Hypno's "me, me, me, me, me," diary.....

Surfbabe

still in shock at your news Hypno - I've been there, done that, got the tee-shirt albeit in 1982. Have now been married nearly 25yrs so sometimes these things are meant to be BUT it doens;t hurt any the less or make it right.

I used to cry my eyes out in the shower ! noone could see or hear me then.

Anyway big big hugs from here - haven;t been on much myself as trying to deal with emotions of what is happening to my mum.

take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

hypno06

InaPickle wrote: »

This all seems very quick,

Indeed it is!! For me that is - it is less than 2 weeks ago since he told me.....but for him it has already dragged on too long......he knew some time ago that he wanted to go

taxi73

That's absolutely awful Hypno..that he'sknown for some time.
The only consolation(I know there isn't one really) is that he left you in a position where you would be able to manage financilly and not lose your house.
I am so so upset for you and totally admire your being so strong in all this.You are absolutely amazing and he will be very sorry about his deciscion once he realises what he has done!!!

Keeping_Motivated

hypno06 wrote: »

Indeed it is!! For me that is - it is less than 2 weeks ago since he told me.....but for him it has already dragged on too long......he knew some time ago that he wanted to go

And didn't think to tell you or give you chance to work it out!? :mad: Sorry thats not helpful just makes me mad when people say they've known a long time but decide not to tell the person who should know

Pooky

Having been the one on the otherside (so to speak) I know that it's hard to see the other persons perspective - I'd spent weeks deciding I was going and then one day I just upped and went.....I didn't consider how my ex would feel until a few months down the line when I realised just how much of a bolt out of the blue it was for him. The decision to leave doesn't come lightly.

So whilst you're hurting, the kids are hurting and the whole world is upside down, he'll be hurting too. The fact that you've both been able to keep it all amicable during that time is amazing.

(sorry - rambling there)

InaPickle

hypno06 wrote: »

Indeed it is!! For me that is - it is less than 2 weeks ago since he told me.....but for him it has already dragged on too long......he knew some time ago that he wanted to go

Oh Hypno, I wish Manchester and Norwich were nearer. I'm so sorry. *Pickle gives Hypno a big, vinegary hug* I wish I could bring you a bottle of wine and ear to bend in real life. xoxoxox

Best of luck getting up for work in the morning. You have my utmost admiration as I couldn't do it. xoxoxox

beanielou

hypno06 wrote: »

Indeed it is!! For me that is - it is less than 2 weeks ago since he told me.....but for him it has already dragged on too long......he knew some time ago that he wanted to go

Maybe he should have shared it then then.
Wonder what made him crystalise his thoughts.

hypno06

Pooky wrote: »

So whilst you're hurting, the kids are hurting and the whole world is upside down, he'll be hurting too.

Oh, I know he didn't make the decision lightly - and although I am very hurt about the fact he didn't talk to me about it all before, (despite me asking some very "pointed" questions, I hasten to add, as I knew something was wrong), I know that he has not made a rash decision, but that it is something that he just needs to do.

InaPickle wrote: »

Best of luck getting up for work in the morning. You have my utmost admiration as I couldn't do it. xoxoxox

When you have to keep a roof over your childrens heads, you find those reserves of inner strength, and do what you need to do, even if it is nothing like what you WANT to do.....

hypno06

beanielou wrote: »

Maybe he should have shared it then then.
Wonder what made him crystalise his thoughts.

Oh I know, beanie, and I have asked plenty of times why the f**k he didn't want to talk to me about it, and have made it quite clear that I am not overly flattered by the fact......

And as for what made him do it now? I have no idea. He did say he was hoping to "hang on" until the debt was paid. Gee, thanks!

WorkingHardDFW

Hi H

So sorry to hear your news. I am so inspiried by the way you have held it together for everyone. You are amazing.

No wonder you've not been sleeping etc.

I can't offer much pratical support other than to say that you will come through this a much stronger person.

lots of virtual hugs coming your way.......:wave: