Hypno's "me, me, me, me, me," diary.....

hypno06

Oh he has not taken anything that I haven't offered/agreed to, and we are trying to do things "fairly" as neither of us has any more money than the other with which to buy new furniture and cover the cost of things etc.

So, for example, our two biggest most expensive items are our bed, and our sofa......so we get one each - the sofa is too big for his flat, so it makes sense for me to keep the sofa, and for him to beg/borrow/buy a new one himself, but in return, he takes the bed, and I buy a new one of those.

Also, he has taken the beds from DDs room and the spare room, which actually make bunk beds - ok, so it means that I buy DD a new bed, but then she has been asking for a new bed for years......and also it means that the bunk beds are at his flat ready for the children to visit!

He has also taken 2 chests of drawers from the bedroom, because I will have the benefit of a large built in wardrobe for my own storage, and has taken some other bits that he inherited from his grandpa etc.

And so on, and so forth.......its all ok as far as that sort of thing goes.

Nargleblast

Maybe once your former OH has removed all his stuff from the house you can redecorate the whole place? To your taste this time, go totally wild with colour schemes and furnishings (within the confines of your finances of course) and make that house yours and the kids. Then forge ahead with your new life in new surroundings.

Kittikins

Hi Hypno, so sorry to read your news and well done on keeping practical and sorting out the finances (I did similar when my ex burgered off leaving me unemployed, £150k mortgage and a 4 month old DD....I ensured finances were sorted as soon as I could, grrr).

Others have written far more eloquently than I can, but I want to add my empathy and cyber hugs, you're an amazing woman coping with one of the most horrible things that can ever happen.

Errrm, what are you and DD sleeping on for the next couple of weeks before your beds are delivered? Hope you're not all invading DS and bunking in with him!!!

EssexHebridean

Oh hell - just caught up with everything Hypno - what can I say, there really are no words..... What I WILL say though is that you are one of the most together, and best equipped people imagineable to be dealing with a carp situation like this. Remember though, you don't have to be Superwoman all the time - if you need to cry, cry. If you need to scream and shout, then scream and shout til the rafters rattle, and if you need to take a glass of wine to a long hot bath filled with bubbles, and lounge in it (the bath, not the glass of wine! :rotfl:) with a good book until the water goes cold, then do that too. Your "me time" is all the more important now - as much as the kids are your number one priority, you need to make sure that you don't neglect yourself now more than ever.

Big hugs (not dodgy ones) coming your way Hypno - well done for being so strong and organised and above all being such a fantactic Mum to your kids. You know where we all are when you need to let off steam. xxx

beanielou

You are much more dignified than me.
I argued about everything:o:rotfl:

angelaf_3

Hope your not having to sleep on the floor. I think your right about February being a new start. I decided on Thursday that what with the snow and my sabatoged diet (nothing to do with my lack of willpower lol) that Feb was going to be the new Jan.

I agree with everyone it is so important to take care of you.

Big hugs

Pooky

Hypno - hugs coming your way - what a pants situation.....

I have a great deal of admiration for how you've handled this so far.

It's not going to be easy but it will be a challenge and we all know how well you do with those.

Just remember that you're allowed to hurt.

x

hypno06

Pooky wrote: »

Just remember that you're allowed to hurt.

x

Oh I am hurting, believe me

InaPickle

hypno06 wrote: »

Well, I have discovered something - that without any furniture, my house is actually quite big!

I must remember this fact when I start to allow clutter back in.......

hypno06 wrote: »

Thanks, nargle.....once I get the new mortgage completed, and can do a "proper" SOA, I will probably start a new diary, by which point I will be a couple of weeks down the line and ready to see things with new focus.

In the meantime, you'll all have to put up with me on this one!

I was just getting used to this one! *Pickle runs over to her favourite chair and sits down with a plop*

Sorry to hear that he's gone, Hypno. This all seems very quick, although dragging it out probably helps no-one. May the de-cluttering be another small silver lining to the raincloud. xxx

Miss_Bez

Sorry to hear your news Hypno x

PS. It's okay to be undignified/scream/shout etc from time to time.
PPS. Perhaps this could be a new use for the walk-in wardrobe.... close the door behind you and the clothes will muffle the noise...!

Seriously though, please take care of yourself as best you know how.