Hypno's "me, me, me, me, me," diary.....

sallyx

I can see where you are coming from and I would probably have done the same Hypno as the result of him fukcing up will effect you and the children.

Not that you have to answer but does taking on the debt benefit you against the equity in the property? I mean should he really be able to walk away without paying any of the debt

Keeping_Motivated

Dignified springs to mind again...well done you.

They say acceptance is a hard stage to get to with change but you seem to be very accepting of this is how is has to be, so surely thats a good start.

hypno06

sallyx wrote: »

Not that you have to answer but does taking on the debt benefit you against the equity in the property? I mean should he really be able to walk away without paying any of the debt

It is a little complex, but involves "adding back in" the money from my dad's estate that I paid towards the debt, then offsetting that against the equity in the property and the debts, which would otherwise be divided between us.

But basically, it works out fairly that I take on the remaining debt and the mortgage, but I get the equity in the house in return......he just so happens to owe nothing, but gets nothing either.

sallyx

Thats good then Hypno, well not sure good is the word but as long as he isn't getting off scott free iyswim

macgirl

Glad you got through today hypno, I'm sure it was extremely difficult

I can't add anything else to the brilliant and supportive posts you have already received - no less than you deserve.

Hope you can now find some peace. Love to you, DS and DD x

Karmacat

You can tell, hypno, we're feeling very protective towards you
xxx

spud30

Oh Hyp, I'm so sorry hun.

You seem to be managing really well, but if there's anything any of us can do, please let us know chick

Keeping_Motivated

Karmacat wrote: »

You can tell, hypno, we're feeling very protective towards you
xxx

Exactly....its hard not to when we have read so much of what Hypno has shared on here and how hard she has worked to get to her goals that I presume they both shared and now he has shifted the goals and planned something else :mad: I'm not as dignified as Hypno

doodledo_2

Hypno I have just caught up with your news and wanted to send you some massive hugs. I know they mean little now but they are all I can do in this virtual world.

As someone who has been through similar I know how you must be feeling and how hard this time will be. I am sure it is harder for you as your children are older, I was fortunate my DD was too young to understand the situation.

You are a strong and wonderful women and I know that you will get through this and that you will continue to be the fantastic mother that you have always shown to be to your children.

I couldn't ever imagine feeling like I do now after having lost a 17 year relationship, but time is a healer and I know I am a stronger person now than I was back then.

We are all here for you xx

macgirl

Double_Trouble wrote: »

Mac please don't stop posting I think the comments made on the "other thread" were way out of order I appreciate your input :A

DTxx

Thanks very much DT - that means a lot