Sallyx's Sink or Swim, Swimerdy Swim Diary ;)

Pooky

Glad you had such a good day - sounds like his parents are lovely too which always helps.

And yes - he needs telling and better coming from you than from B - good luck :j

sallyx

I think I might need wine before I make the phone call *gulp*

sallyx

Deed is done, !!!! has hit the fan....

Yes I know it was ultimately him who decided to have the affairs and fcuk up our marriage but he still made me feel like a piece of poo for meeting someone so soon....I mean how could I possibly have a life after him, sure he thought that I would end up a sad and lonely old spinster, always being there for him!

He will now either dissapear off the face of the planet or make my life a misery

tenmah

Well done Sal for telling him - couldn't have been easy

It will be a shock to him because everyone believes you can't find better than them - but you can prove him so wrong!

My ex has moved on and found someone else, it really hurts and yet I don't want to be with him - no wonder men can't understand women, I find it hard myself sometimes!!

postingalwaysposting

sallyx wrote: »

Deed is done, !!!! has hit the fan....

Yes I know it was ultimately him who decided to have the affairs and fcuk up our marriage but he still made me feel like a piece of poo for meeting someone so soon....I mean how could I possibly have a life after him, sure he thought that I would end up a sad and lonely old spinster, always being there for him!

He will now either dissapear off the face of the planet or make my life a misery

He did, he made his bed when he decided to have the affair. You should in NO way feel like poo or anything else for moving on. What did he expect you to do sit in a cupboard until you retire. So what if you met someone now, in a years time or in 7 years time it has nothing to do with him now. I would have thought the divorce proccedings would have made him understand that. You are you, he has no control over you, all he need worry about is Bea... End of! And he can only make your life a misery if you let him if ned be go through mediation/the courts regarding his access to Bea, you shouldn't be made to feel inferior because you are happier than he is

End of Pap's rant... Back to lurking :rotfl:

sallyx

come back and stop lurking Pap...we misssssssssssssssssssssssssss you

sallyx

tenmah wrote: »

Well done Sal for telling him - couldn't have been easy

It will be a shock to him because everyone believes you can't find better than them - but you can prove him so wrong!

My ex has moved on and found someone else, it really hurts and yet I don't want to be with him - no wonder men can't understand women, I find it hard myself sometimes!!

No i was bricking it...but after today I just knew I had to do it. Seeing B so happy and having the life today that ive always dreamt of made me just think today is the day its put to bed and over

Pooky

:T Well done you!

I meant to ask - have B's night terrors stopped since the split?

sallyx

Yep Pooky she's not had one since ex left...it was around 2-3 times a week before then! Says it all doesn't it!

beanielou

sallyx wrote: »

Yep Pooky she's not had one since ex left...it was around 2-3 times a week before then! Says it all doesn't it!

Sadly it does.

Does he owe you any more money apart from maintenance?