Hypno's "me, me, me, me, me," diary.....

InaPickle

Holy carp, Hypno, I wasn't expecting that! :eek: I'm really sorry. Many, many congratulations on keeping it together so well so far, though. :T Vent here when you need to and if desired.



Big wet, vinegary kisses,


Pickle
xoxox

taxi73

I'm glad that they seem okish and glad that your DH didn't just leave it all for you to tell the children.It was a good idea showing the kids his flat as well as must have put their minds at ease a bit..
Still very hard though after a lot of years.Being a fantastic Mum though you have brought two very well behaved and grounded kids up.

hypno06

InaPickle wrote: »

Big wet, vinegary kisses,

Thank you - I think :rotfl:

Taxi - we have been married for almost 20 years - together since I was 15.....so it is certainly something that is going to take some getting used to But get used to it is exactly what we will all do...

InaPickle

hypno06 wrote: »

Thank you - I think :rotfl:

Taxi - we have been married for almost 20 years - together since I was 15.....so it is certainly something that is going to take some getting used to But get used to it is exactly what we will all do...

I know you can't think like this now, but it won't all be bad: think of all those times you've had to consider OH in a decision, or do/not do something you haven't wanted to. Now you will be able to make just about whatever decision you like.

A small silver lining, I know, but at least it's not all raincloud...:o

Keeping_Motivated

You're right you've all got alot to get used to after 20 years but err don't mean to be flippant but he is going to have to get used to not having his money fairy that does everything financial for him and I'm sure that is going to be a shock after living with the amazing Hypno!!

Karmacat

I am so, so sorry to hear this news - I just never imagined it would be this. I remember you saying you've been together since you were 15 .... more than usually, then, this is a *terrible* situation.

boredofbeingathome wrote: »

I know you will get through it and well done on having secured all the the things that needed securing.

I can't add anything other than you have all your priorities right, children first then house and debts. Take care of yourselves. xxx

Absolutely the right priorities. Taking care of the admin details can provide a bit of relief from the pain, of course....

hypno06 wrote: »

Thank you so much for your lovely messages. It has been really hard not to post all of this in the last couple of weeks, but I really needed to ensure there was no way of the children finding out via a third party, or cyberspace.

Of course you had to do this - I just can't imagine what you've been going through the last couple of weeks. I'm glad you've been able to say it now, for your own sake.

pania

Hi sweetheart.

Just want to add my hugs to the many that you are receiving. The hypno that I know is strong, resiliant, practical and loving. The mini hypnos that I know are likewise especially master hypno. Life will change, it will hurt it will go up and down but allow yourself to concentrate on "hypno" and on grieving.

You are my friend, you were there for me when i went through an extremely tough time and I am there for you whenever you need. I'll get over asap but until then be kind to yourself. xxx

hypno06

Thank you P x
:kisses3:

Karmacat

Just thinking .... I'm so glad you've got your own set of friends, as well as couple friends, and your own interests, even .... I've just seen what KM wrote about not being his money fairy now - and ye gods, thats one more thing that'll change but maybe not change so much at first either, because you share the children. I'm really shocked at this....

I hope you don't mind if I share a family story with you: remember when I met you and Pania a couple of years ago? And I met an uncle and aunt the next day who lived in Norfolk? They did something similar, a bit later in life, actually - he even married somebody else and had a daughter with her - but came back to his first wife. No matter the happy ending for some other people, tho, the pain is there for you right now. I just keep repeating myself - I am so, so sorry you're going through this.

hypno06

The money fairy has allowed him to walk away free of all debt.....thereby starting with a clean sheet and the words "if you EVER get yourself into debt........."

The money fairy has also done his budgets for him, and pointed out that there is no need for him to get himself into a muddle as long as he keeps a close eye on things.

In return, he has started a spending diary, set up his standing orders and direct debits for the first week after payday, and signed up for online banking......wonders will never cease.......remember, this is the guy who had to ring me to ask which card to pay for petrol on **where's that sarcastic rolling eyes smiley when he is needed**

I truly hope that he is able to stay on track, and in all honesty he should be able to do so from the situation he is in. He won't be well off, and he doesn't earn a huge amount, but I have made sure that things will be manageable for him. After all, if he gets himself in a muddle, it will be the children who suffer too, and they are my priority in all this......plus, he has worked incredibly hard and given up a lot too over the last few years and I wouldn't want that to be in vain.