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Savvy_sewing

Merry Christmas EE x

crazy_cat_lady

Merry Christmas EE - hope that you've enjoyed the day

Sun_Addict

Hope all is ok EE and you've managed to have a half decent Christmas Day xx

Here's to a good 2019

Eager_Elephant

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Merry Xmas Everyone!!

Thanks for all your good wishes.

The last week has sped past, trying to organise Xmas in one week is a bit of a nightmare...but the day has been really good. We all had a good time although when STBEXH and DD left I shed a tear - it just felt odd as this year has been different because of the seperation but also because relative passed away in January so he was not with us like he has been for the last 10+ years.

Got Boxing Day at my mums, just a massive family get together for 5 hours so that should be fine and then 27th is my birthday - STBEXH wanted me to go round for him to cook for me :eek::eek:

STBEXH looking the best he has done in a long time, I think he has been heading for a breakdown since we split and finally it culminated in the overdose and now he is on the road to recovery. He has made some small, sly digs about me meeting someone else/dating/in a relationship which I am not but I have managed to ignore the comments and move the conversation on which is easy in front of the kids.
He still doesnt believe that I may have left him for his actions rather than because I met someone else:mad::mad:

Onwards and Upwards - its nearly 2019:j:j

please-let-me-be-lucky

Merry Christmas EE. Glad you’ve managed to enjoy the day.

You share the same birthday as my Mum. Happy birthday for the 27th Xx

Savvy_Sue

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

He has made some small, sly digs about me meeting someone else/dating/in a relationship which I am not but I have managed to ignore the comments and move the conversation on which is easy in front of the kids.
He still doesnt believe that I may have left him for his actions rather than because I met someone else:mad::mad:

I have never been in your situation, so this is just my gut reaction, but I'd be sorely tempted to get him on his own and tell him that if he wishes to pursue that line IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN that you will tell him once more IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN exactly why you left him / asked him to leave, and all the help you have given him since then, and all HE has done since then.

And even if you HAD met someone else, what business of his would that be, although you appreciate his insight that it would not be hard for you to find someone else who would be able to treat you a whole lot better than he ever did, and good luck to him in finding someone who would be half as good to him as you have always been ...

badmemory

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

STBEXH wanted me to go round for him to cook for me :eek::eek:

He has made some small, sly digs about me meeting someone else/dating/in a relationship which I am not but I have managed to ignore the comments and move the conversation on which is easy in front of the kids.

To put it bluntly (my usual stance) what a plonker. Was the attempt actually genuine or an attempt to be able to put you in a bad/your fault light to your children. That was a remarkably rapid recovery.



Both your children are old enough to know that he is being an a*** & what he says is not to be trusted. I suspect your son is under no illusions but it is unfair to your daughter to deny her the truth if SHE is going to be able to have a happy relationship in the future. You really do not want her to be in the same sort of abusive relationship you have been in.


In this sort of situation they either go the same way or go in reverse. My son figured it all out by the time he was 18. He felt he had a choice. The choice he made was to have no "romantic" relationships rather than follow the direction of both his father & paternal grandfather. Believe me this is not a choice you want either of your children to make. I truly regret trying to shelter my son who was much younger than your 2 when this all happened.

WannabeFree

Echo the others EE

Hope you have a lovely Birthday

x

Sun_Addict

Happy Birthday EE xx

apple_muncher

Happy birthday! Hope you get to do things you enjoy today.