and i took great pleasure in ripping my rent book up in front of her after it was completed, the look on her face was a picture. two weeks later her house was up for sale, not long after she sold it and moved away, since then through mutal friends ive heard she's moved 4 times in five years because she cant get on with the neighbours but apparently its them not her. I dont really know how to advise you just to let you know i know exactly how you feel, i know these things she's doing may seem trivial and small to others but when your'e going through all this it seems massive and very hard to ignore0 -
Elektra, i hope things work out for you and your little boy. You are taking the right attitude with getting the gnomes etc
Stay strong and dont forget to note everything in your diary!
Mel x0 -
elektra-2007 wrote: »I dont think i explained properley, we have a shared path inbetween our houses. When i pull up in the car they jump upto the window and stand there whilst we walk up the path, then it branches off on to our garden.
There was a saying used in certain parts of leeds, that could be useful in this situation.
Get out of car
You spot them
Belly in, shoulders back, flex your neck muscles.
Put your best Paddington stare on and with as much as venom as you can muster utter the words.........
YOU WANT A PICTURE?0 -
elektra-2007 wrote: »Thanks everyone for your replies,somtimes i do question myself and wonder if i am being too sensitive. I am going to start keeping a diary even if things seems trivial, and give it a few more months of just ignoring them and hoping they get bored. I like the idea of playing a game with my lad i suggested the knomes to him he thought it was hillarious, so were off to get some this week, even tho I think knomes are awful!
Thanks Everyone
I do so sympathise I have the same problem but my neighbours riddle their fire at 2am!!!! They don't work of course and seem to think it is up to them what they do.They also run up and down stairs repeatedly at 2am and lay loud bomng music.
samboette do you think I have any chance of getting them to stop if I involve my local council?
I have spoken to them nicely but they just seem to think I am trying to stop them doing what they want! In a semi I think yu have to be considerate and as we are very quiet I don't think they have any idea what it is like.0 -
bumping this up so it may get replies!! thanks guys0
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i too live in a council house, and have neighbour over the road who 'logs' everyone comings and goings. He writes tot he council every week with issues that like number 5 havent cut there lawn this week ets ets. Ive been reported to the local council, highways, mp, house of commons all because i have to drive over a small peice of grass to enter my drive way. The last 3 tennants have also done this over 20 year period.
It all beggars beleif, he obviously has too much time on his hands, and should be a hobby.
Were waiting for the next report..............BSC member 137
BR 26/10/07 Discharged 09/05/08 !!!
Onwards and upwards - no looking back....0
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